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The problem of my life.
by niceFarm8679
Last post
 18 hours ago
...See more My family got divorced and I am two years and until now I can't forgive the person who was the reason for their marriage. But I don't have more words to say, but those who have gone through the same experience, I wish they would tell me what to do, because I don't know how to concentrate on any need of thinking, and I became very sensitive and cry easily from accumulations.
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Is this normal?
by drzombienoodles
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I want to know if I’m being too sensitive and this is normal in families or if there serious underlying emotional pain with my parents. my mother told me that because she is my mom and gave birth to me, I cannot be upset with her about anything ever and I should just bite my tongue all the time. Is that normal? my mother has also insulted me (called me a *** for wearing a cleavage showing tank top, etc) and then said it doesn’t count as an insult because she was just messing around. Is that normal? my father said I would be an idiot if I quit the job I have that I hate because it’s a good job and I should keep it then transfer to different locations. That’s his dad advice. Is that normal? my mother also says I’m too sensitive, argumentative, and need to get over everything. She’s never apologized to me ever in her life. Is that normal? keep in mind, I’m an adult with my own income living by myself. Are these normal things in family and am I just being sensitive when they are messing around?
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What do I do?
by creamferret
Last post
 December 18th
...See more I'm not sure if I posted another one earlier, if didn't pop up but I just wanted to let everything that has been weighing on my mind now. My parents used violence to discipline me as a child, as young as when I was just in daycare, I still vividly remember my dad hitting me when I was around 4, it was traumatizing to recap on. Well, earlier, my mom kicked my stomach (which hurts since like yesterday cause of some issues with digestion??) and made me choke on a wet towel she uses for wiping out counters and table, cause I asked her if we were gonna do the project (which involves parents) since I need to pass it. Well, I don't know why but she found it offensive and started scolding me, saying on how they put me in a prestigious school on a scholarship and yet in still acting like a brat. She went on and hit me a few times, doing it again if I tried screaming for help. She calmed down for a while and asked me fro an apology, which I said "why would I apologize first when you're the one who hit me?" And she said "who taught you that? Your teachers?" And she started to subtly insult them which I don't support for obvious reasons. I can't tell it to my relatives either because for all I know, they won't believe me, especially my uncle. He saw what my parents would do to me and he wouldn't even stand up to protect me, not to mention his gluttony made him eat most of the foods I stock up when things turn for the worst (which is when my parents scold me and starve me) She's now trying to starve me of some sorts and did not try to take on an apology. I'm sorry if my rant is too long and if it is missing some details, which I don't really remember anything else considering I'm bawling my eyes out rn. I'll try to report this to my school the next time I have a chance to do so.
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Having an issues
by SweetSugarBoost
Last post
 December 18th
...See more My sister is 12. When things don't go her way, she gets petty and upset. Today, she took one of my figurines and did something with it. I can't find it and it's one that doesn't fall (and if it does it's usually on my bed). I know the youngest didn't take it because he tells us that he did it once we notice. She on the other hand will lie until it's about forgotten and will slip up on it. I did confront her and told her that I do not like that. That it's not nice not right for her to do that just because she's mad and didn't get her way. Bringing up the phrase "Treat people how you want to be treated". I'm genuinely very upset and disappointed because I trusted them to not touch my stuff or do me dirty like that since I don't do that to them either. They know I don't mind it as long as they ask or tell me and put it back. I make sure to do the same. At the moment, I'm letting my anger settle and I'll retalk with her another time. What more can I do, especially to not escalate the situation?
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The Importance of Family
by delightfulUnicorn38
Last post
 December 17th
...See more               Everyone grown up in a family knows in their deep heart what can offer to him, lucky people have happy stable family, even an unhappy family was important too for those reasons  offering unconditional love for being a member of a family you don't need to prove anything, gives you strength and support to face difficulties, providing companionship and a sense of belonging, helps you build self-esteem; gives you a sense of security and stability, and Family teaches you moral values far away from home, the first thing you will miss is your family .                                     
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family and holidays
by delightfulUnicorn38
Last post
 December 17th
...See more In holidays most families spend time together by exchanging visits every time as a regular tradition trying to make some good memories, enjoy the sense of belonging, pass cultural values, keep all members connected Holidays have the same character but every family tries to celebrate in their own way, which gives everyone a special soul.  Here are some good ideas and activities for you and your family to share during the holidays _ starting from collecting information about the origin of those special days; the first stories, and the reason for committing every year to celebrate. _Checking the traditions of celebrating and your own beliefs and personal values, including the ceremony, dishes, and clothes, add ways to bring joy and peace to the family, and maintain the quality of the relationships. Some random fun traditions start with cleaning, decorating, playing games, visiting relatives, taking pictures, and sharing memories, you can add some or skip others as you want. 
