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I perfectly understand your except my husband although he's a sweetheart mostly there are times i get anxiety attacks and end up thinking why'd i marry in the first place..i was better off alone.. and for my parents i married so I get away from their constant toxicity between them and projections towards us kids although they mostly love us .. so i really get what you're going through.. honestly its not running away if get a job far away from family it's more like boundary cause they won't understand that like our generation do.. so get a decent to not so bad job cause then the only thing you'll worry about is work and looking after yourself.. imo it's a great self start .. so whatever works for you n no regrets .. all the very best Sister 🙏🏽 🫰🏽 hold on you're not alone 💪🏽🧿

@gwen03 I know how that feels I used to live with my parents also. I guess the biggest challenge in front of you is whether or not to stay with your parents because obviously it's dragging you down, their relationship is abusive and you're living with it. It's like living in an abusive relationship just not being part of it, except that they put you in the middle of it just by you being there. If there's any chance you can couch surf with a friend, it would be a better situation than living under your parent's thumbs. Also, they can't include you in anything if you're not there. As I said, even couchsurfing is worth getting out from under your parents. I know when I lived with my parents I was suicidal. I had to move out.

Hi there,

First, let me say this: you are ONLY 25. You have an entire lifetime ahead of you, filled with possibilities and opportunities you can’t even imagine yet. It’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind or that you need to have everything figured out, but you don’t. Life isn’t a race, it’s your journey, and it’s okay to take your time to find your path.

Right now, it seems like you’re carrying a lot from your past, but it’s important to remind yourself that your past doesn’t define your future. You’ve already made bold decisions, like calling off a wedding and leaving a toxic job, and that shows incredible strength. Those weren’t easy choices, but you made them because you DESERVE better. Never forget how powerful that makes you.

You’re in a rebuilding phase, and that’s a beautiful place to be. Think of this time as a gift, a chance to rediscover who you are and what you want from life. Start small: ask yourself, What makes me happy? What inspires me? What am I curious about? These questions don’t have to have immediate answers, but they’ll guide you toward creating a life that fulfils you.

Focusing on the exam in June is a great goal, but don’t let it feel like the only thing that matters. Balance it with self-care and moments that make you feel alive, whether that’s journaling, exercising, reading, spending time in nature, or simply enjoying your own company. As you work toward your goal, remind yourself that progress, no matter how small, is still progress.

Most importantly, learn to believe in yourself. You are already resilient and capable. Whenever doubt creeps in, remind yourself of the challenges you’ve overcome, you DID NOT come this far in your life to just be here, that's not enough, remind yourself that if you just stopped here, then all the damage you've come through wasn't good damage (a damage that will elevate you, and guide you to your highest good), it was just damage. Look in the mirror and say, I AM ENOUGH. I AM STRONG. I AM BUILDING THE LIFE I DESERVE. And most importantly admire who you're seeing in the mirror. Confidence isn’t something you’re born with, it’s something you build every day by showing up for yourself.

And remember: You don’t have to have all the answers right now. Life is meant to be lived, explored, and figured out along the way. You’re not behind, you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

The fact that you’re still here, breathing and fighting through each day, is proof that you’re not done yet. You have a purpose, something meaningful that only you can bring to the world, even if you haven’t discovered it yet. Your life matters, and there’s so much more waiting for you to explore and accomplish.

One last thing, you’re only 25, you haven’t even met all the people who will love you unconditionally yet. There are friends, mentors, and maybe even a partner out there who will see you for who you truly are and cherish you for it. Life has a way of surprising us with connections that heal and uplift us, so don’t lose hope, your story is still unfolding.

Trust yourself! You’ve already proven you can handle the hard stuff, and you’re just getting started. The best is still ahead of you.

You’ve got this, YOU CAN!

Sometimes, an uncomfortable environment can make us try to make some decisions.

Hi there,

First, let me say this: you are ONLY 25. You have an entire lifetime ahead of you, filled with possibilities and opportunities you can’t even imagine yet. It’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind or that you need to have everything figured out, but you don’t. Life isn’t a race, it’s your journey, and it’s okay to take your time to find your path.

Right now, it seems like you’re carrying a lot from your past, but it’s important to remind yourself that your past doesn’t define your future. You’ve already made bold decisions, like calling off a wedding and leaving a toxic job, and that shows incredible strength. Those weren’t easy choices, but you made them because you DESERVE better. Never forget how powerful that makes you.

You’re in a rebuilding phase, and that’s a beautiful place to be. Think of this time as a gift, a chance to rediscover who you are and what you want from life. Start small: ask yourself, What makes me happy? What inspires me? What am I curious about? These questions don’t have to have immediate answers, but they’ll guide you toward creating a life that fulfils you.

Focusing on the exam in June is a great goal, but don’t let it feel like the only thing that matters. Balance it with self-care and moments that make you feel alive, whether that’s journaling, exercising, reading, spending time in nature, or simply enjoying your own company. As you work toward your goal, remind yourself that progress, no matter how small, is still progress.

Most importantly, learn to believe in yourself. You are already resilient and capable. Whenever doubt creeps in, remind yourself of the challenges you’ve overcome, you DID NOT come this far in your life to just be here, that's not enough, remind yourself that if you just stopped here, then all the damage you've come through wasn't good damage (a damage that will elevate you, and guide you to your highest good), it was just damage. Look in the mirror and say, I AM ENOUGH. I AM STRONG. I AM BUILDING THE LIFE I DESERVE. And most importantly admire who you're seeing in the mirror. Confidence isn’t something you’re born with, it’s something you build every day by showing up for yourself.

And remember: You don’t have to have all the answers right now. Life is meant to be lived, explored, and figured out along the way. You’re not behind, you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

The fact that you’re still here, breathing and fighting through each day, is proof that you’re not done yet. You have a purpose, something meaningful that only you can bring to the world, even if you haven’t discovered it yet. Your life matters, and there’s so much more waiting for you to explore and accomplish.

One last thing, you’re only 25, you haven’t even met all the people who will love you unconditionally yet. There are friends, mentors, and maybe even a partner out there who will see you for who you truly are and cherish you for it. Life has a way of surprising us with connections that heal and uplift us, so don’t lose hope, your story is still unfolding.

Trust yourself! You’ve already proven you can handle the hard stuff, and you’re just getting started. The best is still ahead of you.

You’ve got this, YOU CAN!

hello! , you are a brave person and i could relate to family stuff , living in a fight situation have major effects on you and your mental health

try to live some where else

@gwen03 we can talk if youd like to, currently struggling with some stuff aswell.

Hello there @gwen03

First of all, thanks you for reaching out for help & sharing this with us.

I hear you, it's understandable, sometimes we love our parents and they love us but still we face challenges and have difficulties with them. I'm sorry you had to go through that, it sounds overwhelming. I'm proud of you for caring for yourself and decided to take a break.

Your studies adds the pressure I assume. It's ok to feel this way, I hope you find motivation and heal soon.

Although please remember that I can't give advice or give you ideas of what to do. Because I'm not in your shoes, the decision is up to you. But here you could find the support you deserve through your journey.

I give you my best wishes 🤍 😊

@gwen03 I understand your wedding was cancelled recently and it's a concern to you,l believe running away from your problem doesn't solve it, instead it makes it worst.stay and concentrate on your coming exam,it will gradually remove your mind from it and give you happiness once again.

I am 26 and male and feeling a similar way, I so desperately want to run away and live in my van for a while. Life brings us too much pressure, I just feel in the way at home and I want to carve my own path but there's so much in the way.

I think as humans we must embark on the unknown adventure to find out what we actually need to know.