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10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
 February 23rd, 2024
...See more Hi everyone, We are excited to announce the "10 Day Self-Esteem Exploration Event", which is kicking off on Monday, the 19th of February, as part of the International Boost Self-Esteem Month.  For ten days, we will explore self-esteem as a community. There will be daily prompts focusing on the different aspects of self-esteem, encouraging you to share your personal stories, insights, and experiences while learning new techniques and tips from our community. The event is designed to help us all understand the importance of self-esteem, boost our confidence, appreciate our worth, and inspire each other in the process. Are you ready to explore, learn, participate and grow on this self-esteem journey? If so, save the dates and meet us in the Special Events group support room.  Event Details - open to both adult listeners and members: Adults Location: Special Events Room Time: Open 24/7 between 19 Feb - 28 Feb. You can check-in at any time! To show interest in this event and be informed of future events, please fill out this form. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe31pGvZDW8_aa8Cb8ywz4lOCpy4lkS5kekzsFXILwv3QQSjw/viewform]
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impulsive self-centered impatient extravert but with no friends
by camo303xvp
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more It's okay to be an extravert, no shame in that, after all I get so jealous whenever someone else is really loud and jokes in every sentence. But to be an extravert, especially one with no foresight for the future, yet relatively quiet and with poor social skills that's embarrassing and weird. I want to minimize needs and look as invisible as possible because I personally find that attractive/pretty, yet at the same time if I were given the choice I'd rather be the size of a skyscraper than the size of a can of diet coke? And then I later realised why exactly that is, "simlike" and "sluglike" mean the same thing in the sense that these "non-simlike" people look down on the "sim-like people" in the same way human beings look down on slugs. The truth is so unbearable that even death would be more preferable (providing thingie is indeed the case). If only there were just clones of myself, people that I could actually *** relate to. Maybe that's got something to do with how I find the concept of self-multiplication funny for some unknown reason (identical clones of the exact same person). I feel so lonely yet whenever I try to establish friendships with people I remember from school stalking them on ***/*** idk what to say to them, while away from them I beat myself up for being energised by speaking to them because that's what extraverts are like. But then cringing at myself for doing such a weird autistic thing like that. Hysterical extravert but male and with no friends. What a disgrace. So careless and irresponsible they'll die of self-neglect. So *** hysterical and impulsive (the opposite of how I'd like to be).  I don't like "acting that way sometimes but not all the time". I don't want to act that way at all in the first place. The price you pay for being your anti-self is being happier.  The price you pay for being your ideal self is being sadder. Select one option. I'm jealous of those that deal with feelings of low self-esteem in ways different than I do because it shows they've got better foresight of the consequences than I do. I'm so vulnerable and naive and easy to take advantage of.
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I hate my own personality so much
by camo303xvp
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more so irresponsible, careless, impulsive so hysterical and unable to control their emotions I would rather [d]13 than be a certain way  cries in executive dysfunction cries in allegations from strangers on similar forums of having BPD (evidence = my post history) cries at many MBTI memes, has to install blocking software just so I don't cry my balls off at getting certain results (enneagram is not as nasty to my ego, and is more based than MBTI)
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Self esteem and self wirth
by Badblaze5
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I have had these issues for ad long ad i can remember. I have never felt like I deserved to be loved. It has interfered with every relationship I have ever had and destroyed every one of them. I also feel like I am not worth anything to anyone. Constantly thinking that I'm easily replaceable or able to just be discarded. This comes from being shown that those two things are true over and over again.
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Weight
by Redperson1234
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I am very self conscious about my weight my Ob has screamed at my about it I have been trying to lose weight and I finally lost 20 lbs but I can’t find my self esteem can anybody help
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What is self esteem?
by quietOwl913
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Can I correct my bad habbits with out self hate?
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Helloo :)
by hopefulCupcake1507
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more You are enough! You are amazing person! You worth so much!! Whoever is reading this you got this!
