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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 September 30th
...See more Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 July 26th
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
lonlieness
by determinedZebra820
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more I dont know how to cope being alone all the time and isolating 
Frustration with making friends.
by tryingtosurvive2024
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Emotionally I feel that it is time for me stop trying to make friends.  Stop trying to reach out.  I'm 45 years old and whatever I'm doing isn't working.  In my younger days reaching out to people and keeping a good attitude about it wasn't so hard.  There was always "hope" in the air.  But I just keep getting older and my opportunities have only decreased.   I find it odd how I try to reach out to people, say nice things, and while I might get a "thank you" or something like that.  The small spark doesn't get a fire started.  For some reason it just goes out.  I have had to spend a lot of time looking into myself, trying to figure out what could be wrong with me.  One of my theories is, back in 2001 I was diagnosed with "Mixed Personality Disorder".  If you look it up, it is term that is kinda hard to define.  I think there is something about me, that people don't feel like getting close too.  It doesn't even matter if I got a good heart or not.  It doesn't matter if I'm kind.  It doesn't matter how many nice things I do.  It doesn't matter how good of a listener I am.  It doesn't matter where I go, or whom I'm around.  Something about me turns people off.  It is like the creator of the universe, decided to make me like this, and there is nothing I can do to change it.  The more I think about this, the more sad and hopeless I feel.
Need someone
by inspi02
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I'm just too tired of feeling too much
Trigger Warning* - Fertility & Life
by awsomeml
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more This year, I lost my aunt in March. My mom had colon cancer and lost half of her colon and then turned around to get an unrelated uterine cancer which led to her having a hysterectomy. I was checked for colon cancer, and I don’t have it but now I need to get checked for uterine cancer, which is scary because I already have adenomyosis and I'm not sure if I'm going through pre-menopause. I'll be 39 in a month. In the middle of all of this, my ex-boyfriend of three years decided he just wants to be friends because he doesn’t want kids. Never mind all the testing I went through to see if I'm "not" fertile for him, which I found that I am & just have a low egg count. Recetly I was about to go on a date and the guy said he didn’t want to make things serious because he needs to know for sure if I can have kids. I was in bed crying all weekend. For the last two years, I had a boss who would always belittle me and recently she got let go so now we’re all trying to relearn our jobs because she never really trained us. I recently had a job interview and was suppose to have an interview for another position this morning and had to reschedule due to my mental turmoil. I feel like every time I try to do what's best for me, people feel the need to give me more grief about my life's choices. I dunno anymore, just lost. 
Fear of time is running out
by Mezmer
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I'll be 40 in a few months and I think that's highly contributing to some of the problems I've been having. For the last several months, I've been more emotional than I've ever been. Ordinarily, I'm not an overtly emotional person but feel them deeply inside. Now it feels like my internal damn broke and I'm struggling.  I'm more sad, angry, depressed, lonely and isolated than I've ever been. I think a lot of this is contributed to my feeling of time's running out for me to be happy. I've had a rough life with the bad outweighing the good drastically. Now that I'm almost 40, I guess I feel like it may never happen when I just breathe and live a happy, loving, semi-peaceful life.  Is this common approaching 40?
Friendless
by Naturepixie81
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I am 43 and I don’t have any friends. I lost all friends when I left my home town in 2021😢
Name 1 positive thing that you did today for yourself
by Hopey9831
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Hey!  I'm back.... ha ha, after a long hiatus.  Anyhow, the blues got to me and a bit of anxiety here and there and everywhere.   Thank you everyone for your participation in the previous post of 'Name 1 positive thing that happened to you'. As the 1 positive thing that happened to you is kind of passive and that you don't have any control over what happens to you, I'd like to start "Season 2" of the "Name 1 thing" series with 'Name 1 positive thing that you did today for YOURSELF' and this places full control in your hands.  This way you can choose to focus on yourself to love and care for yourself a little bit more today.   Once again, let me start the ball rolling.  I've read a chapter of the book by Howard Marks ; 'The most important thing' to expand my knowledge. I haven't been reading consistently and am always distracted by many other distractions hence, this is, I feel, the 1 positive thing I did for myself today.  Feel free to blabber.... 😀
