hey guys

So one of my friends(let's call her A) that I recently decided to cut off texted me yesterday calling me names and saying that no one really likes me. It happened a month back when A called another friend's gf a gold digger. I subtly protested but finally agreed with her as she kept giving instances about how that girl is really with our friend for money. Later that night, I told my boyfriend about this because I felt bad and guilty. And my boyfriend decided that our other friend deserves to know about it as well. but when confronted about it, my friend said that I was the one who suggested it and although I feel like I may have been wrong in entertaining A, I am very certain that I did protest when she started gossiping. Ever since high school ended, I have really tried hard to cut off these people because some of them were really mean to me and mostly because whenever I hang out with them, there's always some drama that comes. But when we came to college in the same city, my bf who I live with insisted I hang with them cause they're my "friends". But today when I said I would appreciate it if he would respect my decision to be distant and distance himself a little as well, he got really mad at me. He said that I was always A's puppet. That really hurt me and idk what to do. I have a hard time saying no to people and I always get manipulated easily. but rn im at a really dark spot because I don't have anyone to talk to and I can't stop questioning if I am the toxic person.