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10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
 February 23rd
...See more Hi everyone, We are excited to announce the "10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event", which is kicking off on Monday, the 19th of February, as part of the International Boost Self-Esteem Month.  For ten days, we will explore self-esteem as a community. There will be daily prompts focusing on the different aspects of self-esteem, encouraging you to share your personal stories, insights, and experiences while learning new techniques and tips from our community. The event is designed to help us all understand the importance of self-esteem, boost our confidence, appreciate our worth, and inspire each other in the process. Are you ready to explore, learn, participate and grow on this self-esteem journey? If so, save the dates and meet us in the Special Events group support room.  Event Details - open to both adult listeners and members: Adults Location: Special Events Room Time: Open 24/7 between 19 Feb - 28 Feb. You can check-in at any time! To show interest in this event and be informed of future events, please fill out this form. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe31pGvZDW8_aa8Cb8ywz4lOCpy4lkS5kekzsFXILwv3QQSjw/viewform]
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Self love?
by eikhcom
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more This might be considered counterculture and not really articulated well. Self love is emphasized so much in our modern society. It can be a harmful mindset as it directs our attention to ourselves and lead to selfishness. Which is the mindset that often destroys relationships when both parties are not trying to understand each other and only pushing for their own feelings to be heard. But if both parties are so self centered, how can any issues be resolved? If both parties are so caught up in their own pain, they are causing more pain to others due to their lack of looking outside of themselves. However, when others are causing pain, it’s because they are in pain themselves. It’s all essentially a cycle of pain. And in order to change that, we can break the cycle and pour into the cups of others instead of waiting for someone to pour into our cup. In return, the cycle of pain will (theoretically) end. But, perhaps you may ask the question of how we can pour into the cups of others if our cups are empty? Well, thats what I’m trying to figure out as well. I want to believe that a change of mindset where we believe we have a lot (gratitude), instead of a mindset of having nothing. We can do the “seemingly” impossible thing of filling others cups while having theoretically empty cups of our own. At the end of the day, perhaps I’m just complaining about self centeredness. Or the misuse of “self love”. Perhaps I’m pushing the idea that to fully resolve issue within us. Or more boldly, every problem in the world can be solved by being more selfless. By looking outwards, instead of in.
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Labels and defining your worth
by determinedSea4370
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more I like to use the terms 'writer' and 'artist' to define me, but I feel distant from them now. I used to feel supported in my creative endevours and this helped boost my sense of self and my worth: my friends did art and writing with me, we talked about our art and writing and shared characters and designed universes, my friends would read my stories, I did art and writing in school to the encouragement of teachers, I won art awards in school, I posted to DeviantArt and I was feeling confident and motivated. Since DeviantArt has gone downhill I have stopped posting there, my friends no longer read my stories, my friends no longer care about writing and art or our characters or universes, I am no longer in school, no one gives a *** about what I create or if I create anything at all. I write and draw for no one. I've lost interest in the things I used to be so passionate about because if no one gives a *** about them and no one gives a *** about me, then why bother? Without 'writer' and 'artist' I feel like I have no worth. I feel like a ghost I feel lost I feel abandoned and betrayed. I've tried going to meetups for local artists for months but I can't connect. I feel no passion or meaning in my work. This world feels cruel and miserable and meaningless and I don't know how to build myself back up again when the future for me just seems horribly bleak.
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Hi everyone
by Marylandgirl40
Last post
 21 hours ago
...See more I know everybody is suffering today with this but stay strong focus on the positive and help each other and reach your goals and remember to love your neighbors your friends and family God bless Sincerely Marylandgirl40
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Self-Love
by Heera72
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more We can see everyone preaching self-love and raving about it in any social media we use because I genuinely believe self-love is worth the hype and necessary for a happy and peaceful life. Of course, many things contribute to a happy life, but when we start loving ourselves, we can love everything in front of us. There is a lot of competition in this world, making us compare ourselves to others' lives and forget our needs and values. This is why self-love is essential, as it reminds us that we should be constantly committed to ourselves. We cannot surely live the life of others, and it is a waste of time to look at someone and worry about it. Rather, when we love ourselves and accept ourselves for the way we are, it makes us satisfied from within without giving us the need to please anyone. https://yourmentalhealthpal.com/the-ultimate-guide-on-how-to-love-yourself/
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Hi everyone
by littleSkies20
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I have always struggled with setting boundaries and when I take a stand I feel so guilty for doing it .. it’s seriously affecting my self esteem - does anyone else also feel the same ?
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personal self esteem
by cupidzheart
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more i have a hard time with self-esteem and feeling good about myself at times. any advice?
