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My domestic violence experience was discounted

turtling February 10th, 2020

I've been in this legal tangle with my ex, you can see other threads, and he demanded I be assessed for parental alienation since our daughter doesn't want to see him.

The alienation assessor had access to the domestic violence police reports, pictures of the kids with bruises on them, various CPS reports (none that found him guilty, all just "unable to be determined"--he'd sued them the first time) and she found that there was no reason to believe that there was abuse in his house now NOR WAS THERE EVER ABUSE IN HIS HOUSE. Furthermore, she said I demonstrated a longstanding pattern of deception because I characterized him as aggressive starting from the time of the divorce and continuing to this day.

I just don't understand. She had the evidence in her hand. How could a therapist and a woman discount what is clearly my legitimate and honest truth in this way? I feel completely unseen and I feel like all those years I spent being locked in closets and choked to unconsciousness and having my face held into the mattress while my 3 month old screamed hysterically next to me were just erased. Like they never happened. But they DID. They did happen. I have police reports! My therapists all say I have all the symptoms of someone from a domestic violence situation. It's a real thing.

He's still cyberstalking me now, she was using to evaluate me blog posts I wrote under a different name and locked tweets and locked Facebook posts. I still feel like he's following me around and locking me up in some ways but according to the report which is part of the legal record, none of it ever happened.

I don't understand. Please help.

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DavidEss February 14th, 2020

@turtling

It sounds just awful. What can we do to help? We're here for you as support.