Name 1 positive thing that happened to you today
by Hopey9831
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Hi ya everyone.  In the midst of all the challenges we face in life, sometimes, we cannot help but think in 1 direction ; negative or down.  It's tough I guess, to see things from another perspective, but this is the precise reason why we need to change our focus from the negative to neutral and hopefully, positive ultimately.   I hope this post can gently pivot your ingrain negative perspective, by just asking you for 1 positive thing that happened to you today.  Come and write in every day, that 1 positive thing.  Let's cheer and support our fellows, by liking, hearting their list.  May the force be with you today and every day to come.   
Almost there.
by Oxatnik
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Hi! I’m not quite 35 yet (turning 33 soon) but I’d love to join this community (I haven’t found one for 30 & over) if it’s alright with everyone. I feel too old for the 20 & Over group and too ‘young’ for the 50 & Over. If there is a 30 & Over group and I somehow missed it, please point me in the right direction. Thank you all! ♥️ * Oxa
Things to do to feel better
by Teianne
Last post
 Saturday
...See more I often have a cynical attitude when it comes to things I hear to do to feel better. There may be something to it, though. I have being going through a "low.". I vacuumed my car yesterday and did a simple watercolor painting. I also cut one of the dog's nails. I am sure that does not sound like a lot to some people but I sincerely felt peace. My mind was quiet and I felt peace. I already started feeling better when I vacuumed my car. The little accomplishments are not so little to a lot of us. Let's celebrate them! To get out of bed, shower, brush my teeth, and get dressed when I have nowhere to be is an accomplishment to me. Let's celebrate ourselves!
Tired
by Pinkr9se
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Hi everyone, hope all is well and looking forward to the weekend. I just wanted to talk about how I feel overwhemingly numb. Like I can acknowledge when good or bad things are happening around me, to others and to myself but it's like I don't feel anything. I do display joys, sorrows and concern but it's mostly for the benefit of others. I would often care about topics like world peace, justice, envirinment. I think I feel helpless about everything including my own life. Also, I have been getting sick often with a flu, not sure if that has something to do with it.
Boundaries
by Lenaye8
Last post
 Saturday
...See more one thing that sometimes is hard to enforce yet is hugh key needed for mental health and clarity. Last night me and my sister set a boundary. Mine hands down is if I am sleepy do not ask me to come outside, my innerg is low due to lack of sleep since my days have become longer with studying. Take that into cnsideration that my time frame now is different than before. My leisure is when I give my self that outside of my motherly duties. That our kids are into two diff age groups so follow suit. Since my sister is older/ has more freedom now to explore life I told her go out and enjoy ya life frfr. If I do go out wye have to be fully awake or have my own funds to get home. Right now I am still securing a consistent job while doing yoga gigs. It is the slow pace start right now, so I do not burn out. We both have to be mindful of how our life is flowing now. That is the part my sister tends to miss when we talk. *Exhales* the big difference is she has a car and I am saving for mine. My days are longer on foot/metro so my body pushes out more innerg than being in a car. Yes my health is great yet my feet hurt!! Eyem glad we had that talk cuz eye rather go out when I want to not just b/c she want’s my company on her time.

Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!

Community Guidelines

The following are the guidelines which are specific to the 35 & Over Community. We ask you to follow them, as well as the Forum Guidelines. Their purpose is to ensure a safe and supportive environment for everyone.

The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
However, age isn't a requirement to participate in our sub-community.

All Adults are welcome!


However, please understand that teens as young as 13 years old can access these forums, so please keep topics appropriate.

So please:
- Reach out for support from your member account
- Offer support as a member or listener
- Be respectful to everyone
- Add a trigger warning  [TW] if your topic needs it
- Take care of yourself
- Take care of others
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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!