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BC1976 May 11th, 2015

So, long story short, I have dealt with PTSD for quite a while. Last month, my husband, our son and I were staying at a campground. It was just before 11 pm and I heard a loud POP...POP....POP POP POP sound. I jumped out of bed, my husband ran outside and heard someone yelling "get back inside. This is none of your business!!" Then my husband was back inside. When he opened the door, I saw a figure and a dog laying by a car near the campground host camper. I called 911 and told them what happened......the camp manager shot and killed his wife, shot his dog, and barricaded himself into his trailer just a few hundred feet from our place. At 2:30 am, everyone was evacuated. At 3 am, the police shot tear gas into the guys trailer, chasing him out. He came out shooting and was killed ....as we later found out he wished to die. His cancer had come back and Drs told him he had a month to live. The dog is doing well. She was shot through the neck and shoulder. The wife died within minutes. So since then life has been VERY hard for me. I didn't know the people well, but I had just talked to them that day. No loud noises set me off. Voices outside that are male set me off. Yelling, anger, etc....anything negative sets me off. We moved a week later and I still have anxiety issues. I'm so afraid of life and internalize everything because my husband blows everything off and says it shouldn't bother me. I am an empath and feel things very strong. The night it all happened I didn't sleep for over 24 hours, at night now I can barely sleep. My dr doesn't prescribe anxiety meds and the local quack is just that....a quack.....so I'm reaching out here for some help. Any tips or anything someone can give me to help work for n this would be great. T hanks

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HappyRabbit3 May 11th, 2015

Perhaps go to a therapist to learn coping methods and ways to deal with this. I'm so sorry this happened. It's terrible. You're husband might be dealing with it in his own way, but for you, it might be a different way. Maybe talk to a different doctor or a person who can help.

muteTheVoice7196 June 22nd, 2015

That sounds terrifying. Definitely go talk to someone you feel comfortable with, even if this person isn't local or close by. After that sort of experience, i can understand how things would set you off so easily. Tell your husband- if he really loves you, he'll understand and help you get the help you needheartheart

StandbyYou August 4th, 2015

I'm so sorry you had to go through that and that your husband doesn't seem to be very understanding about it. Sometimes it is difficult for people to comprehend PTSD. I would suggest seeing a therapist and coming up with coping mechanisms and safety procedures to best help with you and your specific problem. Send me a message me any time, I am here for you

unsinkablespirit312 August 18th, 2015

I don't know if I'm posting in the right forum. I'm sorry if I'm not. I just need help or support or something. I'm scared and anxious and been having more flashbacks recently. My body physically hurts. I'm so nauseous and I can't sleep. I sleep only a little bit anyway and now I feel so shaky and panicky that I can barely get even an hour or two. I was abused as a child and an "anniversary" is coming up for me on the 20th and I am having problems coping with it. I don't know what to do. Everything keeps going over and over in my mind and I can see it. I can hear every word he said. I can feel him. It's like it's happening again. I just want it to stop and I don't know how to make it go away. I feel so bad. So dirty and ashamed and guilty. I want to stop this pain. I want the memories to go away and I want my body not to hurt anymore. What should I do? Does anyone know how I can cope with this??

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SouthernLiving1110 August 18th, 2015

Hey girly I'm sorry you are going through this! Flashbacks are something we sadly have to deal with when we have gone through a traumatic event. I've started drinking herbal sleeping teas that have helped me at night and I have picked up a new hobby of kayaking to keep my mind from wondering sometimes, Maybe something like that may help you as well? Sometimes it's hard to forget the bad but that's what makes us stronger.

Keep your head up! X Jess

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SouthernLiving1110 August 18th, 2015

I am so so sorry you had to partake in this sad event! I have PTSD as well as severe Anxiety and I try things that take my mind off said tragic events. I have this thing with animals and when I have an attack I have learned that evening petting an animal can slowly relax you. I took up rabbit breeding and so now I have so many rabbits to take care of my mind doesn't seem to wonder to the dark grey areas as much. Maybe try a new hobby or something maybe even cooking! I also use herbal sleeping teas for those nights I can't sleep! I hope that helps and I'll be praying for you! ❤️