Pushy listeners?
Hi
How are us member's supposed to deal with listeners who push and push to share things that we don't feel comfortable with?
I've spoken to quite a few listeners so far. A couple of really good ones. But I still try and connect with others too depending on what time of day it is.
Although my main issue is to do with relationships, I have underlying issues that sometimes come up. And when they do I clearly tell the listener I'm talking to that I don't feel comfortable talking about it. Some respect me and don't push me but others pressure me to try and say everything. I usually end up just logging out because I get into a panic from the pressure. And I don't know what else to do when I've already asked them to not push the subject.
I get that everyone here Is a volunteer and that they are trying to help so I don't want to seem rude. I just don't know how to handle these situations
Just tell them no. If they continue, either leave the conversation or report it, and move on to a different listener. You could also leave feedback/a review explaining they were pushy towards you for certain details you didn't wish to talk about.
As listeners, we're supposed to respect our member or guests decisions on what they do and don't discuss.
@GirlWhoNeedsHelpPls
I'm sorry to hear that there are times where speaking with a listener has made you feel poorly.
There's quite a bit on this site about boundaries and listeners should be respectful of them. Feel free to review those listeners and include that they were being pushy after you already said it was something you were uncomfortable sharing.
Giving those reviews allows 7cups to help make people better listeners. Instead of thinking it as being rude to someone who is volunteering, you can look at it the other way, it can be beneficial for the next person who needs help.
@GirlWhoNeedsHelpPls
Trying to make you talk about things that you clearly don't want to discuss is very unprofessional behaviour. Yes, we are volunteers, but you can have certain basic expectations towards someone who chooses to do this, and you sure don't deserve anyone making you feel worse rather than better! I, too, would encourage you to leave the conversations and report such listeners, and describe how they were pressuring you. They are the ones who were being rude, not you! You can either give them a low star rating and explain things in a text review (which won't be published on their profile, but will lead to them getting more training), or send an email to community@7cups.com (especially if they banned you to prevent you from leaving a bad rating - please report this, too).
@curiosityofnature what were there nicks