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Caregiving ups and downs
by CDanielle
Last post
 December 15th
...See more Hi there! I take care of my blind father with dementia and my wheelchair bound mother, all by myself. They can do a lot for themselves still, amazingly, yet needless to say Im stressed. I need my own job too, but no time. They take care of my needs for now. I have pretty severe anxiety so its not like Im one of those lucky people who are energizer bunnies with a gusto for life, though I do love my life. I am trying and it is my kitties, my fur babies, that keep me going when it gets hard. I so much wish to find others who are in or have been in, similar situations. Thank you for listening. :-)
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Is it me?
by Kiara328
Last post
 December 12th
...See more is it me or is my children dad weird? I asked if he could get them the weekend so I can have a little fun.. (we’re not together and I barely go out, I’m always with my children) I said I’ll make food for them so they can have something to eat or whatever.. he tells me that I need to have clothes with them and if they don’t have clothes with them, he’s not going to get them.. ( I’m a single mother, struggling to make ends meet, I don’t get child support nor do I ask him for help because when I do, he never has it or he has something to do) when I do send clothes, I never get them back and he always say he doesn’t have them
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Dealing with disappointment towards a mother
by energeticPrune260
Last post
 December 9th
...See more My mother has been in an on-and-off relationship for years. At first, I was happy for her since she had been single for a long time before meeting him. I overlooked the fact that he didn't seem like a responsible person; he had been in jail for driving under the influence, and it was suspicious that there were times when I didn't see him for days or even weeks. I minimized the situation, telling myself that his job required him to be away sometimes. However, that was not the case. My mother and I discovered that he was living with another woman to whom he was giving money instead of paying child support for his child. We found this out when the woman showed up at our house one day looking for him, mistakenly thinking he lived alone. We find out about the latter, when we received a letter from the police department or the court notifying us that he was not paying child support. After some time, he continued to go back to this other woman, and my mother's mother-in-law even advised her to leave his belongings at that woman's house. My mother considered ending the relationship, but in the end, she didn't. He returned after serving time in jail for hitting that woman. She believed he wouldn't come back to her, so she allowed him to stay at our place. However, after the other woman came looking for him twice and after multiple fights between my mother and him, she finally took his belongings and left them at that woman's house. Even though she remained in contact with him instead of blocking him like I suggested, I held onto the hope that I wouldn’t have to see him again. Unfortunately, that hope didn't last long. Months later, he knocked on our door late at night while my mother was sleeping because she had work the next day. She woke up and came to my room to tell me it was him and asked me to open the door. I was infuriated with her because I wanted her to ignore him or tell him that if he didn't leave, she would call the police. I refused to open the door, which led her to go and open it herself. I am once again disappointed in her. After years of being in this situation, she still doesn’t listen to anyone. I wish she had more self-respect and could stand up for herself, but I don’t think that will ever happen because she has always been the type of person to let others walk over her without taking action. I don't know how to cope with watching someone I care about treat herself like this.
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Family
by PeggyMeghan111
Last post
 December 4th
...See more My mum and my siblings are the one supposed to care for me but whenever I ask for help they are not able to support me
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Are we done?
