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Things no one tells you about Self-Harm: Trigger Warning
by Jenna
Last post
 November 14th
...See more Everyone mentions the same things when they talk about self-harm. This is what I wish someone told me about self-harm before I fell into its tight gripping claws. 1) It's not only the cuts/bruises/burns/scratches that you have to hide. You have to hide the bloodied tissues, the used band-aids, the band-aid wrapper, and the thing you used to harm. 2) When you shower the dried blood drips out of your band-aid and down your body creating little dark red, almost brown, colored streams. It scares you at first because you think it's opened again. 3) It becomes an addiction. It becomes the only thing that helps. 4) It eventually doesn't help anymore but you keep doing it in the hope it will. 5) Your body will scar and at first, you will like it but eventually, you get sick looking at them. 6) On a bad day, you run out of space. 7) Your band-aids will soak through your jeans or top after a shower and make an obvious square or rectangle patch. 8) They start to smell bad if not looked after. 9) You constantly think about them. 10) Your sleep will hurt and every move you make will too when they are fresh. You act as you like it. You don't. 11) People will never take it seriously enough. 12) They itch like mad whilst they heal. 13) You eventually get frustrated if it has no effect. 14) You don't cry when you do it. You feel nothing. Not. A. Thing. 15) It's so so so hard to escape it. 16) It isn't beautiful. It isn't a fairy tale. It won't help you find love. It is a monster that ruins lives. Please think of all these things before you hurt yourself. You don't want to. I sound like a hypocrite because I do but trust me, you don't want to fall down the dark hole that I and many other people are already in. Put down your fist, blade, lighter, cut your nail short, and get help.
Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 6th
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
SHA #4: Calming Affirmations for Difficult Moments
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 March 22nd
...See more Hello all,  Group Support organizing the month of Self-Harm Awareness Week,  the focus will be on discussing general awareness, and support, and celebrating milestones and small steps. This will be an opportunity for all of us to come together and extend our support and compassion to all who struggling with self-harm.  Life throws its curveballs, and sometimes we feel like we're drowning. You might be feeling overwhelmed and lost, and in those moments, the urge to self-harm might arise as a way to cope.   When you find yourself in those moments, having a set of affirmations can help ground you and bring a sense of calm. Affirmations are powerful tools that can shift your mindset and provide comfort in difficult times. Here are some affirmations you can repeat to yourself when you feel overwhelmed or tempted to harm yourself.  * "This feeling is temporary. I will get through this."  * "I am worthy of love and support. I will reach out for help." You deserve to feel safe and cared for.  * "I am strong and capable. I have faced challenges before, and I can face this one too." You are more resilient than you think. * "My pain does not define me. I am more than my struggles." Pain is a part of life, but it doesn't have to control your existence. You are a complex and worthy person. * "I will focus on what I can control, my breath, my thoughts, and my actions."  * "There is help available. I will find a healthy way to cope." Self-harm is not the answer. There are healthier ways to deal with difficult emotions.  * "I am worthy of healing. I will take steps towards feeling better today." Start small, with one positive step towards self-care. * "I deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion, especially by myself. I choose to be gentle with myself in times of distress." * "I am not alone in this. Some people care about me and want to support me through this struggle." * "My worth is not defined by my struggles or mistakes. I am inherently valuable just as I am." * "I have the power to choose how I respond to this situation. I choose to respond with love and understanding towards myself." * "I acknowledge my pain, but I also acknowledge my capacity for healing and growth. I am worthy of healing." * "I forgive myself for any past mistakes or shortcomings. I choose to let go of self-blame and embrace self-compassion." Please know that affirmations are most effective when repeated regularly and with conviction. Find the affirmations that resonate with you the most and make them a part of your daily self-care routine. If you are struggling with self-harm, please reach out for support. You are not alone, and there is hope for healing. We are all here with you to listen to and support you.  If you have any affirmation that you use, please share it with us here. Also, let's discuss and share our experiences with affirmations during overwhelming moments. All thoughts are welcomed.  ------------------------- Other posts in the SHA series:  SHA #3: Role of Acceptance & Validation [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SHA3RoleofAcceptanceValidation_325495/] SHA #2: "Safe Plan" for people with self-harm issue [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/InformationandResources_1079/SHA2SafePlanforpeoplewithselfharmissue_323303/] SHA #1: Do you think self-harm defines you?  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SHA1Doyouthinkselfharmdefinesyou_324983/]
