Ugly

@BeKind1989

i am so sorry to hear you're struggling with your self-image. i am sending you so many hugs (if comfortable) and good thoughts. what is it about yourself that you don't like?

doubt it lol prob fly af 😂

@BeKind1989 I get you're feeling down, and I'm sorry you're going through this. The people who make you feel ugly? They’re the real ugly ones. I recently read an article about acid attack survivors—people who had their faces disfigured, half their face burned, and lost their vision. Who do you think is ugly? The survivors or the ones who threw the acid? It really shows how narrow society’s idea of beauty and ugliness is. Don’t shrink yourself to fit into that shoebox by cutting out pieces of yourself.

 If I asked you who you think is beautiful, I bet they wouldn’t fit any of those ‘perfect’ standards. Real beauty’s about owning who you are—flaws and all. Also, we’re a society that’s collectively decided the Beast in Beauty and the Beast was more handsome before he turned human. So, if you’re feeling ugly because you don’t have horns and fur, I’m afraid I can’t help you there. 

Sometime it is likely impossible to accept yourself I guess. For myself I just go to surgery at some point and feels great after. But better to start from therapy and if not helps do surgery. You know, it may be just destroying thoughts from your childhood or something like it, and then surgery can cut out your unique personality in appearance. 

@BeKind1989 I'm sure you don't look ugly. I felt the same way until I listened to one song. I listen to it daily to make me feel better about myself. I'm sure you need a confidence boost.

This is the song if you want to listen: https://open.spotify.com/track/6uIRaU6EFvhAjYm7spHVeA?si=8533845168d24b60

real but once you wear the right stuff we be looking fly af

You are beautiful. You are smart. You are worthy. You are talented. You are enough. You are strong. You are resilient.

Just reaching out shows how strong and aware you are.

Some advice:

1. Practice Daily Affirmations

   • Write down or say aloud positive statements about yourself every morning (e.g., "I am strong, capable"). Even if it feels fake, repetition can help reshape negative thought patterns.

2. Focus on Strengths and Accomplishments

   • Keep a "positivity journal" where you record 3 things you did well each day, no matter how small (e.g., finishing homework, helping a friend, or being kind to yourself).

3. Challenge Negative Thoughts

   • When you think something self-critical (e.g., "I'm not good enough"), ask yourself:
     • Is this true?
     • Would I say this to a friend?
       Replace the thought with something more balanced and kind.

4. Engage in Activities You Enjoy

   • Build confidence by spending time doing things you’re good at or passionate about. Success and joy from hobbies naturally improve self-worth.

5. Set Small, Achievable Goals

   • Break down tasks into manageable steps and celebrate progress. Accomplishing these "small wins" boosts confidence.

6. Practice Good Posture and Body Language

   • Stand tall, make eye contact, and smile. This “power pose” not only makes you appear more confident but also helps you feel it internally.
   • Pretend to be super confident and the most gorgeous person even if you do not feel it. Truly act as if you're a "model" known for your beauty. Eventually, you will start to believe it.

7. Surround Yourself with Supportive People

   • Spend time with friends, family, or mentors who uplift and encourage you. Limit interactions with people who make you feel small or unworthy.

8. Prioritize Self-Care

   • Take care of your body and mind: get enough sleep, eat nourishing foods, exercise, and take time to rest. Feeling healthy helps emotional resilience.

I’m sorry you feel this way. Just remember to always be kind to yourself, sometimes we can be our own worst critics.

@BeKind1989

"Beauty is on the inside not the outside" 

I have never met you but I know you are not ugly by your words and your profile. I hope you dont feel this way. *Hugs*

@BeKind1989 If you are confident enough to say that I have a pure heart. How can you say that you are ugly?