staying safe on 7cups
The topic of not sharing personal info on 7cups is pretty clear throughout the site for us all to see.. guests members and listeners alike.
While it's no surprise that this rule is broken by some people.. The extent of the emotional damage it can cause is horrendous.
It's becoming more and apparent just how serious this rule break can be.
I understand that friendships are built here and there can be frustrations that those friendships can't be extended to a more social level. But I would like to believe that most of us stick to those rules that are in place.
However, my concern is how often I hear personally from members that they have connected with listeners only to find they are pressured into sharing their personal details.
7 cups is supposed to be safe place to come for those in need of support and for the most part that's exactly what is provided here.
I know that there are a fraction of members/guests who connect with us to satisfy their sexual needs/urges that they may have but we as listeners have guidelines we can follow to handle those chats. But when vulnerable members/guests sign up desperately needing emotional support and are greeted with listeners who are supposed to play a supportive role here, yet are constantly asked for numbers, social media and other details it's a disgrace.
To any member or guest who find themselves in this position then please leave the chat you're in, block and report the listener. No one should be asking you for those details. Not even if they give you the excuses that ...
'they can't type properly so need to video or voice call to help' .. if they cant type properly they can either let you know they will have slow replies or not be available to take chats in the first place.. or
'the 7cups app drain their battery too quickly so they need to use another app to chat on' .. If they aren't able to charge their device then find another listener.. or
'They can provide more support elsewhere and speak freely' .. only certain things are censored in chats on this site. . A wide range of genuine issues can be discussed here without causing any problem with censors etc
These are just a few of the 'reasons' that are given to members in order to get them to share details. I'm sure there are many more.
To those listeners who think it's acceptable to behave in this way I urge to you to stop and think about the position that the member is being put in. You may see it as just being a bit of fun but these are, in many cases vulnerable people who need someone to support them in whatever they are going through. The emotional distress that is caused by a lot of these chats both on here and other platforms is immeasurable.
If the only reason you come here is to satisfy the urges you have, then please go to other sites where you can do as you please without affecting people in need.
I understand that it is maybe a small number of listeners who behave this way but when will enough be enough??
**I may have posted this is the wrong section so please feel free to move it elsewhere
@FreeToFly there's too many listeners who think that being like this is okay. They don't stop and think of the damage this causes. I hope that this thread really deters them from being like this and also that it shows members there ARE good listeners who care
@FreeToFly thank you 
I too wish I could have seen this when I first connected as a guest. Can it not be sent to people for all to see?
@FreeToFly I agree with this very much. Thank you for your time and patience. I hope you have a lovely day and good luck :D
@FreeToFly thank you for this! It's so nice to see that there's someone on here who is passionate about our safety. Thank you
@FreeToFly thank you for this. I left 7 cups for a while because of a listener doing this. I would love to speak to you whenever you're available to please
Hi Everyone 👍🏻 Just Quick reminder to everyone to stay safe on 7 Cups an not give any personal information out. It's for your own safety. Take care 💝
@FreeToFly I guess I found this too late. The damage has already been done
I wish warnings like this were more accessible
@AnxietyQueen23 me too. Hope u r okay x
@AnxietyQueen23 I too was on the receiving end of some of these untoward listeners a few months ago. One in particular had a such an effect on me that I never thought I would be able to move on from it. Please believe me that there are listeners who will help you and if you feel able to report the one who has treated you badly (if you haven't already) please do so. I know it feels terrifying to do it but honestly admin will deal with it for you. This is a safe place for you to be and those few who do make you feel vulnerable and unsafe can be removed. If you haven't spoken to her yet, talk to FreeToFly she helped me loads and put my mind at ease.
I wish you all the best and hope you find some comfort that you deserve ❤
@FreeToFly thanks for this. I must say I'm kinda disappointed that 7 cups of tea don't make this easier to see. It's a good warning to all of us and maybe new members can take notice of all you say here instead of falling victim to these listeners who take advantage like myself and clearly so many others have done.
Those of you who do treat us in this way and think that you're just having a laugh and that no harm is being done, please know that it's wrong. We don't want to be pressured in this way. Many of us have been hurt in so many ways before and come here for help and support not just to be used.
We don't get through our trauma or abuse just to be taken advantage of by people who think they have that power over us because you're a listener and we are just members. We matter too and our feelings matter. By taking advantage and putting pressure on us you have no idea how much progress you are undoing
I'm grateful to the listeners here who actually do care and want to keep us safe ❤
Sometimes it becomes hard to tell the members no, but once you care about you n ur family safety u will then realize how dangerous it can be
@zealousEnergy88 i think the listener who started this thread was referring to listeners who push members for personal details
@FreeToFly great post. Thanks for sharing it with us
