Need new coping mechanisms
A few months ago, I used to use age regression as a coping mechanism to deal with stress. For those who don't know what it is, it's when someone temporarily reverts to a younger mindset as a way to deal with stress, anxiety, PTSD, trauma, depression and other issues. When they're not regressed, they're normal, functioning teens/adults. But here's where my problem comes in. There's a negative stigma surrounding it. People get it mixed up with kinks like age play and DDLG and its variants, they say it isn't healthy or that it's a mental disorder, that it's creepy. Age regression is not any of those things but these know-it-alls act like it is. Now keep in mind that a lot of these people who say these things aren't licensed therapists/professionals yet they say that all age regressors need psychiatric help. When I used to regress, all I would do is wear pastel-colored clothes, color in a coloring book, watch my favorite childhood shows, eat snacks that I liked when I was younger and play with my stuffed animals. But I stopped recently because of how everyone keeps saying it's unhealthy so it make me question both my sanity and the morality of what I was doing. I never really got to be a child to an extent when I was younger so I felt like it was a way to relive my childhood but now that I'm 17, my family expects me to act like a fully-grown adult when I'm naturally a very childlike person. I still like unicorns, I like playing video games, I like watching cartoons, I still like wearing fun clothes/hairstyles and I still like cuddling with stuffed animals/pillows when I sleep at night but some people in my family don't like how I'm like this. I want to keep being myself but I also don't want to end up being an 18-year-old kid who's just wasting her life away by being childish by next year. Because of all the hate that age regression gets and because of how everyone says it's unhealthy despite the fact that those people aren't professionals, I miss those days ever since I stopped. I feel like even though it helped me a lot when I was still doing it, some random people on YouTube and TikTok say that I should talk to a therapist and they can help me find better ways to cope. But my friends and family keep telling me "Do what works for you." And one friend said that leaving my regression days behind will help me to grow as a person but that was before she really knew what it was. Because of all the conflicting opinions, the stigma and the hate I've gotten for it, I really don't know what to do. What are your opinions? Can I still regress if I want to or should I leave it behind forever and just find better, healthier, more socially-acceptable ways to deal with my problems? Any advice/suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance. 💖
I also forgot to mention that age regression is something that some therapists approve of and recommend for some patients but since all these people who are NOT licensed professionals say that no real therapist would recommend this to anyone, I don't know who to believe. I'm a natural born people-pleaser so if I need to change everything about myself just to be accepted, I'm willing to do it.
Can someone please reply? I've been trying to reach out to so many people about this and haven't gotten a response. I've been feeling very lonely lately becauss of this.
I think you could continue to regress if you want, because it is part of you and I find that there is nothing wrong with acting and having childish tastes. The most important thing I think is that you can (if it's not already the case, I don't really know) take certain situation seriously if necessary. If your regression only affects your tastes and some appeared from you as playing with games or other, then it does not matter in itself for me. The main thing is that you can act as you want, but at the same time you can make certain important decisions, and find a person who can appreciate you for who you are despite all this. I'm sorry if I didn't fully understand the problem, if my opinion was bad or if it wasn't helped. In any case, I hope that the opposite is true. Courage to you, you can go through this ❤️
I always try to go with the question of "is it hurting anyone?" It very much sounds like it is something that activity helps you, and it doesn't affect anyone else. Age regression, in my book, is something that is totally ok!! It's your life, if you want to have soft blankets and coloring books there's nothing wrong with that! If it makes you feel better and less stressed I think you should keep doing it.