Who Self-Harms?
Hey everybody! :) I see on SO MANY websites that talk about self-harm relate the act of self-harming to mental illnesses, and I'd like to take a moment to combat that. I'm not saying that everyone who self-harms doesn't have a mental illness or are just faking it. No, mental illness is not something to knowingly and consciously fake and be proud of. What I'm trying to say is that not EVERYONE who self-harms has to have a mental illness to use it to cope.
ANYONE can self-harm. And by anyone, I mean absolutely ANYBODY. A person who self-harms can have the best support network, amazing grades and seem so successful and look like they're ging to go far in life. Anyone can self-harm, ranging from excelling students to those who are struggling, from people with heaps of friends to those who want to fit in, from those happy, bright people to those who are sensitive, from leaders and professionals to young children, people from advantaged backgrounds to people from disadvantaged backgrounds, from celebrities to peers, from people you admire to people you dislike, from bosses to workers. And the list can go on forever. Self-harm DOES NOT discriminate.
At the end of the day, what we see from people is just what they want to show us. We don't know their innermost thoughts and beliefs, we don't know their entire past or family history.
So please be kind to everybody you know, as you never know what might be going on behind closed doors.
I see on so mamy websites that don't address this, and thought I should! Have a good rest of the week everyone, and remember to take care of yourselves and the ones you love!
If you ever need help, remember that 7 Cups is always here for you, as well as this awesome community! xx
I self harm at least once a week the last three years, feel so defeated, even after meds, in and outpatient i am still doing this to cope with multple traumas and self hate.
@teleah70
im so sorry :( youve been so strong though, living with the traumas. Its had a hard impact on you, and self-harm is your way to cope. Just remember that even wanting to stop, which it sounds like you do, is already step one of the recovery process. Its going to be a long and tough fight against it, but its possible. If I may, Id highly recommend seeing a counsellor/social worker/psychologist to help. Seeking therapy may help you cope with self-harm, find reasons beneath it, and maybe provide you with new coping skills and mechanisms.
Thank you so much for being so brave and posting on here. Even coming to 7 Cups is another great step youve taken! If you feel like youre in need of someone to talk to, feel free to talk to a listener on here. Were all here to support you on your journey, recovery or not. ❤️ xx
@rebecca947 Thank you for your response, this site is amazing and blessed to be on it, Have a therapist and am working towards a recovery. thank you again for your sweet response.
People tell me that I self harm but I'm not sure. I do not cut my wrist or burn myself with a cigarett, I just rove my fingers skin when I'm anxious and yet people freak out :/
@Khalika picking at your skin can be a form of self harm, when you do it hurt yourself, hope you learn coping skills that can help with this habit.
i just relapsed 5 mins ago. before that i hvet cut in month but now i cant even put the blade down...
@Sabrina3886
aww, I
Thank you
@rebecca947