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Relationship and self love
by compassionateWater8000
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I got to experience the most toxic relationship ever in my entire existence, and it got me doubting myself and thinking little of myself cause this person that i deeply loved and cared for took his time to compare me with someone I don’t even know and also brought me down countless of times made feel I was crazy for reacting to the hurtful things that he does and continually gaslight and manipulate me and it ended. Now I think I have a trauma bond with him and I’m struggling to start feeling like me again
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Relationships and Self-Love
by Heera72
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more At some level, we are trained to place attachments and relationships on a pedestal, and anything that happens to shake it might make us feel like the end of our world. So, it can be very typical to have separation anxiety, but we should know when to get help. Accepting the separation and trying to get through it gradually is very important. The truth is that we cannot or should not take the blame for things that we didn’t do wrong. It is very important to accept things for the way they are, however painful they can be and try to understand if we have done anything wrong at all rather than just blaming ourselves for having failed. I think most of us, from having been thrust upon by certain societal norms and expectations, think ourselves to have failed. That is why it is important to keep ourselves before others no matter the circumstances. It is all good to love and be there for others, but not at the cost of our lives. https://yourmentalhealthpal.com/understanding-separation-anxiety-disorder/
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Embarrasment of past relationships
by oliveWatermelon9763
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Between the ages of 18 and 21 I was humiliated and disrespected men. At the age of 24, men still call me ugly and think less of me. I’m trying my hardest to stop thinking of the past and stop letting they way they’ve treated me determine my worth, but it’s very difficult.
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Building Self-esteem Series: The FAST way
by Hope
Last post
 December 14th
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. Last week we talked about what is self-esteem and what it impacts. We had quite a few responses where people shared how they can benefit from an increase in self-esteem, reflecting on how self-esteem plays a role in the success of people they look up to. You can participate in the post here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfesteem/BuildingSelfesteemseries_2655/BuildingSelfesteemSelfesteemandallthatitimpacts_321258/] This week we will explore one way we can start working on improving our self-esteem. It is the FAST method, rooted in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. What is interesting about this approach is that it allows you to make decisions when faced with everyday choices to ultimately improve your self-esteem by being true to yourself.  FAST Acronym * F is for Fair – Be fair to yourself as well as other people. It’s important to learn that your needs are just as important as someone else’s. This is also about being assertive and learning to speak your truth. * A is for Authentic – Don’t apologize for having an opinion or disagreeing with others. This does not mean you have to be rude to others but you can disagree respectfully.  * S is for Stick to your values -  Don’t compromise or abandon your values trying to please others or conform. * T is for Truthful - Be truthful and don’t make excuses. Be honest and don’t exaggerate or tell little white lies. Here are some more narrowed-down examples/applications: * F (Fairness):  Someone in your group keeps making plans without considering your availability. Speak up! Suggest alternative times or activities that include everyone's preferences. Remember, your needs matter too. * A (Authentic): Don't be afraid to show your true feelings, whether it's sadness, anger, or joy. Bottling up emotions can be unhealthy. If a friend upsets you, you are allowed to express it. If they did something great, you are encouraged to recognize it.  * S (Sticking to values): Spend time working with a cause you care about, like animal welfare or environmental protection. Contributing to something bigger than yourself aligns with your values and builds self-worth. * T (Truthfulness):  If you disagree with someone's idea, be honest and provide constructive feedback. Offer alternative solutions while remaining respectful of their perspective.  You can answer a minimum of two of the following questions or you can answer all! (The instructions apply to everyone who is working towards the braving self badge) * Have you ever encountered a situation where you prioritized someone else's needs over your own? How did it make you feel? What could you have done differently to practice fairness towards yourself? * Describe a situation where you were fully yourself, uninhibited, and genuine. What were the outcomes? How does authenticity impact your sense of self-worth? * Can you think of additional examples of everyday situations where applying FAST principles can strengthen your confidence and relationships? Attention: At the end of the series, there will be a short quiz/form to fill out to avail of the badge and show that you have understood the content of the series and have applied the techniques shared. Over the next few weeks, please note down specific situations where you have applied the FAST method. It can even be a few words! This series is more of a workshop than consuming content, for it to benefit you, you will need to apply the methods/techniques and partake in the exercises.  Note: Due to the nature of some of these prompts, we encourage listeners to switch to a member account to participate in the series to benefit fully. If you prefer your listener account, you are welcome! But please maintain the boundaries expected of a person using a listener account and avoid detailed shares of your personal experiences.  ------------------------- This post is part of the Building Self-esteem series! You can find all the posts of the series linked here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/BuildingSelfesteemSeriesOngoingActive_321259/]
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Building Self-esteem: Self-esteem and all that it impacts!
