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10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
 February 23rd
...See more Hi everyone, We are excited to announce the "10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event", which is kicking off on Monday, the 19th of February, as part of the International Boost Self-Esteem Month.  For ten days, we will explore self-esteem as a community. There will be daily prompts focusing on the different aspects of self-esteem, encouraging you to share your personal stories, insights, and experiences while learning new techniques and tips from our community. The event is designed to help us all understand the importance of self-esteem, boost our confidence, appreciate our worth, and inspire each other in the process. Are you ready to explore, learn, participate and grow on this self-esteem journey? If so, save the dates and meet us in the Special Events group support room.  Event Details - open to both adult listeners and members: Adults Location: Special Events Room Time: Open 24/7 between 19 Feb - 28 Feb. You can check-in at any time! To show interest in this event and be informed of future events, please fill out this form. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe31pGvZDW8_aa8Cb8ywz4lOCpy4lkS5kekzsFXILwv3QQSjw/viewform]
Introduction + Current fights with my mom is bringing my self-esteem down and I'm back to SH
by Nate715
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more "Every Child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child." -??? Hi. I'm Nate. 13 years old, and you can use all pronouns on me. I'm not feeling the best today, what is the reason for that? Well, from the title lets guess, in a non-sarcastic way.  That's right, you read the title.  Lets begin.  Ever since my uncle had visited us, its been maybe 2 months, I can definitely see a change within her. before my uncle came, she didn't yell nor physically hurt me. guess what shes doing right now? those. shes been going on my phone a lot more too and I feel like its been a weeks worth of how much she scolded me and physically hurt me. worst of all, I swear shes degraded me with some of the things she's said. one of the things she said to me "all because that photo got out, now kids won't want to be friends with you and I understand why. because your nasty." just caught me entirely off guard. the photo shes referring to was an old photo of myself from 2 months ago that was seen by maybe 40 out of 108 kids in my grade, they all forgot about it. she's acting like i'm a shame and an embarrassment, in fact its what she told me when she found out that photo was spread around my grade. it wasn't anyone's fault, nor to the first two people who seen it.  she's never stood with me in this situation, even if it wasn't my fault. and it wasn't.  I found myself doing SH again 3 hours after she'd scolded me in the car on the way to school.
Taking a step forward
by Fearneyyy
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Today was so unbelievably difficult for me to do, emotionally & mentally. Although I recognise & have done for the past month or so that I've been struggling, opening up to a health professional to reveal all that's been weighing me down was something I thought I could never do again. The judgement, the placing into categories, the fear of not knowing what the outcome of their steps were & overall feeling a failure once again. However, I felt heard, understood & now I finally will be starting my journey of CBT which I feel may be long overdue but I'm grateful for any guidance 🙏
Seeking advice
by generousTortoise2961
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello, new to the group and seeking some advice. I struggle with finding worth in myself and often seek validation from others and people pleasing. At the same time I struggle to open up and form new relationships. I really take things said personally. Any advice on how to work through these feelings?
Self esteem update, again. unfortunately.
by Nate715
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more i'm currently having lunch and because my uncle is here, I have to let him eat first, which I don't mind at all. but the slightest things will make him not eat, such as me or my sister asking to get food before him, coughing *near* the food, or arguments when eating. because all I asked was to get my food, he didn't want to eat, I don't know why he does this but it upset my mother and now shes asking him to come eat. all I want is a normal lunch time. all I want is a day where I don't throw my food or drinks out of anger. she proceeded to throw my drink in my face and didn't allow me to put the fork down on the table, I just wanted to eat. I can barely get 2 damn meals in my body without her criticizing everything I say and do. 2 damn meals. not 3, 2. that's all I ask for.  otherwise then, i'm back to stuffing my face with Halloween candy whenever i'm hungry. thanks a lot mom. 
Self-esteem update
by Nate715
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more If you haven't seen my last post, I was very drained and depressed. Currently, I am feeling good today! trying to cut down on Halloween candy though. (I swear i've eaten at least 35 pieces in 2 days! not feeling good about that.)
Bullies in Family
by selfdisciplinedTortoise9069
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more How do you deal with a person who constantly wants to find your faults, belittles you every time he gets a chance and is desperate to prove that you are weak and they are strong? The weirdest part is others have their fair share of flaws and weaknesses but his taunts are only reserved for me (he even went as far as trying to delete my YouTube app off of my phone because my screen time was 2hr 7m long) A lot of people have told me to ignore him but that's also hard as he's constantly at my tail wanting to know where I am and what am I doing. What to do?
