I Need help explaining this
I don’t know how to explain this but like, I know I don’t have to listen to people. Everyone says that they just want to the best for me but I can do whatever I want and I do. But I’m still a people pleaser and the people who tell me these things are close to me so I listen. I don’t know why I listen becayse all their advice is good advice but not what I want to do. For instance, I got a new job in a new area and it’s only been two weeks and I realize this is not what I want my life to be like. I don’t know where it went wrong or at what point I listened to everyone so much. And then if I say something, it’s clearly my fault cause I took their advice and didn't do what I wanted. But maybe I just took their advice because I didn’t know what I wanted and now if I complain, it’s my fault. Here’s the thing though, if I don’t take these people advice and I do tell them what I want to do, then they criticize my decision and say I am being stupid or they are really condescending. I can’t really explain what is happening. It’s kinda like manipulation but because they think what is best? I hope this made sense.
@drzombienoodles
It is not just people pleasing when we are unsure of what to do etc we can listen to input from others but in the end if something we chose did not go well. we just need to regroup and make a new plan....
i do not think it is anyone's fault or needs to be blamed on whatever advice was taken. Two weeks into a new job is pretty early to decide you do see it being a long term thing many jobs i did not have that feeling until perhaps a few months...... many of us do not see the job we have as our life long thing but instead being in the meantime.
Perhaps you can continue to look and apply for things if possible around your job you have now unless you are in the shape to go without an income until you find what You want to do.