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My partner drinks

User Profile: Clio9876
Clio9876 December 3rd

My partner drinks. Not a lot. But daily. They have health conditions, each of which alcohol can be a cause. Its doing my head in.

To me it is obvious that alcohol is at least a contributory factor, if not the cause. But they are convinced its not. Each symptom, they ascribe to something else.

I want to shout at them "look! Just look at what alcohol is doing to you!" I want to show them websites that prove the links. But I know I will be doing no good. Except letting off a bit of steam. I know they won't hear until they want to hear. I know it is futile to try to take responsibility for someone else's choices. But I want to, none-the-less. Because this is affecting me.

So I've come here to rant instead.

Thank you for listening.

I'm angry. And that's OK. I care. And that's a good thing.

I want to do something. I want to say something.

But my partner knows what I think about this and doesn't seem to want to hear it. And in that scenario, I can't see saying something achieving anything. So maybe this is just an opportunity to focus on me and processing anger.

But. I'm not good at sharing (in real life). I'm trying to change that. This makes me feel I should say something. Otherwise I'm not living up to my goal to share and not keep inside. It makes me afraid that I'm finding reasons to not say something, to justify what I was going to do anyway.

It will be OK.

Thank you again for listening.

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User Profile: FaithfulSeasons44
FaithfulSeasons44 December 6th

@Clio9876

You are not alone. I hope it works out in a good way for you all. We're here for you.