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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Note: The group chat is not active atm. Update date: Jan 28, 2025.  Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 July 26th, 2024
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
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Mid 30s, feeling hopeless
by SonyaSleep
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more I feel absolutely heartbroken and don’t know how to move forward or how to keep living. I feel deep frustration and disappointment in men. I don’t want to hate men, and I don’t want to generalize all men, but I’m so hurt. I feel that I can’t trust them anymore. The latest examples of men I’ve encountered—have shown me that they are not capable of proper commitment. I don’t know how to live in a world where commitment is such a big issue, where all they want is an easy relationship—or none at all—with no names, no labels. They want the services of a girlfriend or wife; they want to be loved, to have sex, to share all the activities that define a proper couple. But they cannot secure you. They cannot make you feel safe. They don’t follow through on their word, and that frustrates me so much. I’ve spent so much valuable time with someone who claimed to have deep feelings for me, someone who knew that I am a family-oriented person in my mid-30s. Everything would go well—we built experiences together, created a strong connection—until the moment I asked if we were on the same page. Then I would hear: “I like you so much. You’re so dear to me. You’re so important to me. I’ve become a better person with you…but I’m not ready to commit.” I know it’s my mistake for letting this happen, but honestly, I don’t know where to find people who are capable of commitment. It has become so easy and accessible for so many people to have sex. There are so many dating apps, so many options, that this endless hunt for someone “better” has become a soul-*** machine. What is wrong with this world? I don’t blame men who feel fear—we all experience it to a certain extent. But when did it become normal to let fear dictate our actions? When did fear become a sign that something is wrong just because it feels scary? (And no, I’m not talking about life-threatening situations.) What happened to morals? To self-discipline? To loyalty and faith? What happened to finding your way together, even when it’s hard? If someone is dear to us, how can it possibly be easier to leave? Why has it become normal to say one thing one day and change it the next, covering it up with excuses like, “My therapist says it’s okay to change my mind if it feels right.” How can we trust words anymore? I guess all I’m doing right now is throwing a letter of desperation into the void of the internet, hoping someone will hear it. Hoping that someone, somewhere, will realize the importance of staying true to their beloved ones and not let fear fuel the pandemic of commitment issues.
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Name 1 positive thing that happened to you today
by Hopey9831
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Hi ya everyone.  In the midst of all the challenges we face in life, sometimes, we cannot help but think in 1 direction ; negative or down.  It's tough I guess, to see things from another perspective, but this is the precise reason why we need to change our focus from the negative to neutral and hopefully, positive ultimately.   I hope this post can gently pivot your ingrain negative perspective, by just asking you for 1 positive thing that happened to you today.  Come and write in every day, that 1 positive thing.  Let's cheer and support our fellows, by liking, hearting their list.  May the force be with you today and every day to come.   
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🎅 what was the most popular toy during your childhood??🎅
by Tinywhisper11
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more Let us know, maybe santa will bring back a little festive spirit in you ❤
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Relearning love
by Lenaye8
Last post
 18 hours ago
...See more Exhales relearning to love myself again is thee best part about life. Learning to love someone else has it motionz, my partner has entered into the next part of life learning how to love himself and that is not an easy task when you have not done it before. It is a slow process and eye had to step back and let him flow. Since we are in a distant lover relationship there are days when eye can only be his bestie and nothing more. I have to control my emoitons and not let them flood me like in the past when we began talking again. He needs this time for him to discover the other sides/parts/emotions/wonders of him. Me soft dating has always been our agreement, as long as eye stay safe and enjoy myself. Dating has not gone well in the past yet the future looks brighter until me and my partner cross the next path of our relationship. I know most ppl may not get this yet, while eyem here I am still want to explore a healthy side of dating where I am not always in a masc role with a man. Always in control and not being able to embrace my soft fem side naturally. Always cautious of my safety this a non-nego with anyone eye share space with. Eyem ready to just enjoy a day/night out and be soft beautiful orchid.
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Struggling
by YouForia0809
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more I am struggling with postpartum depression, anxiety and rage. On top of marital issues. I’m also finding it difficult to find someone to speak with about anything that gives more than a “I’m sorry that’s got to be tough” response. I’ve had a trauma and I’m struggling to find my purpose for being here or even staying in my marriage.
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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Note: The group chat is not active atm. Update date: Jan 28, 2025.  Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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Married but feeling like a single mother
by crimsonPlace1255