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Someone on another forum accused me of having BPD (and now I feel awful)
by camo303xvp
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more basically someone on Mental health forum randomly accused me of having undiagnosed BPD based off my post history, my day is ruined. Certainly not the first incident, on all my past online accounts on pretty much all websites pretty much everyone I met accused me of being overly hysterical (and it only worsened with time) This is a nightmare as a transgender male that wants to appear more minimal and plain, not over the top. I am so deeply ashamed to be this emotional. I take great pride in being stoic and appearing unflappable. I really do not want to be the kind of person that overreacts to everything and is overly hysterical. Anyway this is what i posted to the other forum: can't do pretty much anything at all without flashbacks from the past pretty much every interaction I have with others will only add onto it doubt doubt doubt doubt doubt doubt doubt i feel like a waste of space hence i dont really like to be described as "interesting", i just wish i was simple and basic and plain, boy/girl next door e.g. [desirable > undesirable ; respectively] monotone > loud, expressive, long-winded faded colours > bright colours monochrome > colour at all simplicity > detail lowkey > over the top withdrawing information > oversharing droopy eyelids with baggy eyes > big wide open eyes i cant open up and make friends with anyone without the type dysphoria e.g. "am I an extravert?" "am I too [insert X trait]?" etc and the crushing feelings of inadequacy when I realise Im not as [insert ideal self] as I thought and others are more ideal self than I am in whatever way but also simultaneously cringing massively at how I do such a thing in the first place, like loads, to the point of imagining really uncomfortable scenarios am i being too sensual/corporal without even realising it? when I speak to people how does my voice sound? withdrawing from others because overly concerned with what others think while simultaneously ashamed of how much I care about what others think...... its like "I want to do drawing/video games/reading just for the image deep down Im the kind of person that would benefit more from *** dancing or yoga but doesnt wanna admit it because it contradicts massively with how they'd rather be" sorta situation its like Im so doubtful and confused that different parts of my mind are pulled tightly in all kinds of tight positions to the point of inertia indecision impulsiveness and just feeling really *** overwhelmed and the fact that when under psychological turmoil in general females tend to ruminate but males tend to distract gives me gender dysphoria for the love of god to just BE pale skin, fluffy curly hair, monotone voice, acne, calm in crisis, either that or appears so stoic and rational but is dying internally, quick-witted, works a menial job, may have journal entries about the 4th dimension or something, video game addiction my personal idea of just utter perfection I would kill to become that kind of person at the same time Im jealous of chavs, whenever I touch grass and I witness the "normal looking people" my age Irl i realise how *** cringe it is of me to "dress weird", to be the only one that wears colorful charity shop clothes or something to smoke cigarettes instead of vapes to have an iPhone 5s instead of iphone 104 ultra pro max built in airpods to use Reddit and wikipedia instead of *** whenever people talk about my sorta personality traits Irl its so vague and superficial. Nothing compared to the real deal, e.g. proper classifications, like cognitype and Ichazo enneagram and that Knowing that the people that actually dont give any *** are like brainrotty fat ugly neckbeards NEETs and that Im one of the many insecure boys all on the big fat looksmaxxing wagon (not necessarily solely physical appearance like in the stereotypical sense but like in general, like about pretty much anything a person could be insecure about so they lie about themselves and distort their image and everything to compensate) reassures me I look at the Youtube comment section of MOTHER by IDLES, someone points out that in this song the guy is screaming with anger authentically because all the other tough angry man songs are so fake and poser-ish "tries hard to appear strong macho aggressive but is actually a ***", *** *** it made me realise how much of a poser I am by listening to June of 44 without realising its "fake" in comparison Brainrot is so ugly, like just compare the look of the cheviot hills (its like the idyllic swiss alps except on my doorstep so I dont have to pay big bucks for travelling abroad) or like a working class apartment block in the suburbs of some North UK city built in the 1950s on a cold cloudy day or something (if not that a British housing estate, considerably obviously way more middle class looking, in the semi-countryside on a sunny enough (pleasantly sunny not like oppressively hot) day in April) or like cute absent-minded sketches doodles of the Moomins or of sheepies with *** "clones of Shrek dancing in white void 10 hours straight" sorta youtube videos. I hate how if i vent to forums like this ill just get really vague responses like dont do much (the same happens Irl) and if i vent to somewhere like youtube only comments ill ever get is weirdos treating me like Im some hysterical woman sex toy or smth Most relatablest songs ever (in terms of lyrics)::: -In The Airplane Over The Sea by Neutral Milk Hotel -Teen Idle by Marina (except in my situation its obviously way more of an inverted/ alternate universe male version) -SAMARITANS by IDLES -There Is A Light That Never Goes Out by the Smiths -Girls and Boys by Viagra Boys -You Used To Hold Me by Scott and Leon -drive it all over me by My *** valentine -Everything Is Embarrassing by Sky Ferreira -Little Trouble Girl by Sonic Youth -Jungle Jim by Rodan -Sincere by MJ Cole (tbh all UK garage songs lyrics are like the same, all about "I love you i wanna date you but please dont mess with me" pretty much. Nowadays thats pretty much the relationship I have with my brother but instead of wanting him to love me its more I want him to validate my identity instead of treating me like Im my *** younger self) -Sam fender songs in general -Pet Shop Boys songs in general
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I feel lost for words.