by Hope
Last post
 December 13th
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you are well. Time for the first post in our building self-esteem series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/General_2530/NewSeriesBuildingSelfesteem_320908]. Today is a bit of an introductory post to the topic, the intent is for you to better understand why working on your self-esteem is so important and how it can hold you back from a better life.  Think of self-esteem as your internal GPS. It helps you navigate life with confidence, knowing you're worthy and capable. It's how you see yourself - your strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between. When your self-esteem is high, you're like a superhero, ready to take on challenges and embrace new experiences. But when it's low, things get rocky. You might feel insecure, doubt yourself, and struggle to reach your full potential. How far can we go with a GPS that is not working well? What does this self-esteem impact? Pretty much everything * Relationships: With strong self-esteem, you attract healthy connections based on mutual respect and appreciation. You also communicate better, set boundaries, and avoid unhealthy attachments. * Mental health: Feeling good about yourself is your shield against negativity. You bounce back from setbacks easier, experience less stress and anxiety, and enjoy a more positive outlook on life. * Motivation and achievement: When you believe in yourself, you tackle goals with gusto. You're less afraid of failure, take risks, and keep striving for success. * Physical health: Self-esteem even influences your physical well-being. You're more likely to make healthy choices about food, exercise, and self-care when you value yourself.  This is all well but how do you know you can benefit from building self-esteem? Some of us already have an idea of where we stand in terms of our self-esteem, others don’t and that is okay. We can look at the symptoms/signs of low self-esteem to check if we may benefit from working on this area of life. I can not put enough emphasis on the fact that we are not trying to label ourselves with low self-esteem as the label is of no use to us, we are here to work on ourselves! This list is here to help you decide if working on your self-esteem can improve the quality of your life. Beyond that, there is little benefit to knowing your level of self-esteem.  Here are the signs of low self-esteem! * Negative self-talk: Tendency to engage in negative self-talk, putting themselves down and focusing on their flaws. They might say things like "I'm not good enough," "I'll never succeed," or "I'm a failure."  * Difficulty accepting compliments: have trouble accepting compliments, brushing them off, or deflecting them. They might believe the compliments are insincere or that they don't deserve them. This may not apply to you if you come from a culture where disregarding compliments is considered a part of humility/humbleness.  * People-pleasing: go to great lengths to please others, even if it means sacrificing their own needs or wants. They might do this because they believe they need to be liked or approved of to be worthy.  * Fear of failure: may be afraid to take risks or try new things because they're afraid of failing. They might avoid challenges or opportunities altogether, believing they're not capable of success.  * Social isolation: may withdraw from social activities and relationships because they don't feel like they belong or that they're not good enough for others.  * Poor self-care: may neglect their physical and emotional health. They might not eat healthy, exercise regularly, or get enough sleep. They may also engage in self-destructive behaviors, such as substance abuse or self-harm. If the list resonates with you. If half or more of it applies to you then this series may be of benefit to you. You can still participate even if you do not relate to any of the above points. It is perfectly okay and even encouraged to participate regardless of your self-esteem level.  Discussion Questions: * Based on the information presented, what aspect of building self-esteem are you most curious about or interested in learning more about?  * Think of someone you admire who is successful in their field (Can be a mentor, actor, influencer, etc) and reflect on how a lack of self-esteem could have impacted their career/success.  * If you could choose one area of your life where you'd like to see the most positive impact from building self-esteem, what would it be and why? You may answer a minimum of two questions or all of the above questions! (The instructions apply to everyone who is working towards the Braving Self badge and intends to partake in the whole series. If that is not you, you can participate however you like!) ------------------------- This post is part of the Building Self-esteem series! You can find all the posts of the series linked here.  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/BuildingSelfesteemSeriesOngoingActive_321259/]
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The Importance of Self- Care
by Heera72
Last post
 December 12th
...See more One of the most important things for a happy and peaceful life is to have good mental health. Mental health is all about caring for ourselves, our emotions, feelings, and everything about ourselves. Self-care becomes essential because of this and proves to enhance us and our lives for the better. It is when we nurture ourselves that we have fulfilling lives. It is not about doing big things but indulging in small acts of kindness and compassion towards yourself. So, taking care of ourselves in every way possible is very important. Indulging or incorporating self-care activities in our daily lives can positively impact our mental health. Remind yourselves that you should be your priority. https://yourmentalhealthpal.com/mental-health-self-care-activities/
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