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m a SAHM with a 4 year old and 9 month old. My husband sleeps in until *usually* I get him up. He goes to work and when he gets home it’s time for the kids to be in bed. On the weekends he also sleeps in… until 4pm if I let him. When he gets up he’s on his phone or only wants to do activities HE wants to do with our oldest. He barely helps with anything around the house, even putting his own clothes away. Half of the time I take the trash out because he just piles things on top instead of walking two seconds to the trash can outside. He only does the lawn care habitually (except during the winter). Our parenting styles are extremely different, he’s more of a bully and pushes our oldest to the point where he’s always crying and practically scared of his dad being mad. He isn’t abusive by any means, but raising his voice to our crying 9 month old because he doesn’t know how to calm him is so wrong. It seems like he is only wanting to parent when the kids are happy and being well behaved… Our relationship you ask? Ha… what relationship. He gets to talk about his work and passion but I feel like everything I do, say, and enjoy is made fun of or he literally ignores me when I’m talking. Oh and I’m from England, which he constantly reminds me is lesser than being American. He has a joke with our son that it’s “bad” and he gets tickled if he says he’s British (which technically he is 50%) and only stops when he says he’s American again. I’d say he’s the bread winner with me being a SAHM, however that’s completely incorrect. I have VA disability money from being in the military that pays for everything. His job barely makes money for his energy drink and nicotine habit. It’s more of his passion and I wanted to let him do something he loves. Theres more but this is already a novel. I don’t know what to do.
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Epiphany
by creativeKite447
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more At 36, I've recently come to a realization: I don't have any friends outside of work. It hit me that my work friends are just that friends at work. They have their own social circles outside of the office, but I don't. I'm feeling at a loss and unsure how to build a friend group from scratch at this stage in my life.
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Heart so broken
by happyfish1314
Last post
 Sunday
...See more I was so in love with this amazing guy I met during a holiday, and I thought what we had was so special. We fell in love. We were in a long-distance relationship, and four months later, he came to visit me. We spent the most amazing three weeks together, and during that time, he told me he loved me for the first time. He also initiated the idea of relocating to my country. Last month, I visited his hometown, and he introduced me to his parents and grandparents. His family was so happy to meet me because it was the first time he had introduced a girlfriend to them. Everything went so well during my visit until I checked his phone and discovered that he had been flirting with other women after we met. He had sent a selfie to one girl, saying, “It’s a blessing to meet you, and I hope to meet you again. I’ll be waiting for you.” When I confronted him about it, he said he was just being stupid and wanted to show off to his colleagues that other women liked him. I also found another message to a different girl that said, “It was nice meeting you. I hope to see you again soon, and I hope I didn’t misbehave last night.” After the confrontation, he started having thoughts about ending things with me, and I later found out he told his best friend that he was “kind of done” with me. I was heartbroken and not in the best state of mind, so I initiated the breakup. He still kept in touch with me and was being very sweet, so I initiated to reconcile. But two weeks later, he was already with a new girl. I can’t make sense of what happened. Can someone tell me what’s going on and why?
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Age gaps in dating - what's ok?
by amusingPlace961
Last post
 Saturday
...See more So I'm 36 and have always had trouble finding a partner I can relate to. Recently, I've been getting close with a coworker of mine who I feel I can relate to quite easily. Only problem is, he's 13 years younger than me. Why am I cursed? How taboo is a gap like that in relationships? Specifically when the female is the oldee one??
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Sexual health after 35
by sincerePomegranate990
Last post
 Saturday
...See more How important it is to maintain a gud sexual health after 35
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Just turned 35
by ivoryLion9240
Last post
 Friday
...See more Hello, I’m new to this community. A few weeks ago, I turned 35. I spent my birthday completely alone, just like Christmas and New Year’s. I know they’re just dates, but I feel deeply lonely and disheartened. I don’t have a partner, I don’t have a family, and I don’t have many friends. The few friends I do have are married and always busy—they didn’t even remember my birthday. It’s heartbreaking to see everyone surrounded by family, friends, and partners during these special times while I’m all alone. There’s no one who thinks of me, remembers me, gives me a gift, a hug, or celebrates me. I’ve been single for over three years after a painful breakup that affected me deeply. I couldn’t move on, while my ex seemed to move on quickly with someone else. It’s been three years without a stable relationship or meeting anyone who truly loves or values me. The few relationships or dates I’ve had were with men who were only interested in something physical, or ended up cheating on me. It hurts deeply to see myself at this age, so alone, without genuine connections, and without ever experiencing real love or what it feels like to be truly loved. I know I’m supposed to love myself, and I used to, but now I can’t seem to find the energy or even the belief that I do. I feel like I’ve lost that connection with myself. I can’t stop thinking that at 35, I’m "expired," and that I’ll never find someone to share my life with. The thought of dying alone terrifies me and makes me wonder if there’s something wrong with me. I know I’m not beautiful or physically attractive, but I’ve always believed I’m a good person—a loyal, honest, and devoted friend and partner. Yet it feels like, in this world, physical appearance is the only thing that matters, and everything else is overlooked.

Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!

Community Guidelines

The following are the guidelines which are specific to the 35 & Over Community. We ask you to follow them, as well as the Forum Guidelines. Their purpose is to ensure a safe and supportive environment for everyone.

The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
However, age isn't a requirement to participate in our sub-community.

All Adults are welcome!


However, please understand that teens as young as 13 years old can access these forums, so please keep topics appropriate.

So please:
- Reach out for support from your member account
- Offer support as a member or listener
- Be respectful to everyone
- Add a trigger warning  [TW] if your topic needs it
- Take care of yourself
- Take care of others
- Have fun!


 

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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!