New revelation about a "therapy" session
I don't know if I ever mentioned on this site a horrible "therapist" I've experienced in real life over a decade ago, but another memory caused this to pop up. Then I made a horrible realization about her ideals from a conversation we had.
I was so conditioned by my depression and my abusive family to always be shut down. No thoughts. "Therapist" asked me after a long silence (almost all sessions were pretty silent) in 1 session she asked what I was thinking about.
I told her honestly "nothing, I'm just staring"
Her ridiculous response "if you weren't thinking and had zero thoughts you would be dead. Everyone is always thinking about something."
Later it got worse when this lady, knowing I almost didn't survive my only hospitalization so far and it was still a pretty fresh trauma uttered
"I think you belong locked in a room of a mental hospital with no key for the rest of your life"
I already knew a few things 1. I did not 2. That would be a pretty short life 3. I don't do well in those hospitals 4. I was actually not that bad mentally 5. I think that's illegal 6. She knew how traumatic that statement would be considering I had a recent bad experience.
But worst of all I don't think I ever thought about until now is most hardened criminals or the most criminally insane probably don't even get treated this cruelly. I was literally treated like a criminal by a mental health "professional" just for being a little out of it.
@alexaners7734 I am very sorry to hear, that you did not have a good therapeutic relationship with your therapist.
With therapists it is hit and miss.
You do have to shop around, to find the right one.
Perhaps, try one of 7cups therapists, they might be a better fit.
If you do not want to go the therapy route again, 7cups has trained active listeners.
If you have already tried our listeners, and if you found they were not helpful, we have our chatrooms for you to try.
So as you can see, we have a lot of different supports, here at 7cups.
Not all support systems are helpful to everyone.
So you have to try some, to see what is helpful for you and your situation or situations, whatever the case is.
It is ok, to have many different kinds of support as well.
I hope this helps some.
@alexaners7734 wow! That's terrible 🙁 I'm guessing you haven't tried therapy since her 🙁 but please know they are not all bad, my psychologist is amazing. It must be even more traumatizing to go through that, I'm so sorry honey😥 hugs you tightly ❤ I hope you do try again someday ❤