Leading life alone - (self-pity) struggles
The self pity consuming your whole being.
Ending up being without “friends” or ppl cause you’ve been used n ghosted pretty much the whole time.
No, they're not good.
Being afraid when you’re low cause there is no one to turn to, to write to but yourself or groups like these (but admit it, it’s more like talking to yourself in diary)
There is no one that can acknowledge your effort n everything it takes to be THIS mentally strong on your OWN, but yourself.
It hurts, I know it’s MUCH better be off from those people at any time, they don’t deserve me either, but it’s like waking up from a dream where you’ve been only a character that played this all n now it’s all over.
Or like a game setting where u repeat or reset each time but w new background n stuff around.
People, I’m very sad.
Going thru so much exhaustion n if you want to be seen u must constantly put up new stuff or something in order to be faintly noticed or visible in these cases (also hurts a lot), nobody to check up on you. Every efforts for others I would give myself like a gift or treasure can just to be returned w nothing instead.
No one stayed, no one reciprocated enough care, it all crashed down…
Even those that seemed to be “good” disappeared on me just like that one day.
Protecting n healing myself is very hard.
((Anyone who wants to talk abt this, in same situation or similar, ur welcome, I would be glad for some company, I literally have no one for these types of stuff, when I share around on some apps, ppl usually try to fix u instead of giving you support or encouragement they just say u should be either grateful or pray, I get this but all we need is just listening n kindness nothing else….seriously, no pointing out where to go or what to do, I only need to be heard! Is it so hard for them to understand or see this?))
P.S.: Pls tell me I’m not alone.
@livbinny
Nothing is more distressing than feeling like you do right now. It hurts deeply when you feel there is no one who really cares about you. I wish you didn't have to go through this. This is hard but please do not give up. We are here for you, and we care about your well-being.
Here are some ways to connect with others on the site:
Joining chats and discussions can also help to feel connected. The community calendar shows all events taking place daily and during the month.
There will be a discussion in the 50+ community room tomorrow Tuesday at 3.30 pm est. You are welcome to join. You can find more discussions here.
Here is a link to the loneliness support, the room is open on Mondays and Tuesdays 7 Cups Group Support Chat
You are not alone in this struggle. We are here to help each other so please if you like to chat more about what's happening in your life you can always connect with a listener for a 1:1 chat.
I hope this helps 💙
@amiablePeace77
Wow what a detailed post! I was thinking of suggesting trying group if Livbinny is interested, but your reply is full of useful information!
all I need is this comfort. Your “wish u didn’t have to go through this” and other comments above showing empathy n understanding the words I need to hear that no one gives me, thank you!!!!!!!!!! I appreciate them so much.
I wish the same. I’m a fighter. Still in the same. Loneliness feels insane w my isolation n I’m fighting n when I feel like talking I either come here or vent about this. It’s ongoing. Day by day. Sometimes I go to circles but when I’m exhausted n I prefer not to wait or when I feel more passed by n invisible, I come n spill it out. I’m in very deep pain day by day trying to shake it off n continuing to be w myself the most I can be without being overly afraid that there is no one to help or catch up on me. I feel heard by you🙏🏻❤️🩹
@livbinny
Hi Livbinny. If you are interested in taking a look at the group chat, I would recommend to the Sharing Circle group. It is a room for participants to share, you can join in the queue and share for 7 minutes.
@livbinny
You are definitely not alone ! Everyone is fighting to be heard by another, to be validated by others. Why not just talk to yourself ? You are always available for yourself 24/7, right ? GIve it a shot, maybe you'll feel better ?
All my life I’m used to be in my imagination sorting things in my head when it’s too much to write down or I’m exhausted to express it. Trust me. It’s more than u know!!
It feels too close to how I feel. A lot of times I feel like my presence does not matter to others.
@livbinny
I wish we could connect telepathically lol, then there won't be needs for words etc... too much to write and express, too much effort.
But still, we can still chat here or msg me when you want. I'll respond, no probs. It's good that you do talk to yourself. I'm trying to do that, but what comes out is less than encouraging... lol... mostly negative stuff... which is not good and all too exhausting.... sigh.... I'm hoping that I can talk to myself in a more positive and encouraging manner. Do you do that ?
@livbinny I get your situation. I am going through the same situation. People use you ,good people disappear, people don't acknowledge your efforts and in the end of the day you are alone . Have experienced this for around 5 years now. Sometimes I also wonder the same if life is that?? I'm just a character who god is playing with. But I read a quote by Mr bean he actually translated it's meaning from a verse in a Bible in a funny way and it said what God will say to us " I'm mysterious folks, live with it " . This was kinda a realisation for me and then another thing he said ( it was video on YouTube where Mr bean was talking about God or something) he said that sometimes we just need grace from God . I usually don't see god as god but I view god as universe and it makes more sense to me . So I interpreted it as sometimes only what we need is grace from this universe. The grace we are actually looking for. Even though the universe's purpose is not known to us,we may feel like a character but it's our personal purpose which will have a meaning only special to us , and if we get grace from the Universe like someone who genuinely cares for us etc. But my conclusion from this was that I have been given the grace to try to live a life alone happily. But tbh I have been unsuccessful so far . I just wanted to tell you yeah it's hard to be alone and not being appreciated by people. And I will continue trying to find a way in which we can live alone happily without feeling lonely because if this is gonna really continue as a cycle then it would suck. So yeah I get you.
@livbinny hello. I would like to be your friend, but I'm not sure how to do it here. I'm a member so I can't chat. I guess when you want to talk you can reply here. Take care 💕
Yeah unfortunately not rly where else…thanks, u too
@livbinny, hey I hope you find true friends, both online and in person, that are reliable and that you can be yourself with while being accepted. I myself went through something similar for a good portion of my life and for the longest time I was sad, didn't know why this was happening, used to fear I'd never hear from a given person again and I couldn't figure out why, etc. I'm to this day still misunderstood, up to the point where I try and figure out how to express myself so I'm not misunderstood. I did get lucky and made a bunch of friends. Then I went through a period of time where I had to figure out who the true friends were and who is not worth being around as I was so desperate for a while just to not be lonely. So if you do make friends in the future, be aware of that. Message me if you want. I get along with a wide variety of people, especially the misunderstood. I'm rarely bothered by little things that bother most people, such as when someone feels sad a lot, catastrophizes, or says sorry a lot, or talks a lot. Good luck to you.
@livbinny you're not alone at all. In fact i've spent countless nights talking to AI just to keep myself from over thinking about the fact that im all alone only to find out from the AI ironically enough that my lack of friends despite my strong desire for meaningful connections was due to my self-pity and suppressed anger that manifests itself into pushing people away
I get you. In my experience it was always selling myself short. Giving too much immediately cuz they saw my positive energy n fed off everything I had back then till now… basically I knew nothing about limits when it comes to being friendly w ppl. They took n took more each time n suddenly left. But I understand when self pity n anger r e u constantly. It kinda makes u feel like u don’t deserve the ppl….but it’s cuz its imbalanced I think…or if they would come way too close I would do that but otherwise I would let them in so…..we both kinda ended up similar way.
