Harassed by a older person who I thought meant no harm
My dad passed away in 2020 before he passed he raised cattle and would let them graze in this person’s land. Before my dad passed he and this man came to an agreement that a beef cow would be split between the two parties as a form of payment. When my dad passed I was put in charge of reaching out to this person as he still had not sold his land and asked if it was ok to still keep our cows there. Now it is 2023 and there are new owners to the land and I had texted this person that his cow was ready and after I told him.He told me that he would pay for the whole beef cow. Then He asked me if he could ask me something and I thought I was going to get asked about what the new owners of the land are doing to it. But I was asked personal questions about my personal life and was being called pet names. I continued to get messages and I ignored them. I felt gross, dirty, there’s a scary feeling in my stomach. I cried. It’s been a day and I can’t stop thinking about how uncomfortable I felt. It just keeps replaying in my mind and that gross feeling won’t leave. I HAVE MY HALF OF MY BEEF AND I DID NOT LET HIM PAY IT, I PAID MY HALF,SO HE WOULD NOT THINK I OWED HIM SOMETHING. It’s been a day and I still have this gross feeling. I feel scared. That person is blocked. I hate when it is mentioned that he is good person he is loser.
@brightBranch1228
I'm sorry to hear about your dad's passing and the uncomfortable situation you went through with the person who had an agreement with him. It's completely understandable to feel bad and scared after receiving personal questions and pet names from someone who should have been respectful towards you. You did the right thing by blocking them and paying for your half of the beef so they wouldn't think you owed them anything. It's important to trust your gut and set boundaries with people who make you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. It's also okay to take time to process your feelings and seek support from trusted friends or a therapist if needed. Remember that your feelings are valid and it's important to prioritize your well-being ❤️
I now have extreme anger towards this person. I hate them. It’s hard telling people to stop because you don’t want to come off as rude but I’m going to have to relearn some things. Thank you for answering❤️
@brightBranch1228 It's understandable ❤️ You're welcome!
I read your post and got that same feeling you described. I have been in a very similar situation but I was not as smart as you and did not follow my got feelings or intuition. I have been married to him for 35 years now. I haven't lived with him for the last 12, but I'm still hiding from him. Always follow that instinct. It is your body warning your mind that something isn't right.
I am so sorry that you are experiencing that.. I hope you can leave that burden behind soon. Please take care I hope you are getting help and support ❤️
@brightBranch1228
Thank you that is very sweet! I did not get therapy or help for that but I'm staying away from romantic commitments, relationships, for now. And now I'm here and having reminders about boundaries. Thank you for your support.
@brightBranch1228
I find myself in situations like this where men feel they can do things like that without any idea of what consent it.
In the past year the amount of harassment and sexual assault I've experienced and lack of help is appalling.
What's worse is the blame-shame spiral and fear and doubts that have lodged themselves in my body and continue.
It's hard and it takes courage and a willingness to heal from the pain of trauma and emotional wounds.
I feel I'm flawed now and beyond help which isn't true yet makes it very hard to connect with anything good again.
And I'm not sure how it's fair that some people like me must suffer so deeply while others have so much.
I just don't understand the good in any of this trauma and uncertainty and suffering. Why some, like me are forced into it.
Blah blah it's not happened to me it's for me blah blah. I'm tired of hearing things like that. I'm sick and tired of this.
I've tried almost everything to cope. I'm the poster child for healing and strength. But I didn't ask for any of this. None do.
