I deserve to Heal because.....
The journey to healing from traumatic experiences requires us to revolutionize our thinking about ourselves, responsibility, healthy relationships, trust, self-love, self-respect and self-compassion to name just a few....Self compassion often helps with healing childhood wounds. Traumatic experiences such as childhood abuse, assault, rape, etc can affect literally every aspect of a persons life., from your self-confidence, self-esteem, body image, to your ability to relate to others, cope with intimate relationships, and be a good parent, to your work performance, ability to be learn new things, and ability to care for yourself. There is often much self-criticism, self-blame; self-neglect; self-destructive behaviors (such as abusing your body with food, alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes, self-mutilation,etc; believing you dont deserve good things; believing if others really knew you they would dislike, reject you or blame you. You may carry much shame or guilt. Through lack of trust which is understandable you may not allow yourself to get close to other people and even sabotage relationships along with support.
As judge and jury you may pronounce yourselves guilty and yet It was and never will be your fault...especially when traumatic experiences have arisen from abuse committed by others, no matter how this may have been justified, the responsibility for abuse lies firmly with those who have subjected others to it.....
I have heard many people over many years say they believe they dont deserve anything good in their lifes, that they are a rotten person etc etc...but I am here to say you are all worthy, you are all deserving and you deserve to heal from your experiences....Therefore I thought I would start a forum thread in the hope that each one of you can find one reason to start believing that you deserve to heal.....:) I hope you find this space safe and supportive and would love to hear your reasons as to why you believe you are worthy of a better life, of less pain, of happiness.......
All are welcome to contribute to I deserve to heal because........
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I deserve to heal because I know that there are beautiful things in life and I deserve to experience them and be mine, too.
@Monue Your absolutely do deserve those beautiful things and for you to have what you wish for in your life. You are strong, and you are amazing and you do most certainly deserve to heal :)
Thanks, now I'm crying. This is all the stuff I needed to hear for so long! To read all of this names me feel more like a normal human being.
This resonates with me greatly. I deserve to heal regardless of what
@Rain45 thank you for this post ,it just brings so many things into perspective.
I deserve to heal because I was meant to be protected and loved and believed . I want a a legacy of a childhood for my children that I never had.
@energeticPenny8 I love that answer Penny and you and your children most certainly deserve that 
@Rain45 thank you I'm just feeling v emotional at the moment
@energeticPenny8 Hey Penny, 
Im not surprised your feeling emotional right now. What you said is going to hit you at a very deep level and bring up all kinds of painful and mixed up feelings. And its okay to feel the feelings you do. Its okay to feel sad, its okay to feel angry, its okay to hurt, to feel let down, to feel betrayed, whatever you feel, its okay. You did deserve to be safe, you did deserve to be loved, to be protected and you should have had that. Part of your healing may be about grieving for what never was, and what you should have had. Every child has the right to feel safe, every child has the right to be protected and I am so sorry you didnt get that for you because you didnt deserve what happened to you. No one ever does no matter what anyone said or made you feel about yourself. You deserved all the love in the world and all the protection to grow up safe and to feel cared about. Remember right now to take care of you in the here and now and remember too, you have people here now, who care what your going through.
@Rain45 ❤😘
I deserve to be free
@scarletPear1945 That is a very good one, and one I can remember saying a long time ago and yes you are dead right. You do deserve to be free Scarlet and you can be emotionally :) as well as physically!
I deserve to heal because I am a wonderful human being and I deserve to be happy!
@intellectualCake2979 You are a wonderful human being and you so deserve to be happy absolutely and despite what happened before your future can give you that now Cake. They cannot despite all they did, take that away from you because they did not destroy the essence of who you are and happiness in the future is yours for the taking
@Rain45,
Thank you,appreciate your reply,it's always nice to have someone who validates the way you feel!😊
@intellectualCake2979 Your most welcome and it does help when someone responds and says you know what, you have every right to feel as you do, or just lets you know that what you feel is okay
I deserve to heal because I am not given this life to feel the pain, I deserve to be happy and content.
@KratZ You do deserve to be happy and content and everyone deserves that Kratz and you most certainly should have been given that
i am a human. i deserve to live a better life. i am kind and i am smart. i can change the world if i want to.
@carmenizon Hey Carmen Love this one. You do absolutely deserve a better life. And I love the changing of the world if you want to so go out there and do all you wish to achieve and dont let anyone stop you achieving your dreams. :) Kindness is such a lovely quality to have too.
I deserve to heal because I did my best in a situation where my best was never good enough, because I deserve the chance to be content and free and at peace.
@calmLake1999 Hey Lake, You answer kind of made me sad reading because you did do your best but your best was probably never ever going to be good enough for those who hurt you no. But you know something, you should never have been placed in that situation where you had to prove and set out to do your best And yes you deserve to feel free and at peace absolutely
There are so much things I'll still like to do with this life.
@plumField5702 What things would you still like to do with your life Plum? And yes you have so much of your life still ahead of you, dont allow what happened to you rob you of any more of your life
@Rain45 Thank you so much. I mean, I still have a lot of goals I want to achieve.