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Perfectionism - Learning to get out of my own way

RestrictedSoul22 August 25th, 2020

I never realized before how much my own perfectionism gets in the way of me getting my goals done. I keep waiting for conditions to be right before I can settle down to do something, rather than going ahead and doing it. I didn't realize that in these instances I was choosing my own comfort and rest over working on the task. I was prioritizing them in a way that I did not realize. While it's great to get comfort and rest when needed, I was choosing it even in situations where I could choose otherwise - my discomfort and lack of confidence were so big in these situations, that it unconsciously seemed favorable and more productive to slide back into comfort, rest, and passivity. I've still been making progress towards my goals, but at a much slower rate than I perhaps otherwise could. So I want to speed it up by becoming more conscious about why I do what I do and when - When I choose a moment of comfort and rest, I want to be sure that I'm choosing it consciously and not just out of habit, being more aware that it's my choice. And I want to increase my confidence and make myself aware that I'm more capable than I think. I think this is the way for me to tackle the procrastination.

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soulsings August 26th, 2020

@RestrictedSoul22 I am sorry you struggle with waiting for the perfect time. I do not think there is any time that is better than another although when I am in good mood that can be easier to act then.

Mindfulness is a way to rewire the brain by what we focus on and what we do. Here is a start https://youtu.be/NEMUDaLMWJ8

There are more mindfulness videos here https://www.7cups.com/forum/MindfulnessSupportCommunity_106/ResourceLibrary_1062/