Traumatic Experiences Subcommunity- Daily Check-in: Tuesday, 2nd May, 17
Hey sweet peas <3 How are you all doing today? It's a glorious Tuesday!! How has it been so far?
A bridge can still be built, while the bitter waters are flowing beneath. – Anthony Liccione
That is a beautiful quote and I think we all can relate with it! So no matter what we have faced in the past, we can still build a bridge to get to the other side and move forward :) Heal and love yourself with ferocity <3 So happy that we're now a subcommunity :D Hope you all have a wonderful day and share your day with us <3 :)
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I love those doggies! Haha. I needed that laugh today!
My goodness, one of my very first post in a community. I'm feeling so overwhelmed these days. Just got diagnosed with PTSD, major depression, and clinical anxiety. I spent some time in the US military, and life has been hard. Real hard. Since I came home. real hard .
I never know who to talk to about my trauma, as I have much of it. I try and deal with it without exploding on innocent people. Most people though, just don't "get it." especially people have never been around a combative atmosphere.
Today is just super hard for some reason. I feel like I can't stop crying, and all of these emotions are just closing in on me.
@generousCity4390 Hey City I am so sorry for the diagnosis you had. Coming back from a combat zone is too stressful as you have been through a lot of things while you were on field. I am sorry for your PTSD and I can understand it is too overwhelming for you. I am so sorry you do not have much people around with whole you can talk about it. But let me assure you we all are here for you. And whenever you feel overwhelmed you can talk to us here. Take care of yourself.
@sujaypai
Thanks
@PuppyLove13
I'm doing better than I was yesterday, thanks to a lovely listener on here who gave me some time :-)
I've also made a major decision today - to stop EMDR treatment. Feeling a mixture of disappointment and relief over that.
@Tamba Hey Tamba. glad you received the help you needed from a listener here. Seems you were in some confusion over the EMDR and decided to discontinue it? May be hence you have that mixed feelings. I hope it works out well for you.
Recently my mother and I took a long walk in the country. Talking of family and things that are wrong now and how did they get that way? It led to a conversation about the past (because I think it's part of how things got this way). Too late I realized once again that this isn't something I'll ever get closure with or a straight answer. But I feel a softness towards my mother because now I realize where she is coming from. There are just certain things she cannot handle. And God bless her, hasn't she handled enough for one lifetime?!?
I love her so much and I hurt for her childhood and a little for my own. But the past is the past. Someday it will stay there for good but until then there is love, hope and forgiveness.
@themainjane
I also recently learned that things were much more difficult for her when she was a child than I had previously suspected. I think she was deeply impacted and became somewhat emotionally fragile and guarded as a result.
Speaking with your parent when you are both adults, when time and distance has allowed perspective, can be rewarding and enlightening. At first, things went very badly and as we walked old hurts surfaced but as we continued things worked out. It ended with us both saying that we love each other and don't want to hurt.
I feel very blessed to have this woman as my mother. A woman who pushes past her fragility- to me that is so strong of her.
I hope .. I don't know what I hope, I just hope.
@themainjane it is wonderful to see you making paths beyond the pain and suffering you endured to find a new perspective on your mother and empathizing with all she went through too. 
@themainjane I agree with you Jane. Thankfully you got a different perspective than may be what you were having earlier. Offcourse sometimes communicating solves some of the interpersonal issues. I am glad it did for you and you have this new found relationship with your mother. Take care of yourself. You are awesome.
I have learned that my past experience has,led me to just not deal with reality, if there is a problem, I will try to avoid it ,I have been trying to overcome this by talking with my spouse on important things, but I am getting not response ,so I just withdrawal. Kinda tired of feeling like I have to deal with important decisions alone.
@jr50 Hey JR hugs. I can agree your husband has been unsupportive of you. But I also see you don't give that support to yourself too because of it. I wish you could be kind and caring towards yourself first and. I am sure with that you can do most things even if you have to do it alone. Take care. We are there with you.
@sujaypai. Thank you, yes you are so right, I have a hard time being kind to myself, I am going to try to do that more
@jr50 I hear your frustration and isolation in a relationship that you seem to have to hold up and support. It must be difficult to feel you are having to carry them. But how strong you must be to hold up under so much stress.
I have a situation where I am caregiver for another so that weight can be heavy sometime. I can only do the best I can. That is all I expect of myself.
Hope you find a way to adjust your expectations and see how incredible you really are just for getting through this.
@soulsings. AWW thank you so much for your kind words, yes it is difficult and sometimes I collapse under all the stress, I am trying to practice self care more.
@jr50 I find exercise, yoga and energy work help me be stronger and destress me more. The key to me seems to be reinforcing my own self care and reinforcing my foundation more and leaning less on someone else so I don't topple over when they are not steady.
@soulsings. That is very good advice, I tend to rely on my husband, but he is not stable, so when he is having an episode, I tend to feel worse, I used to rely on my self when I was a much younger me, it harder now, but I think I will make an effort to get back to that ME!
To be honest, I'm unravelling right now and can't think clearly... I keep writing stuff end blanking out and writing again. I really went to run away but I can't so I go somewhere in my mind when I don't have to adult and I can't eat and I don't want this right now but there's no where else to go and other people need me so I got to put on my big girl pants and deal
i forgot how to use punctuation as well. Clearly.
@KatieMoon1 oh no that sounds awful. Have you considered a 1-1 chat with a listener or a therapist that may help you find a way through this?
I personally like the discussions here at 7cups. You can find them here. There is one on Thursday 8am. https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/
I have had to try to help myself when I first came here and found these very helpful https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php
Hope you get the support we need.