After Abusive Relationships, I Dont Know How To Be In A Healthy One.
ive only had three serious relationships, and im currently in my third.
my first two were extremely mentally and physically abusive. i was emotionally manipulated to feel like i deserved the abuse and was worthless, and was beaten to an inch of my life.
now, im in a happy healthy relationship. i flinch when he moves too fast even though he has never hit me or even threatened to. i take every little thing he says way too seriously and get upset over the littlest things. i feel like im sabbotaging this for myself even though i want this relationship so badly. this really sucks, man.
I am in the exact same boat !! And it sucks!! I've been through so much abuse of all kinds.. And now I'm in a healthy relationship and I do the same thing.. Take things to serious over think and make an idiot out of myself .. I hate it so much.. I fear I'm going to lose him... He is the greatest man I've ever known .. I've grown so much since we have been together.. That being said I go through these weird (spells) like I'm back in my old relationship.. Idk what to do to fix it.
I can totally relate ... I think I self sabotage mine just to prove to myself that there is no such thing as good/ healthy ... It's like I create the problems here because I don't know what normal is...
Sorry to hear that. I went through same thing 9 months ago he left me. But only after he kept abusing me mentally and physically. Told me i made him hit me because i interrupted him one evening even. I swear i have Stockholm Syndrome. I still cant move on. No friends left because he made sure he was the only one in my life.
