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Shhh123 August 22nd, 2016

How come I can't forget it? Why did he do it? Does it ever get better?

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Moj August 22nd, 2016

@Shhh123 honestly, you can't forget it because it has impacted your life. It's something that happened that will forever change who you are, and how you look at life and the world around you. I don't know why it happened to you, and why he caused you such hurt and pain. It's something that no one should do...and I don't understand what causes some people to act with such hurtful and awful intentions. It's not right, and it's not ok that he hurt you. You deserve so much better.

As for it getting better, yes it does. Do you ever fully forget, no...it's not something you do. But you come to accept that it happened, and work through the emotions and thoughts you have associated with it. You learn to survive and thrive as this "new" person you've become. And through that you also realize the great strength you have, and have had all along. That you've kept fighting and have kept going on despite the struggles and pain. Shhh123, it's a process to work through and walk through...but you can do it. I believe in you, you are a fighter. Keep on walking, the light will shine again. heart And there are many people here at 7cups to connect with that have an understanding of some of the things you've experienced. I'm proud of you for posting in this forum, and reaching out for help and for answers. Keep reaching out...there are many people that are here to help you through this journey. heart

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Shhh123 OP August 23rd, 2016

@Moj Thank you, you replying means a lot to me !

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QuietlyScreaming August 22nd, 2016

@Shhh123 Simply put, you will never forget it but with the right support when processing your experiences and a lot of hard work it will become easier to manage and you will accept that it happened and grow to the even stronger courageous person that you are.

There will be good days and not so good days, I find that has been very important to reach out to the very select few that know and understand the experience during those bad days. That also hasnt been easy, asking for help. Even reaching out here to help ease all the feelings and emotions helps to lessen all of the mixed up emotions and thoughts that you feel.

I've also asked why and sometimes continue to ask why. As much as I've tried to find an answer I just can't seem to find it. People do unspeakable horrible acts to other people and those kinds of people (in my opinion) have no place on this earth. It's not ok and it will never be ok.

We are brave, strong and courageous survivors that deserve to live free of the pain and sorrow that was inflicted upon us.

Please remember it will get better.

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Shhh123 OP August 23rd, 2016

@QuietlyScreaming Thank you for taking time to reply to me !

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