Narcissist Wife
I currently have a therapist. My therapist has met my wife and she calls usually right before my appointments. I thought I was going to therapy for something else at first. I asked my therapist if I was a narcissist or BPD and he said not at all. The very next session after the session he met my wife, he said I’m dealing with not only her being a narcissist, but also sounds like her mother is too. The therapist said that it could be possible I have married into a narcissistic family and anything I ever do will never be enough. My wife said she was going to sue my therapist. She got pretty pissy last Friday when she called and my therapist was with patients and she didn’t get to talk to him. She controls absolutely everything and then complains about her having to do it. It’s all new territory to me and I’m try my best to find ways to deal with if for the sake of my children.
@DodgingTraps
I am very sorry you are dealing with narcissistic wife. It's good you are seeing a therapist. Boundaries are important. you have to know that a person with these traits is not going to respect your boundaries, they will try endlessly to breach them and it can be draining over time.
Her behaviors DO extend to your children, and they don't know. You have to take care of your mental health and your children's. Assure them they are " loved " , they are "enough", and make sure they grow with love and compassion to each others. Because they will NOT get those from a narcissist mother.
Letting others live in confusion through Lying to them, manipulation them and gaslighting, are patterns that often don't change.
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A narcissist is sneaky, cunning, when they want supplies they will try to get your attention by pretending to be nice to you, after they were being cold at you. Don't fall into their trap.
Not all narcissist are easily detected, some seem to be nice but don't be fooled, even psychopaths, serial killers are said to be the nicest people in the world.
I got this from internet. When a Narcissist Wants Your Attention:
They display Grandiose Behavior
They Interrupt or Talk Over You
They Make Everything About Themselves
They Criticize or Belittle You
They Display Jealousy or Envy
They Are Manipulative
They Do Things to Get Your Validation or Approval
They Are Being Self-Centered
They Are Acting Entitled
They Purposely Interrupt Plans or Events
They Are Playing the Victim
They Are Exaggerating or Lying
They Are Trying to Make You Feel Guilty
The full list is here
https://unfilteredd.net/five-signs-that-a-narcissist-wants-your-attention/
One statement says “they interrupt or talk over you”. Can you help me understand if they do that while they are angry or upset? Or they do always?
@neonPine7464
I try to answer if okay
I think it is whenever they want to do that they'll just do that. I could be wrong, but even if it's only when they are angry, we are not responsible to please them. If we keep trying to not make them angry, that's a red flag in itself.
I hope you are not around a narcissist and you will be careful, and know that no matter what they do, don't fall into their trap
I’m really sorry dude. Sending prayers 💜
Just wanted to share this article
https://themindsjournal.com/narcissists-fake-empathy-manipulate-emotions/
Be careful to not fall into their fake kindness.
Narcissists will try to get supply by pretending to be nice.
@DodgingTraps
If the narcissist says that they “adore” you, it's for the same reason they'd flatter anyone: to get you to give them whatever it is that they want. True narcissists will flatter you, praise you, even occasionally do something “nice” for you, but only ever to get you to give them what they want.
Source https://www.quora.com/When-a-narcissist-says-I-adore-you-do-they-mean-it#:~:text=If%20the%20narcissist%20says%20that,give%20them%20what%20they%20want.