"It's not rape" *trigger warning
Hello. I'm a gay male and a around two years ago, I was raped by my boyfriend of a year. I was always super self conscious so I wasn't ever really ready for that kind of thing. But he was. He did wait for a while but then one day i guess he just couldn't anymore. We were in the back of his car and he pressured me to do it and told me he would out me if I didn't and all of these other things. So I did. But that wasn't the last time it happened. For the next 5 months it was a string of rapes and sexual assaults, even though i didn't think so at the time. Some times I gave in pretty easily. Other times, it was closer to the "stereotypical" kind. You know, him having to hold me down and such. I always told myself that it wasn't rape because he was my boyfriend. And then one day it just kind of hit me that it was. Partners aren't required to have sex if they don't want it. So I thought about it, and realized I should tell someone but I never did because I was still in the closet. Now, I'm almost glad I didn't say anything because I'm constantly being told that I'm lying and that boys can't be raped. I would've just made a fool of myself standing in a court room trying to convince everyone that I was raped. To this day, I still have nightmares about it. Sometimes I'll zone out and all I can see is one of the times he had is hands on me. I can remember the smell, the sounds, all of it. He ended up leaving me for someone else about a year ago and since then, I haven't had sex. I don't think I will for a long time either. It's so hard for me to trust people too. He started out so sweet and loving, and that just reminds me that anyone I see could be my next rapist.
I have never been in this type of situation. My heart breaks for you. You know for everybody who is saying its impossible for a male to be raped is just stupid. You were forced. He should be in jail, or suffering an equivalent consequence. You were forced to have sex with. Rape is rape. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you heal with time. -love
Dear ~~ohioisonfire ,
I'm so sorry that you were raped several times by your boyfriend of two years at the time. I am so glad that you are no longer with him. No one deserves to be treated like that. And anyone who says that a male person cannot be raped, doesn't know about what they are talking. My heart goes out to you as well. Please take good care of yourself and if there is anything else we can do here to help you through thisterribly challenging journey, please do not hesitate to contact us.
Sincerely, FaithfulPerson
@ohioisonfire, rape means sexual assault; it?s being forced to go through a sexual activity against your will. As your boyfriend forced you and used emotional blackmail, he did abuse you. You have every right to stand up and say you have been abused. And he should be suffering for what he had done. If you need support, we are here for you.
Dear @ohioisonfire,
First off, I must say you are very brave talking about an issue such as yours. Seeing that your a male makes no difference, anyone can be raped, anyone regardless of sex. Girls and boys alike unfortunately . That being said, I'm very sorry that this has happened. I'm wondering if you've hadany professional help? Sometimes men don't want help because they are afraid of being judged. No one will ever judge you here. I am here if you need support.
Signed,
LovelyOcean54
