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Can't start therapy?
Newbie Hub / by Helba
Last post
 December 14th, 2018
...See more Hey everyone! I was on therapy on 7 cups and now I'd like to return. However, I noticed that the "connect to therapist" option vanished from the messages board, and I also can't activate my old subscriptions. I found the url to the "find therapist" subpage of 7 cups, but when I tried to connect, I only got this message: "Online therapy requests not allowed by user organization. (152) Members, you can find a new listener on the browse listeners page [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/]. Listeners, you can reach out to a peer support listener [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=98] for extra support." Does 7 cups still offer online therapy? If yes, is it my problem that I can't access it? Anyone could help me? Greetings!
When bullying doesn't stop
Trauma Support / by Helba
Last post
 October 15th, 2017
...See more To make a long story short: I was bullied in all schools I've ever went to (since age of 7 till age of 18). In university there was a break, which I used to publish a book and move abroad. When I did, my old friends cut contact with me and some became my haters. They used fake accounts to write me offensive, demeaning reviews. Even though I asked them to stop and told them I would go legal, they kept doing the same thing. I have found a way to solve this problem, but... but what about the way that it makes me feel? I have learned my lessons about self love, I know that I deserve to be treated with respect and that I don't need to put up with such behavior. I can be assertive when I need, I can stand up for myself and my close people. This summer I got hit in the head by a neighbour who threatened to kill my dog and called my mother offensive names. I went to the police to sue him. He got scared and stopped bothering my family. However, I was so anxious and stressed. Now I feel the same. The people scare me, really. I know that the people can do anything. And this internet hatred from my ex friends feels like a thousand knives being pushed deeper in my body. I have no idea how to protect myself emotionally. As for forgiveness - it might be useful when the problems was solved and you are still stuck with anger. However when you are continously under attack, forgiveness shows the other person that they can do whatever they want to you without any consequences. So don't tell me please that forgiveness will solve all my problems, because it won't. What can I do to feel better about myself, to stay strong emotionally, when there is always someone or something against me? I have done lists of my skills, my supportive people, how the universe is for me etc. But I still feel so miserable when I encounter new hatred. And hatred is everywhere. I feel like I am walking under a rainy cloud. Can somebody help me?
Betrayal of a close friend
Depression Support / by Helba
Last post
 September 25th, 2017
...See more I am a writer and my best friend Aggie (name changed) is also a writer. In 2015 we have published our books under the same publishing company. Then I have sent her my first message. I did my best to be a great friend, I supported her as much as I could. I read her stories, wrote fanfictions for her, drew fanarts for her. Two years later she read my new book and sent me a hate review, saying that my characters were "brainless" and telling them to kill themselves. I confronted her about this and she said that she exaggerated and apologized. Things went smoothly for 2 months, when I looked through the old reviews of my novel. I got new hate comments and very low ratings. I tracked the profiles of haters and discovered that the haters were fans of Aggie's books and gave her long postive reviews and very high ratings. The haters' accounts were all connected one to another, and to Aggie's account, and one's name was Aggie's old name. I confronted her about it, and she said that I was paranoid and that I keep accusing her all the time, and that my book was probably lousy if I got such bad reviews. I am shattered. I don't know what's worse, that I lost a friend I trusted or that my book got unnecessary bad reviews because of all it. ;_; Can anyone encourage me? I feel really depressed.
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