If you are a teen dealing with trauma...
I’m a mom with a traumatized teen. He’s adopted. But his parents were abusive. He is so angry and often takes his anger out on us. He kind of associates his past pain from his mother towards me. I love him so much. I want to help him. I’d love to hear from other teens. If you had someone in your life who really cared and wanted to help, what are some ways you would like to be supported? What helps?
@DaMomBombDotCom
Hello:
I am not a teen, but I knew similar cases
First, I would suggest that you take good care of yourself
As they say in the airplanes "In case of decompression, if you have to help someone, put your mask first".
It will be tough work. You need all the help you can get.
It would be great if you can get the support of a professional therapist.
Beyond that, it's about tons of patience and love.
The same as raising a problematic teen, but even tougher.
Even if it gets very bad keep being patient and loving.
At times, your teen son might seem like he hates you and doesn't care about your love.
But that is just the surface. Your love will reach his heart.
And with time, he will make it known to you.
All the best !
Marcelo
@DaMomBombDotCom
Heya hiya! First, I'd like to tell you that you're doing a wonderful job! 
Everyone is different, I'd like to point that out very quickly. As such something that works for one person will not necessarily work for someone else. That being said, the most impactful thing you can do is just listen. Be there for them. But don't over-do it. Also try to be mindful of things that could be triggering to your child as many people are unable to notice that.
I would like to say that building trust between all members of your family and trying to calmly mitigate any and all conflict that may or may not happen in your family may be a good ide.
I hope this helps! Sending love and hugs (if wanted) for all. Take care of y'allselves!
- MJ
@DaMomBombDotCom Hello, I am not a teen but I was adopted when I was 12, and I had a very traumatic past.
Every person is different but I was a mess and a nightmare to handle when I was a teenager. The man that adopted had a lot of patience, it was hard work for sure to rehabilitate me because I was in really bad shape. I understand how hard it must be for you when he lashes out with you and takes all this anger on you, I hated my guardian as well, I hated him more because he wanted to help and I didn't want help. I was really bad but he never gave up and now that I am older I appreciate it a lot. I am grateful for the fact that no matter how bad I was he never gave up on me.
Maybe you can try to redirect his anger with sports or activities that can exhaust him and takes his anger out. My guardian got me into running, I was violent and team sports were not a good option for me but running helped me to take my frustration out.
If you need anything let me know and maybe I can share more about my experience and what worked for me. I am still a work in progress but when I was a teenager I was way worse.
I have a lot of anger towards my parents still but now I am working on knowing where to place that guilt and blame.