TW: Poem I wrote(sort of a vent)
by vera08
Last post
 May 24th, 2023
...See more hate myself Falling to pieces one by one Nobody sees how I’m holding on Some tiny thread that’s bound to break I can still feel my body ache Told them once, but they don’t want to listen Not sick enough for my mental condition You can’t tell but I need a physician Sometimes I even hate myself Tired of keeping up the part Unbearable feeling, falling apart Nightmares they creep up in my head Can’t get a one night’s rest in bed Slit my wrist to drown out all my feelings I can’t trust, everyone’s always leaving Say I’m fine but I can be deceiving Sometimes I even hate myself Battlefield on my skin, you don’t get it Everytime that I cut I regret it Feel relief though I don’t recommend it Sometimes I even hate myself Leave me all alone with my own mind Tired all the time cause I disguise All of my own pain I hold inside Trying not to show my own poison Paint my face 'cause the real me is pointless Do my nails, just to rip me to pieces Lose my mind 'cause I don't wanna keep it Sometimes I even hate myself
Shaws poems
by Shawdios
Last post
 March 15th, 2023
...See more [TW, mild romanticism/metaphor/symbolism (not promoting)] The artist wonders how long Till the lines grow deeper And their brush more aggressive How slippery is the slope? they ponder As the farther up lines crawl Their brush imatates a kitten claws Drawing paint from the can Ever so slightly Eventually their brush will grow rusty What then? Will it knock some sense into the artist? Only time will tell But how much will Time tell? Will it tell the artist anything? Or are Time’s words falling on deaf ears The lines are pleasing to touch Their rough texture a craved stimuli So the artist relishes in the fruit of their labor As their fingers trail up and down the canvas Full of fading red lines Both new and old
One Second More
by NebulaCreation
Last post
 February 22nd, 2023
...See more TW: mentions of loss, d3@th, etc Three hearts were made Yet only one is beating Inside this vacant chest Like a desolate greeting Three lungs were made Yet only one is breathing Forever torn apart And never completing I count the numbers To steady by breathing But death keeps lurking And life keeps cheating One by one Count Count Count The numbers stay the same Always the same amount One One beating heart One working brain One crying mouth One horrid thought One Two Two breathing lungs Two empty hands Two tearing eyes Two soaring angels Two Three Three forever siblings Three fading smiles Three cracked hearts Three empty bodies Three One Two Three Keep on going One Two Three But the darkness is growing One second is all I ask One moment is all I need One instance to tell you my words One peaceful thought before I bleed Numbers won’t bring them back Counting won’t make them return Comfort won’t create a spark It’ll only leave me to burn I guess I can join the ashes Laughing underneath the tree Sharing that little music box With the angels, flying free Lend me your wings, brother And a golden halo alike I’ll shine as bright as you And be less human-like Oh to soar with you in the clouds No chains to hold me down Singing on the waves Without a fear to drown Hold my dear hand So empty and cold I’ll see you soon, right? That’s what I was told Three hearts were made Yet only one is beating But soon even my heart Will only be fleeting…
TRIGGER WARNING? Please post terribly embarrassing and angsty poetry
by JessLeMess
Last post
 February 8th, 2023
...See more Hi, I find that when im really depressed, i get hella melodramatic. I find that reading other peoples angsty poems makes me look at myself and get it together a bit. Please feel free to post any terrible and / or horribly cringey depresso poems below :) here's one of mine: And it bleeds, The impurities seep from me And for a while I will be fine Until I am alive again And now there is one more to hide One more to be ashamed of And things are worse So much worse So now I'll Bleed Again thanks kiddos, lots of sadgirl love xx
(triggering) Sorry, this is terrible song/poem. Couldn’t be stuffed to make it rhyme or flow
by willingSugar9815
Last post
 November 21st, 2022
...See more I’m a time bomb A container that’s about to over fill The urge is so strong I want to fight, i’m a day clean At the end of the day, what does this mean Its only say, nothing impressive I feel numb, sad and no longer me whats another mark to add to the collection the more the merrier right, not in this case Im going to fight, not letting myself or others down today
Trigger Warning
by willingSugar9815
Last post
 November 19th, 2022
