How do I build up self confidence?
I have always been aware of my weight since I was heavier than my sister. I love my mom but she is the reason I hate my body. As a kid I always thought that I was the fattest girl alive but looking back at old photos I don’t think I was fat at all. Ridiculously the other week my mom showed me a picture of myself from a few years ago and told my how skinny I looked and to “go back to that weight” a time in my life where she told me how much prettier I would be if i just lost weight.
There has never been a time in my life where I was happy in my body. I want to be confident, don’t want to feel the ugliest when I am out with the girls. I am used to being the girl no one notices. I am 20 and have never dated anyone simply because I don’t think anyone can live me in this body. How do I learn to love myself? I keep telling myself that all I need to do is loose weight but I am so miserable with myself. I am afraid no one will ever find me attractive and that I am just meant to be alone.
@Icouldbebetter8923
The first step is letting go of what your mom or others say..
you have seen by the picture incident she will never be satisfied at any weight and cannot remember all the negative she has already spouted......and frankly it is not her business as you are a grown up.
if you feel like you want to do something for yourself .. do it. i did small steps that i had tried a million times because others said did not work .. i did because i wanted to it did work.
if you try to lose weight etc because you are replaying her critical stuff....... it wont work....same for finding a BF or etc... if that is our focus we will fail ...because we think what if we cant and we can sabotage just so we can blame any extra weight or whatever we want to change as the reason.... once you do things for yourself ... self confidence and esteem is the by product it is NOT the other way around IMO...
some people think they cannot start until they have confidence .... but you will not have real confidence until you have even small successes.