by tryingtosurvive2024
Last post
 Monday
...See more Whenever I am talking to someone I feel scared.  I feel scared that I might say the wrong thing that will end whatever good is happening.  Lately my fear has gotten so strong that sometimes I'm afraid to even reply back.  My title says, "I feel lost for words."  When I was younger I tried to default to humor, but I don't think most people like my humor.  So my freedom of humor has pretty much disappeared.  Cause I don't want to offend anyone.  I'm just not good enough for conversation, I feel.  I didn't used to feel this way.  But now days I find myself feeling this way all the time.
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Recent progress on my confidence
by utzie
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Hi everyone! I’m utzie, a 17-year-old Japanese girl. I just wanted to share a recent experience that unexpectedly helped me build a lot of confidence/self-esteem. Please don't take this as advice though!! I think it worked for me though, and it really put me in the right mindset.  The thing was that I had been feeling more lonely, ugly, unloved, and single than ever, as literally all of my friends were getting into relationships, and seeing them receive affection & compliments from their partners frequently really got me. The constant comparison I made in my head made me think that I was somehow worth less than my friends.  Then, I seriously got into Japanese male idol groups during school break (I accidentally came across one of their videos on YouTube). As I started watching their performance/live videos, learned their dance moves, and chose my "bias" for each group, I somehow felt better about myself. I initially feared that it was because I was filling in the hole in my heart that came from the lack of real (?) men in my daily life, and that I somehow had a crush on the idols.  However, it soon became clear to me that this new-found feeling of confidence rather came from thinking that I was one of these idols I was watching on the screen (like identifying with one of my biases, if that makes sense). Okay, this may sound bizarre, but bear with me. Making myself believe that I was one of these idols by learning their choreography/songs, watching videos on their channels, etc. made me feel closer to them, and made me believe that I was as talented, good-looking, and loved as they are.  Idols have a large number of really supportive fans, but at the same time, have many haters as well. Nonetheless, it doesn’t change the fact that their performance, or even presence alone can make a certain number of people happy, and make their lives worth living a little bit more. It also doesn’t change the fact that some consider them as incredibly attractive (even if some don’t). I think this applies to normal people like us as well. Just because others around us are living a good life, doesn’t mean that my life is bad. Just because others are attractive, doesn’t mean that I’m ugly to everyone.  This mindset allowed me to feel more confident, and not focus on the “better” things that are happening to my friends around me.  I personally don’t understand this phenomenon (why this worked) completely, but I just wanted to share my findings with y’all. Any experts, please hit me up if you know anything about this! I hope anyone who finds this is able to find peace and confidence in yourself as well! (Also, I’m sorry if my description was very confusing!)
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i stand with my un-s.
by suu1309
Last post
 Saturday
...See more why chase the mirage of a forever fabricated falsehood? where conformity offers the veiled treasure of solitude  why hide behind the charade of a carefully crafted wall? where the fear of the unknown outweighs the beauty of it all, why should i conform to standards that were never my design? unpolished, yes i am, and that is perfectly fine. why run in a pursuit for the world wants you to, just to win a trophy that everyone else has too?  why search for a corner in those worldly occupied rooms?  isn't it okay to be a wildflower in a field of manicured blooms? why should i mold myself in the frame they've intricately designed? unworldly, yes i am, and that is perfectly fine. why always chase the spotlights and fleeting acclaim? a glittery gilded cage for a moth drawn to the flame. why build sand castles on ever-shifting grounds? while the bedrock whispers ,"sing to me your unheard sounds". why should i seek a hall pass to sway when the music chimes? ungainly, yes i am, and that is perfectly fine. why try to build happiness on those fickle trends? those shimmering illusions that always got in them hollow ends why yearn for accolades, however grand they may seem? and base your life on the ephemeral nature of public esteem why should i exchange the rugged landscape for a picture-perfect shrine? uncool, yes i am, and that is perfectly fine. why choose nonchalance and a mask of "cool" disdain? and go on to shackle oneself in expectations' constraining chain why drown the spirit in the clamor of the crowd? the crowd which is a reflection of your laboriously fashioned shroud. why should i pretend to be enlightened, when i'm still trying to define? unbound, yes i am, and that is perfectly fine.
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Be kind to yourself. You deserve it!
by Esha00
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 Saturday
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 Saturday
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