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When bullying doesn't stop

Helba October 14th, 2017
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To make a long story short: I was bullied in all schools I've ever went to (since age of 7 till age of 18). In university there was a break, which I used to publish a book and move abroad. When I did, my old friends cut contact with me and some became my haters. They used fake accounts to write me offensive, demeaning reviews. Even though I asked them to stop and told them I would go legal, they kept doing the same thing. I have found a way to solve this problem, but... but what about the way that it makes me feel?

I have learned my lessons about self love, I know that I deserve to be treated with respect and that I don't need to put up with such behavior. I can be assertive when I need, I can stand up for myself and my close people. This summer I got hit in the head by a neighbour who threatened to kill my dog and called my mother offensive names. I went to the police to sue him. He got scared and stopped bothering my family. However, I was so anxious and stressed. Now I feel the same. The people scare me, really. I know that the people can do anything. And this internet hatred from my ex friends feels like a thousand knives being pushed deeper in my body.

I have no idea how to protect myself emotionally. As for forgiveness - it might be useful when the problems was solved and you are still stuck with anger. However when you are continously under attack, forgiveness shows the other person that they can do whatever they want to you without any consequences. So don't tell me please that forgiveness will solve all my problems, because it won't.

What can I do to feel better about myself, to stay strong emotionally, when there is always someone or something against me? I have done lists of my skills, my supportive people, how the universe is for me etc. But I still feel so miserable when I encounter new hatred. And hatred is everywhere. I feel like I am walking under a rainy cloud. Can somebody help me?

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Helba OP October 15th, 2017
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@wizeakre

Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate it. So many people have been touched by bad treatment. I wonder why we keep getting things that we don't deserve. I have read that those are tests of character that we must overcome. Sometimes I feel like I am becoming more defined by what is happening. I know that I am a warrior. But I never wanted to be a warrior, I wanted to be an angel, if we speak with mythological terms.

As for the pain becoming scientific, at first I thought that you were going through psychosomatics. I have experienced a lot of physical pain due to draining emotions, sadly. You track down the bad things that have happened up to this moment? How come? Can you explain?

It's always helpful when somebody validates your emotions. I am really glad you posted your reply on here. Thank you again.