(TW) Need help to stop self-harming out of options
I've been doing this off and on for three years. My parents found out and are telling me to stop doing it for attention but that's not the reason and its not that easy. They keep saying they'll get me a therapist but they never do because they don't feel the need. I want to stop self harming but I honestly don't know how. My parents keep saying use your coping skills and yes while that works it sometimes doesnt ease the pain that i want it to ease.
(edited by mary-kate to change methods to say "self-harm" 5/1/2021)
Dude straight up...virtual hugs!!! I was in this dark void as a kid. I didn't cut but I was angry all the time and depressed and just wanted to go away. I was adopted and my parents were the same way. They didn't want to listen to the things they didn't understand. So I eventually went to therapy and found skateboarding as an outlet and poetry in high school and writing has been my biggest weapon. I think you made a huge step in realizing that the cutting isn't getting you anywhere and is only making your emotions worse. I know when I'm upset or sad that I really should cry and talk about it but most of the time I bottle them up and break down and then break stuff and cry and push others away. I see a therapist now and I'm learning how to better understand my emotions. I think if your school has a therapist then you definitely should go see them and reach out. If your parents are still not understanding then say...hey it's not about them...this is about me and I have a future and I deserve happiness and love and I want to live my own dreams and create my own path! Don't stop believing in yourself and your going to get through this dark moment and you will see the good times
First I wanna say getting this app and reaching out for help is already a great idea and big step towards recovery. You clearly want to get better and aren’t the problem here. If you can’t get a therapist then you need a safe space and a support system. Do you have friends you can talk to? Anywhere that you can go to to feel safe, at ease, and happy? If you’re young and you don’t have resources those are your best options.