Am I ungrateful?
by drzombienoodles
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more My issues is that when people disrespect me (which is everyone all the time) I never stand up for myself. I always just let people be rude and interrupt me or cut me off or ignore me and I never say anything. Then I just let it boil inside me and I get so angry all the time, it’s like the only emotion I feel half the time. I’ve been exploding a lot more lately about little things because I have so many big feelings inside. but my issues also is when I do say something, people get mad at me. For instance, a family friend just cuts me off mid convo and says I’m being too loud and need to quiet down. I get so annoyed when people tell me that. Well I snapped back because it bothered me and then things got awkward. She bought me a bunch of things that weekend so I started feeling guilty and ended up apologizing. But I didn’t apologize because I meant it. I apologized because I felt guilty since she bought me all these things. But I don’t if that makes me a bad person because I apologize out of guilt and not cause I actually feel bad. And now that anger I had before of her telling me to quiet down is still there. That happens all the time, I’m still angry because these people don’t listen and don’t understand. I’m surrounded by A LOT of self involved people who don’t take others feelings into consideration but I feel bad saying that cause they also buy me a ton of things yet disregards all my emotions. Their actions are nice but their attitude hurts. How do I tell people they hurt me without looking ungrateful?
How not to feel disgust when looking at yourself?
by dissyus
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I feel bad when I look at myself, and when I remember how I look from the outside, it becomes even worse, how to overcome this feeling of disgust?
Loneliness
by dynamicMango3348
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I feel alone and unlovable. Most of my family doesn't care much about me. They barely check up on me or talk to me. My anxiety and depression makes it even worse. I always feel excluded, rejected, and isolated from them especially during events. I'm always forgotten about, not included, and an afterthought. I've been feeling intensive loneliness for so long but it's gotten worse the past week. I feel so lost.
I hate my skin tone. Please help.
by resourcefulDay8807
Last post
 Friday
...See more I know this sounds bad- and it probably is. I'm not racist nor am I colorist. I love black skin but I hate it on myself. I was born in a German, African American/Native American household. Half of my family is white or mixed. They say they're black which is true. But they're extremely light, they don't understand my feelings. My mom is one of them, she always talks like she understands and can't seem to understand why I hate my skin tone and she makes me feel bad about it. But she doesn't understand that unfairness I'll be subjected to just because of my skin tone. How many dreams of mine were crushed because of my skin tone. How much harder things will become due to my skin tone. I'm not dark by any means, I'm also considered light skinned. I maybe look like a mix between Cardi and Doja. I have heard so much stuff in my life, tbh, I don't want to explain that part. I also want to cosplay white characters, I know that I can and my skin tone should not judge what I can do, but it does. I know people will judge me. I can't help but hate my skin tone so deeply. My aunts, my mom, my Oma, and my cousin are ALL really light skinned. I've grown up with these people, yet I can't help but want to look the same. I remember being upset when my Oma would tell my cousin how similar they were. My Oma was my world when I was younger so I think that helped start my hate for my skin tone. Ik this is cringey and straight out a book but I used to look at magazines when I was younger and wonder why I wasn't the same tone as my mom or the models. I used to try to scrub my skin off in the shower, hoping it was just dirt. I don't think I've recovered mentally because I still don't like my skin tone. Sometimes I do still with its all just dirt. That if I cut all my skin off, when it grows back I'll be lighter. I know that's not true though. Please don't tell me to get off the internet. These issues have been with me since I was 6-7. I didn't have access to the internet till I was 9. But even then, I only played offline games. I didn't get on social media until COVID started. Which was during the summer before 7th grade. 
i hate myself
by someoneidk468
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more i hate myself, i wish i never existed. i know deep down, people hate me, so do i hate myself now. i wish i could js finish this off once and for all. but look how stupid i am. cant even do that. loser. forgot those friends werent actual friends. forgot dad wasnt actual dad. forgot brother wasnt actual brother. forgot mom wasnt actual mom. forgot everything. how stupid am i. its like im *** lost, wandering around, hitting my head on a *** wall. then moving towards a mirror to call this person a weird, dumb, loser idiot. i wish i never existed i hate myself. i dont wanna continue on how do i explain?
im a loser
by s0cksz
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more (tw) i feel left out all the time  I'm a loser I'm a burden I'm pathetic I'm scared of socializing for *** sake I want friends but then I avoid the ones I already have I feel so left out even on cups cups my one safe place I cant think I cant breathe I cant think because I cant breathe I hate socializing I wish I was homeschooled I wish I could fit in I wish I could be invisible I don't want to be here rn I don't want to be anywhere ***  why is existing so painful and unnecessarily complicated. 
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