Coping with SA
The guy who SA'd me goes to the same school I do. Whenever I leave my dorm I'm quiet paranoid about seeing him. I get super anxious when I see anyone who even remotely reminds me of him and when I'm near places I know he goes. I've started to get paranoid around all guys of his race when they're strangers. I continued to be his friend for months and didn't remove him on my socials until last month.
How can I stop feeling so scared to run into him? How can I stop seeing him in the faces of total strangers?
I actually already ran into him in September so it feels super possible for it to happened again.( i got anxious but It wasn't too bad because I hadn't accepted the truth of what happened and who he really was yet)
( I should probably mention this to my therapist, I've just started last week. )
@emotionalLime7158
It must be very stressful to go to the same school as the one who hurt you.
its understandable you feel afraid of running into him.
I read you are working with a therapist, how is that going? Im proud of you for standing up for yourself and removing him from your contact and working towards healing. I know thats not easy.
The fear response you have is a normal response after trauma, your brain gets triggered by something that reminds you of the event (like you mentioned strangers of the same race) your brain thinks there is danger and reacts with the same fear as during the event.
this is something you can work on with time and patient, you will get there
@emotionalLime7158
I am so sorry to see you have to deal with this guy in your school. I totally understand, my attacker is not far from me either and I get anxious about bumping into him. It's been 3 years and I have to say my fear has gone down a bit. I've been in therapy and that has helped alot. I am glad your in therapy, keep your chin up . Eventually karma comes and it will knock on his door and if your lucky God will let you know what karma knocks.
Best ABB 💜