by cc415
Last post
 December 1st
...See more As I am typing this, I am laying in my childhood bed at my parents' house with my daughter sleeping in a playpen beside me. How have I let my husband bully me into thinking we are the ones that need to leave our home? This is definitely not where I pictured myself at nearly 30 years old. I feel like I don't even know who I married anymore. The words he said right before I left with our dogs and daughter keep echoing in my ears, "I think we are done, we are just not working out." What the actual f***? My heart is racing. This man who I devoted 7+ years to and have a 1+ year old daughter with thinks he can just up and decide we are done after we moved into a new house 2 weeks ago? What am I missing here? Just before I decided on leaving and spending the night elsewhere, we got home from a Christmas Tree Farm . What did he say as we parked in the garage? He said "This was a *** day." Are we done? I didn't think after 5 years of being together and 2+ years of marriage we would be calling it quits so soon, but maybe we are done? Maybe I am done? For additional context, right before this, we were talking about jobs I am applying for. I had to resign from my previous position due to health issues that required a major abdominal surgery a few months ago. Our daughter is in daycare two days a week starting a couple of months ago, but she has gotten sick twice already in the last two months so that means she has been home sick with me every other two weeks for the past two months. We are fortunate to have a subsidy for childcare, but that only lasts if I am able to find a 30+ hour position by the end of this month. I have a PhD and I haven't been able to land a role yet after job hunting for 3 months with some of my job hunting time being impacted by our daughter being ill. I have contract work coming up, but it doesn't start until late January/early February. I am not a stranger to service positions, so I am going to apply to some I have had my eye on; they have flexible working hours so I can still take care of our daughter the days she is not in daycare. I had mentioned applying to the service role many months ago to my husband and he was less than supportive saying things like, " you should be able to do better. " On top of all this negativity, since our daughter was born, he has been glued to his phone. I have mentioned that it bothers me how often he is on his phone while he is supposed to be bonding and spending time with our daughter. He couldn't even put his phone down for 5 minutes today to watch her while I dug my boots out of a moving box. In those 5 minutes, she managed to drench her only holiday outfit in dog bowl water because he was too busy watching a YouTube video. Her only holiday outfit was drenched right before we were going to take family photos all because he couldn't put his phone down for 5 minutes. My husband's occupation is stressful, the hours are long and unpredictable, but I am tired of it being his excuse for not being present for our daughter, being unsupportive towards me, and the root of his pessimistic attitude. These past few months he appears withdrawn, depressed, and just unhappy. I have been working on myself by talking to my personal therapist for the past few months every other week. Meanwhile he hasn't talked to his own counselor for at least 6 months, with no excuse or reason. It feels like he doesn't want to put the effort in anymore. He even tried helping me pack my bag as I left the house with our daughter and dogs as if to say "good riddance." Is this the end of our marriage? Maybe? I think I personally might be done. How do I take a stand? Is it too late? I never wanted this life for our daughter.
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I don’t know what to do
by brightIdea8924
Last post
 November 30th
...See more I feel completely lost. I have been with my husband for 10 years and we had our first baby girl last year. He was always affectionate and loving until we got married and it's like a switch turned in him and he has become lazy and only seems to care about himself. I have moved all over the country for him for his work which I enjoyed but it's also made it very difficult to make friends and when we had our daughter that became clear that I was completely alone. He didn't want to get up when I told him I needed help in the morning (I'm talking 9am not 3 am) even thought he doctors told me to take it easy from a complication I still did all of the laundry, dishes and cleaning. Things have only gotten worse. He is now in school so he switched to a part time job. I will give him that he worked until 11 some nights and has school from 9-3 4 days a week. But I work a full time job while being the primary care taker for out child and I picked up and extra job a few days a week plus donate plasma for some extra cash. I still do all of the household work even if he is home he doesn't even offer to help, like he will watch me do the dishes and go into the living room and each Tv. That's all he seems to do if he is home is sit on the *** couch and watch TV. If I need him to watch the baby bc I am working or something he sits and watched tv vs playing with her and then gets annoyed when she cry's at all. If I try to bring any of this up it's always a "my like is harder, I'm busy, I'm never home, ets" there is always some excise about how my life is so much easier than his. This is what really got me and I know it is so selfish but I got him a Christmas gift he has always wanted off of fb marketplace. Since we are struggling for money a little while he is in school I made sure to save up some cash and it was about 60$. My parents are always very generous at Christmas and always very generous at Christmas and asked what we wanted and I was so excited because I never get gifts and was excited to have something new but he decided we will need money (which we do since we have some unexpected medical bills coming up) so now we are just getting cash for Xmas. This would be fine and I know it's selfish but now I guess that means he isn't getting me a gift either. I always try to get him really meaningful and useful gifts and I have gotten nothing. Last Xmas he just got me a visa gift card bc he "didn't know what I would want". I also found out he is spending money on juuls and he does not think I know but like I said I do the cleaning so I find them and he has the charger in his backpack. I just don't feel any kind of love or affection from him at all and when I try to tell him that he gets annoyed. Like all he cares about is football and complaining about whatever he saw on the internet. If I try to tell him something he changes the coco back to what he was saying and if I don't pay 100% attention to him then I'm the bad guy and it turns into a fight. Thave no one to talk to or hang out with and I am just so lost.

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