sober for me now? what a joke.
on oct 31, 2022 my boyfriend gave me an ultimatum "put the drugs in the trash or youre single" i agreed, i dumped it all, and got sober.
on feb 19, 2024 my boyfriend broke up with me anyway. sigh.
my friends in my aa meetings say "you have to be sober for YOU miles, you were sober for HIM now you are sober for YOU" like what?! i dont have the strength for that! i did the drugs because im weak. im still weak. what do i do? im not sure. but im still sober, only god knows how.
day 511 of being sober begins.
511 days is a massive achievement @justmiles. You may have found motivation from your previous partner but it was you that put in the work and you that got to 500+ days. Remember to give yourself the credit for achieving that. To have walked your journey, and made it to 511 days is massive. And that doesn't sound to me like someone that is weak. When I hear that story I hear strength, perseverance and resilience. Rooting for you to get to 512.
@justmiles
Congratulations on your streak ....
this is a big issue when we tag our motivation on others.... if the relationship fails we feel like why bother....I hope you see the positive for you..... and plan or motivation to do anything should not based on others but on yourself.... a person can give you extra reason to do something but the majority of inspiration should be for you..... that is what makes it last..... regardless if it is quitting an addiction / losing weight or any other goal.
YOU are very strong to do what you have done .... that is not an accomplishment of a weak person....
@justmiles congrats !!! being sober for that long - you are defiantly not weak. I am trying to get sober and really struggling.
sorry to hear about your struggles with alcohol I also wanted to quit for someone else and when we broke up it felt like there was no reason too I’m happy your still sober wish you well :)
