Personal growth
So I'm 21(male) and there has been a lot of opportunities that I have missed in my life as of late and I'm in a place where it just seems really hard to get motivated to improve myself. I know what I need to do but it's new waters for me, I've never done enough to care for myself and I want that be different , I have someone important to me that I don't want to let down, including myself and I just for once want to be able to do the most I can to be the best me, tho right now I'm just struggling so much. I've always just half donkeyed stuff then gave up on it. I'm sick of being clingy, of worrying about unnecessary things, I want to be confident and in control of my emotions, tho for some reason it's just the hardest thing for me
@nathanVargas23 sorry to hear you are struggling but glad to hear you are seeking support on 7 Cups.
Thank you that means a lot 🙂
@nathanVargas23 Hey Nathan, I know that life has many crossroads, but it will work out in the end. Carefully think about each and every opportunity and what may happen in the future. I remember hearing that life is like a game. Treat it like that and value each move and consider your strategies. Make sure that you do not regret anything, and be positive.
I definitely understand how you feel. I'm getting ready to take a big step to try to improve and focus on me but it can be scary. We should chat!
Totally I'm down
@nathanVargas23 sorry you are feeling down. How long has this been going on?
Hmm well I would say it all started a few years back when I first got with this girl. Just started to get really complacent and it pushed her away. I'm lucky enough to have her around now, but she just wants me to work on myself, and to not get comfortable where I am. I'm living with my mom and ATM having a hard time getting a job so just been stuck for a good while now, pushing as best as I can tho
@nathanVargas23
I feel the first step towards this journey .. Is to realize , to get clarity what actually a person wants....its glad to see your journey is started... It might be with ups and downs... Joys and sorrows... But it's worth to experience.. Please keep this in mind. Don't loose hope ever😊... Have a wonderful journey 🌷
I feel that I am in a very similar situation. I’m 33 and I have recently to the point in my life where all of these things that you have pointed out have made a huge negative impact on my self and my loved ones. I got really content with everything being how it was and lost my motivation to make it better. In time I became ashamed and depressed about my situation. I pushed away my wife for a long time. She hang on until it started to take a huge toll on her mental health. Now I have fallen behind financially to the point where I am going to jail over missed child support payments tomorrow, and emotionally because I lost my wife who was THE light in my life. I say all of this to say: the things that you have pointed out I would give anything to be aware of 10 years ago. Keep going in the path that you have started.
