Seeking help 🙏
My Ex broke up with me and blames me for everything and still keeps me on social media and it has been 20days he still hasn't contacted me.
So a week before the break up I caught him chatting with a woman and I asked him about it and he freaks out and stresses out and apologises and after I accepted his apology he starts calling me names like trauma baggage. Just because past history of men cheating on me apparently thats why i doubt him. Since that day he calls me trauma baggage. So on the day of breakup I sent him this video where a man is taking about past traumas and love bombing. He says go see a doctor apparently iam a mental patient he sees no future with me anymore and that swears on our relationship and that he has high standards in my After his message I called him immediately but hanged up. After four hours he calls me back I did not pick up So I replied saying " I respect your decision about the breakup and I hope you find someone according to your standards.
Than he replies saying you always mention breakup. have standards high priority in my life i don't see you i them anymore and told me he will block me after. But what did I do here? Can someone please help me understand?
I guess what you did was, you chose you over anyone else , who just finds a excuse when you catch them red handed.
The concept of blaming for these kinda person is that they try to justify themselves by proving you wrong.
I appreciate that you took step towards your own self instead of such demotivating person.
Coping with breakups is something emotionally challenging, it'll take time. Be patient with yourself.
@Alwayshereforyou1234
It sounds like he feels u doubt him and ur just cautious and confused, if he hasn't blocked u yet I would try to fix it and answer his calls
But he hasn’t called or texted me yet
@Alwayshereforyou1234
Then i recommend reaching out, no pressure
@Alwayshereforyou1234
I think there's nothing wrong with you, just that the flower of love which was once blossomed between both of you, for some reason has naturally decayed and atleast one or both of you seek new budding, new nurturing, new blossom.
You need more mature friends that are experienced enough to become more beneficial in your life. He sounds like an inexperienced,,,weak little boy that’s still exploring the world and doesn’t possess any empathy.
From your post, I get the impression he has issues of his own and is not a supportive partner. So his is tossing this back on you. It seems manipulative.
Part of being in a relationship is bucking up your partner when they need it. In return, they also do the same when you're feeling vulnerable.
