DIVORCE doesn’t mean a failed marriage
DIVORCE doesn’t mean a failed marriage
We’ve been conditioned to believe that a marriage has failed if it doesn’t last forever.
I feel that a marriage leading to divorce can be complete & successful if it has achieved what it was meant to; NOT every marriage is supposed to last forever & it is okay.
I’ve seen many divorced individuals :
✔️ Evolving enormously post divorce as if it’s a rebirth
✔️ Transforming into a completely new individual
✔️ Feeling a renewed sense of energy
✔️ Taking a quantum leap in their thinking
✔️ Embracing new chapters of love
I believe divorce shouldn’t be a taboo anymore.
If a partner or a couple wants to break free from a marriage that doesn’t seem like love or aligned with one’s being, WHY NOT separate provided they’ve tried everything to make it work and are still suffering?
Where we fail as a society is when we tell others:
👉🏿 It’s okay. 99% of the marriages are like this.
👉🏿 Come on. Never think of a divorce.
👉🏿 Think about your child, compromise & stay.
By saying so, we just reinforce a belief in them that life is meant to be dysfunctional and unhealthy marriages are normal.
Can we stop? Is this how we are evolving?
@yashggorani
I will agree that divorce should not be an end but a beginning.
I view life as a lesson and people in our lives are there like characters in a book.... a chapter or few til we out grow that story line. Trying to stay in a story going no where is not good for either party. I think my views changed when we simply did not grow in the same direction or time frame. it disrupts the life you built together but life is short to be unhappy.
@yashggorani
I completely agree! I always say that I picked the best husband to be divorced from because we both just agreed that we wouldn't be happy together any longer, but we also didn't hate each other and wanted the other to succeed in life and find joy. We also each wanted the other to be happy and healthy in order to be the best possible parents to our daughter.
Both of us had parents who went through emotional, contentious divorces where they struggle to be in the same room almost 30 years later. I am proud to say that we are still friends even as we moved into new relationships, and we even celebrate birthdays and holidays all together! Divorce can absolutely be positive!
Happy divorce is better than a miserable marrige
@yashggorani
I think there might be too many extremities surrounding divorces in our societies, from stigmatizing it to treating it just like fun.
I remember a person from my English classes many years ago, who during one of exercises with a fierce look said: "A person who was divorced is never worth any trust!". I saw her passing by just a few months ago, the same fierceness and bitterness in her lonely face.
But on the other hand, I believe, being divorced is sometimes too much normalized. It is like: "Oh, a divorce? It is nothing! That happens to everybody...". I think a divorce might not be the end of the world (right, it can be a new beginning, too), but always it is a disaster, especially with children around.
I would strongly disagree with measuring a divorce with no children and a divorce when a couple has children the same way. I believe with children, who are innocently hurt because of their parents' decision to go separate ways, it is never easy, no matter how much positively advertised it is.
It’s true what you said Divorce should not be treated as something wrong that couples do
@yashggorani
agree
its a good one.. I myself thought about the same thing.. its better to cut off than suffering in an unhealthy relationship.. a person may come this part when they finally believe it’s time to stop trying to make up things between both parties.. no more good things come out of that relationship.. I mean what’s point on lingering for so long?? Setting free from broken marriage is peaceful for both sides.. they can choose the path they wanted after that..
People change so much from year to year and sometimes people grow apart or their goals don't match like they used to. its okay to acknowledge that and to move towards things that are better for the people involved, whether it be through divorce or whatever else. You should live the way you want to and be around the people that bring you joy and let/help you grow.
@yashggorani it literally failed that's why people divorce, don't say you sugar coating a divorce 🤦♂️