Grief, and forgetting the ones who mattered
Hi all. I hope some of you can relate to this or I'm sure some can at least give advice or validation this is normal.
A couple of years ago I lost my best friend in a shocking event. My friend was murdered and the killer got away with it because he is white and "has a bright future ". Although to this day I wish something actually happened to him at least prison. I'm not going to talk about it. I just need to know is it normal, to forget what color his eyes where, what his voice and laugh sounded like. I mean I spent 24/7 with him for years growing up together. And now I can't remember him.
I'm so ashamed of myself because I never went to his funeral it would of killed me to see him like that. It was stupidly selfish of me not to go. But at the same time I would of been worse off. I regret not going every day.
I just wish I could remember him...
@yukieq
it is normal that things fade you may have a general sense of his appearance but not the details... the voice we cannot remember even when this person was super close. I find remembering is not thinking about them personally but maybe in context of a specific time when i think about past friends i think of a memory or event and in my thoughts can turn and see my friend or family as they looked in that moment.