...See more The pain, numbness and confustion No one sees the pain only the illusion The mask she has is always up, protecting her darkest secrect Every jugemental look and comment, you let her progress be crushed She seem happy, smart, content and safe, well guess what, she not Its getting to much, its becoming to alot She makes sure no one can see, no on will know The pain she inflicts continues to flow The urge is so strong Even though she knows its so wrong. She screams for help but no one hears or shes the tears Shes exhauseted, scared and a time bomb waiting to explode Sorry, that was a horrible poem but it unfortunely sums up some of my feeling.
(triggering) doesn’t really make sense, i have no energy to try
by willingSugar9815
Last post
 November 16th, 2022
...See more I’m suffocating and no one sees it I feel endless pain I have never felt so low when i no longer what to be here im confused but so scared i can’t do this i can’t focus i can barely focus i hate this endless acting when can a rest when can i finally be me the answer feels like never i want to cry but no tears come out the only person i can rely on is me but i don’t even trust me i’m struggling but no one sees it will someone see it, i’m scared and alone a bomb on a timer (I can’t do this no more, it’s so hard and i’m so scared, these thoughts are getting darker, i’ve never felt this way before but i feel so bad i just wish it would *** stop.)- sorry for swearing, but i have no energy to edit.
Thoughts without a train
by Alexija
Last post
 August 13th, 2022
...See more Desperation without sound, Begging with nobody to forgive, Life without breath. Death without conclusion. Eyes that see too much. Thoughts without a railway. Screaming without choice. Pain to shatter the plane of existance. Hope
Comfort (drawing)
by Luckyix
Last post
 July 20th, 2021
...See more This is an old drawing I made related to the feeling of being hospitalized for self harm TW for iv drips and hospital gowns https://oyasumilucky.neocities.org/DA041EFB-2F70-4347-999F-6BA8C372D628.jpeg
Sun is Setting (Trigger Warning: Blades, mention of Cutting)
by Sadbunny26
Last post
 May 22nd, 2021
...See more Sitting in my bedroom, the sun is setting Not gonna lie, back up plans lookin’ pretty tempting, Grades are a mess, future lookin bleak, Self esteem low, Demeanor weak, Gotta say, I think I finally hit my peak, Actually think I hit that a while ago Cause lately it’s been nothin but low after low Got nothing ahead for me, Things looking gray Half my brain lookin’ for reasons to stay But The other half making me feel like a Big F minus People mistaken my anxiety for shyness People saying need to get along with everybody Why I gotta fit in when I already copy copy others actions, copy others likes copy others opinions, like riding a bike It's hard at first but you get the hang of it eventually The real test is when you go home and pretend exceptionally They say “i like to draw.” you say Let's give it a try They say “the blade numbs all.” you say Let's give it a try You try to copy the smile and kind soul when in reality your minds as dark as a black hole Your parents in disbelief as you try to explain You try to talk it out, try to ease the pain You go to your bed, the mood upsetting Sitting in your bedroom, the Sun is Setting
Barbed wire (poem)
by Ghostyghoul
Last post
 May 21st, 2021
...See more There's a castle on a mountain peak that gazes at the horizon line. It's sharp, reflecting bursting reds across waters flaked with wire. There's rust on bell towers and stains flooding sinks and streets. The princess is cold in her bed, basking in the second hands ticking away the promise of warm sun rays on the horizon. This kings throne, who peeks through glass at the waters edge, cannot see the dangers that linger beneath the surface. She can no longer await the morning glow and chases the wire beneath the tide. Chasing the warm red of the sunrise.
Pitter Patter
by UncannyKat
Last post
 April 20th, 2021
...See more ( ️ ️ ️ Trigger Warning ️ ️ ️) I wrote this awhile ago as a window into my depression, warning, It’s extremely dark and deals with suicide/Self Harm at the end!!! Pitter-Patter says the rain on the window Pitter-Patter goes her tears to the floor Mama said be strong Mama said hold your head up high don’t cry. Walking to school each day, alone. unknown. Friends smile with her Friends defend her She’s simply numb. it’s not fun Pitter-Patter says the rain on the window Pitter-Patter as her blood pours to the floor Mama said be strong Mama said hold your head up high don’t cry. She cried, and nobody knows it happened Until it was to late Pitter-Patter, Pitter-Patter, Blood Pitter-Patters to the floor

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These guidelines are inspired by some communities around 7 cups! This is so we can adapt our little family to accommodate as many different life experiences and situations as possible. We recognize we cannot adapt to every circumstantial rule. However, we have outlined some of the common guidelines needed for our community. ❤️

✪ Please do not share any graphic images or descriptions of self-harm tools!

✪ Please do not mention the name of any tools used for self-harm in any area of the self-harm recovery community.

✪ Names of methods of self-harm are allowed to be shared in the group support room, but where possible please try to exchange a method name for the phrase "self-harm".

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