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Teen Safety & Reporting

AriannaPink November 3rd, 2019

Good Sunday morning Teen 7 Cups community I hope you all are having a fantastic start to your day! 😁... For those who dont know me hi its nice to meet you Im @AriannaPink but please feel free to call me Arianna! Im a new addition to the newly offered to teen listeners Teen Safety Team (for more information about our team please feel free to click here), but I also cohost weekly Safety discussions so please feel free to visit me in those as well! πŸ’—... Anyways Im here to teach you guys basically about the appropriate timings, and situations of when/how to post as a teen just trying to protect your right to remain safe so lets go ahead with that!

According to the Pew Research Center about 93% of teens ranging from ages 12-17 go online every single day. They also estimated that 59% out of the 93% of the internet using teen population gets their safety jeopardized by horrible things such as cyber bullying, and speaking to complete strangers theyve never met in person that could potentially be sexual predators. Over half of these victims will never tell a single soul. We at 7 Cups want to change that. We want the internet to be a safe space for our teens especially when it comes to our online platform! Thats why Im here. Im here to teach you guys about when we should report something, why we should report something, why some people avoid reporting something, and lastly how we can report something that occurs in the 7 Cups community. After all these topics are touched on I will be asking you guys a couple of questions to kind of wrap up the whole thread. Keep reading to get this whole thing started!

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Section #1: When should we report something?

#1. If you see someone around that is acting suspicious with a terrorist/trolling like behavior.

#2. If you see someone breaking either the law, or the rules at whatever online platform you both are at.

#3. If you see someone getting abused, solicited, disrespected, or violated.

#4. If you yourself are getting abused, solicited, disrespected, or violated.

#5. If any persons actions just feels wrong to you in general it doesnt matter whether or not youre sure of the situation if something in your gut tells you something is wrong just please say something. Even if youre wrong, and whatever theyre doing is okay thats okay theres amazing people who figure that stuff out for a living! At the end of the day though its just a lot better to say something, and have a situation be completely innocent rather than not say anything, and have someone get either seriously hurt, or be put in danger.

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Section #2: Why should we report something we know is going on even if it doesnt affect us personally?

#1. You could prevent any more laws/rules from being broken.

#2. You can prevent people from being hurt by the same person over, and over again.

#3. You can help admin people/police find people that need to be disciplined.

#4. You can help weed out the bad people from the good on online platforms.

#5. You can feel good about yourself by knowing you made a positive impact on online safety.

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Section #3: Why do people often avoid reporting?

#1. Threats from the offender. Sometimes offenders will threaten victims which can be really scary, and will often scare the victim into silence.

#2. Uncertainties. Sometimes we think that we dont see certain situations correctly which can keep us quiet because were afraid of being wrong or being called crazy.

#3. Fear of rejection. Victims often are so put down from their offenders that theyre terrified to tell because theyre afraid that the person they do open up to will not believe them. Even if it is just a irrational fear in victims eyes its a lot easier to stay quiet rather than say something, and find out.

#4. Not wanting to get involved. Sometimes as bystanders we see a situation where we dont wanna get involved whether it be because were afraid of being hurt as well, or simply the fact of feeling like the situation is not any of our business.

#5. Feeling like we deserve whats happening to us. Offenders can be so talented in the art of manipulation that they can convince their victims that they deserve every single attack that comes their way.

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Section #4: Who can we contact if we feel unsafe/see something inappropriate in the 7 Cups community?

#1. If you see someone acting inappropriate in our group support rooms you can always contact a moderator. If a room does not currently have a moderator you can always contact a on call moderator by either clicking here, or looking for the teen on call moderator form down in the chat room rules specifically rule #22.

#2. If you run into a safety issue, and need help urgently you can always contact our teen community manager Heather (@Heather225). She is very knowledgeable, and will direct you towards which steps need to happen next based on your personal situation.

#3. If you ran into a situation where you had to make a report that screenshots were required the best option would be to email your report, and screenshots to the 7 Cups community at community@7cups.com.

#4. If you notice an account on 7 Cups whether it be members or a listeners have any content that is either inappropriate or against 7 Cups rules in their username, or bio you can report them to someone that is on the Safety Patrol Team that way the account can be flagged, and further evaluated to see what action needs to take place.

#5. For special form information, safety information that wasnt covered here, or just to check out our sub-community please feel free to go to https://www.7cups.com/home/safe7cups/

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Section #5: Concluding Questions

#1. Was there ever a time you felt like you shouldve reported something but didnt? If the answer is yes, and youre comfortable please share the reason why.

#2. In the future (if you had to) would you report someone? Why or why not?

Team Tags: @AriannaPink @beautifulmemory16 @Erica @fluffyUnicorns82 @frostyOcean72 @Heather225 @LexIris @neverendingMermaid74 @RebekahRebel @snailpurple

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Rebekah November 3rd, 2019

@AriannaPink

Wonderful presentation, Arianna!

#1) I have definitely felt like I could have reported something but didn't... but with hindsight. I didn't know what "online grooming" was (this took place on a popular social media platform). If I remembered the account name, I would definitely report it; but I don't, so I can't.

#2) Now this is dependent. My answer would usually be, yes, yes I would report someone/something, if I felt that they were breaking certain rules. But, at the same time, I could choose not to report if I felt threatened, or if I was unsure of the many rules (which is why I take great care in looking at them!).

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AriannaPink OP November 4th, 2019

@RebekahRebel

Thank you very much Rebekah it is much appreciated!!! πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—...

#1. You know obviously as we grow older, and experience life more we learn more that's just a standard. I also believe that being here at 7 Cups especially when working in the Safety & Knowledge Sub-Community we learn so much more about safety than just the average bear so while it's really good that you now know about online grooming, and realize now that was what was going on however long ago I do not blame you for not acting on things back then cause you didn't even know there was anything to act on, and I'm sure if you had even a inkling of feeling like something was wrong you would have told someone! So I don't blame you, and I hope you don't blame yourself either πŸ’—... As of the username situation Rebekah I barely remember usernames from a week ago so I really don't expect you to remember that username from however long ago so please don't beat yourself up over it, cause I know with my entire heart that if you did remember that username you would report even now πŸ™‚...

#2. You know I really can't blame you I mean on one hand yes we clearly understand rules are important, and if someone breaks even just one they should face the consequences. However at the same time if you're unsure of a certain rule maybe you'd prefer to do some more research first (which is totally okay!). Also if you feel your life is genuinely in danger for whatever reason I mean rules are important yes but you have to make sure you're safe as well so I can see why there would be a hesitation there. Luckily we are pretty safe here at 7 Cups so I don't see that second scenario happening often, however this thread does refer to safety in general not just 7 Cups so unfortunately you really do never know...

Thank you for commenting Rebekah if I have not met you directly before it is very nice to meet you, I enjoyed reading your message! πŸ’—...

Sending safe hugs, and good vibes your way!

- @AriannaPink (Arianna) πŸ’—...

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Rebekah November 4th, 2019

@AriannaPink

It was lovely to meet you too, you're awesome and should never doubt it! <3

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AriannaPink OP November 4th, 2019

@RebekahRebel

Aww thank you so much! You

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Heather225 November 3rd, 2019

@AriannaPink

GREAT post Arianna!! πŸ™

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AriannaPink OP November 4th, 2019

@Heather225

Thank you so much Heather!!! 😁...

Sending safe hugs, and good vibes your way!

- @AriannaPink (Arianna) πŸ’—...

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