Family Stress

Okay...whew... I'm not one to do this often but I've been suffering a lot lately.

Basically long story short my childhood was full of abuse - physical, mental, and even sexual (some I remember vividly, some I think I've blocked out).

I do now believe that my sister, who was the golden child growing up, is now a full blown narcissist.

She was always more spoiled and demanding than I was ever allowed to be, but in recent years I believe she's completely turned on me at times.

Basically this is the pattern. She starts out by giving me gifts and treating me very well. She then begins to have these life problems and tries to seek my advice constantly. If I offer advice she rarely takes it. Often downright refuses any help. Just wants me to dump emotional garbage on I guess...

If I seem to disagree or go out of line with her motives I suffer for it. She's been very verbally abusive at times. She loves to manipulate. I feel as if I have to walk on egg shells around her constantly.

Over time it has drained me ( on top of a pile of other problems). I've tried very limited contact but now she's saying we don't spend enough time together even though I usually see her every week.

She gets my father to drop her off quite unexpected all the time no matter what my plans are.

She will do anything to get her way. She's now making up blatant lies on fb and threatening self harm constantly. Yet she refuses professional help...It's all keeping me on edge. Ugh...