Hi I’m new here and I need help
I found 7cups today because I’m dealing with a lot of emotional pain and physical pain. I’m 24 this month and I’m feeling hurt because I hurt my friend and I don’t know how to stop it. I get jealous of their other friends and I compare myself to them. I start to worry a lot and it effects our friendship online via discord . I’m dealing with severe social anxiety disorder and depression. Today, I just left a message and told my friend I’m feeling hurt because I feel I don’t feel special to him. I said I’m leaving and wanted space but I still feel horrible and I feel more alone. That’s why I am here. 😞
Can anyone give me some insight? I don’t feel like a good person and I want to do better.. What can I do to stop this?
@paperBird3348
I'm glad you were able to find this community. It can be hard to not compare ourselves to others. I understand where you are coming from on this. I think it's great that you were able to communicate your feelings to your friend. It gives them a chance to try to fix their behavior, as perhaps they were not aware that this is how they were making you feel. Are you saying that jealousy makes you feel like you are not a good person? If so, I believe jealousy is a normal emotion. I don't think this emotion makes anyone bad. <3💛💫
Thank you. ❤️I talked to someone and it became clear that I still like him. He rejected me in the past politely and I didn't learn how to move on. I stood stuck on him and tortured myself over these feelings and tried to push them away but it didn't help. I don't want to bring it up to him again that I like him so I need to figure out how to set my boundaries and it's hard but I am tired of liking someone who will never see me in that way. I'm depressed about it and I feel horrible and exhausted but I'm trying to get better and heal and I'm hoping to have help in this journey. Any knowledge on moving on from someone you love I would appreciate it! 😊
We are friends and I'm not going to leave our friendship just because I have feelings for him. 𓅰❤️ I'm hoping to finally learn to move on and look forward to finding someone who will love me back.! I believe I need to fix my behavior more than him. He is a good guy and a loving friend. Maybe he doesn't think that I kept these feelings for this long and that's why he isn't fully aware.
Welcome to this wonderful forum. We are all here to hear and support you. It's a good sign you are aware of what you are going through. Now comes the crucial part where you need to work on it and take action.
You are welcome to pm me and we can have an in depth chat.
Take care
Tani
Thank you very much! ❤️𓅰 Taking action is the hard part and I'm going to have to repeat those actions so that I learn it and don't make same mistakes again. Such as being triggered by what my friend says about someone he likes and getting angry and directing that anger to something else 😓
I need to control my emotions I think. And do better. I'm his friend and I should be supporting him. It's what he wants is support from his friends especially when it comes to relationships he wants to share it with me. (^^)
@paperBird3348 I don’t feel that your feelings about this make you a bad person or not a good one. We all have struggles and I think no one is mentally perfect. It’s good you see and recognize your social anxiety. I hope you can find support by reaching out to other outputs. I think the more you reach out, the bigger your circle gets, which will help the loneliness and also possibly begin to help with the social anxiety. You can hopefully start to see how other people (like your friend) may need a larger circle too which helps them with their own personal goals as yours does etc.
