The Devil Loves Destroying Relationships.
I feel like I have seen this happen, over and over again in my life. Sometimes all it takes a little misunderstanding, or a moment of frustration, or anger, at the wrong time, and soon a long lasting friendship can be turned into a pile of garbage. The Bible says we do not wrestle with flesh and blood.
Ephesians 6:12 King James Version
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
I believe that we all hear "voices" in our heads. Some of them are just thoughts, and some of them are from memories. Some of them are from friends. Some are from enemies. We have our own voice too. My point is, there can be a lot going on in our heads. But sometimes I think a devil will wispier to you something negative about someone else. And for some reason you believe it, and it can cause you to react in a way that you shouldn't. It is hard but we must try to listen to truth.
@tryingtosurvive2024
You know that I was raised by Christians, but (that is the reason why) I am not into the Bible. And I imagine 7 Cups is a community of people of various religions, including Muslim, Hindu, Jewish, Tao or Buddhist, or not religious at all.
I believe both psychological and spiritual perspectives on that may be a very complex matter. But my personal belief is that is very dangerous to make any "devil who made it" responsible for our shortcomings or wrongdoings. For me that would be too easy excuse for our making mistakes and taking at least partial responsibility for our actions, what is, I believe, inherent to our growth.
@jacek73 I believe that the Devil does effect people's choices, but not ALL choices. I also don't think it is wise to always blame the Devil for everything. Some people do this I guess.... But personally I don't actually know anyone that has ever said to me: "The devil made me do it."
I set my original post to "Christian". I don't know what that actually does, but hopefully people know that I'm speaking from a Christian perspective.
@tryingtosurvive2024
Thanks for letting me know - I was not aware of the fact there were so detailed subsections in this part of the forum - I just saw your post on the general list of threads.
@jacek73 I hope you can see my screenshot. When you make a post you are given these options.
@tryingtosurvive2024
Yes. I see it, thanks. I knew that new threads may be "tagged" (mine are usually "General"), but I can't see for the moment how those tags can actually influence displaying them.
Coming back to the subject: I've read a very old book about relationships from a Czech or Slovak couple therapist, and he wrote about something he called "a relationship demon". By this "demon" he meant any random factors, that do not depend on either person, but can be trouble-making for a relationship, like e.g. two people are getting together very well, but suddenly they start arguing about small things.
I think that most people need closeness very much, but sometimes it is difficult to manage the fact that your friend, spouse or child is "both you and not you" at the same time (like: "What?! Right now I am hugging someone who loves pickles I really hate?").