Build and Break Your Habits in 4 Steps!
ouiCherie
July 14th, 2021
Hi and welcome back to The Self-Care Lounge.
Ever heard the phrase "Old habits die hard"? Here is why habits die hard.
A tendency or action triggered by a cue consequently creates cravings, thus leading us to respond for a reward. When a pattern repeats many times, accordingly it becomes a habit.
The same pattern uses when we want to break a habit. Avoid/ hide/ eliminate the cue/s to reduce the cravings. When it can not be avoided, concealed, or ignored, distractions are needed to lower the chance to face the cue. Gradually our response to no-clue cravings will fade, and at some point, what was once a reward, lost its power over us. However, to break one habit, we need to build a new preferred one using the same pattern.
Question:
1. What old habit where you have been taking yourself for granted do you want to break?
What is the cue?
What is the craving?
What is the response?
What is the reward?
2. What new habits of self-care, self-love, or self-respect do you want to build?
What will be the cue?
What will be the craving?
What will be the response?
What will be the reward?
3. If you like this Breaking the Habit song, sing along and have fun building a great habit!
Voila.
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Ever heard the phrase "Old habits die hard"? Here is why habits die hard.
A tendency or action triggered by a cue consequently creates cravings, thus leading us to respond for a reward. When a pattern repeats many times, accordingly it becomes a habit.
The same pattern uses when we want to break a habit. Avoid/ hide/ eliminate the cue/s to reduce the cravings. When it can not be avoided, concealed, or ignored, distractions are needed to lower the chance to face the cue. Gradually our response to no-clue cravings will fade, and at some point, what was once a reward, lost its power over us. However, to break one habit, we need to build a new preferred one using the same pattern.
Question:
1. What old habit where you have been taking yourself for granted do you want to break?
What is the cue?
What is the craving?
What is the response?
What is the reward?
2. What new habits of self-care, self-love, or self-respect do you want to build?
What will be the cue?
What will be the craving?
What will be the response?
What will be the reward?
3. If you like this Breaking the Habit song, sing along and have fun building a great habit!
Voila.
Read more: Self-Awareness Activity
RF Taglist:
@00Nyx00 @1funredhead @6Dragonflies @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @aliciabenson35 @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @Anexmos @annabanana1014 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @anupam @Anxiouslylooking @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @aristicspirit @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @Avaboo @AvengingStar2611 @AveryLove @aztiram @beanie @bexo @blackiwi @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breadwinner101 @BrooklynM @brownsuger2194 @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @c9frexs @cadenthequarterback @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @calmtown9817 @caringCreature8571 @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @charmingorange5817 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @communicativeballoon8100 @CompassionateYoshi88 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @corif @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @crzyfoo @curlyhairguy12 @damienboi @dancersoul @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @dayrt67 @decisiveScarf8956 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @dopey @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @frothydog6232 @funnyacres8364 @galactictroubles @generousWriter2778 @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @hairyxsnail @healinghearts0718 @heavenlyHug9328 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestapple2894 @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @hurthurt @Hyacinth22 @ilovecanada @imaginativeneverhappening @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @iwishuwell @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @jwong611 @k87 @KateDoskocilova @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @Kevin2009 @kindhearted0 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @lavenderOrange4849 @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @logybear @Lovelylady18 @lovetracker @Lunaticphilosopher @lyricalangel70 @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @Mared @Margoline @marooncarnation @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MikkyA @mirage06 @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @mushhhu @mustafa @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @nat10 @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @Pandora3796 @parisyano @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @phia7292 @phia7293 @pineapple9o9 @pinktriangle7231 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @rebelwolf33 @red85 @redd @Rednuc270539 @richbich @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @ryha3274 @sadsoul5432 @Saeraleis @Sailor57 @SaimaK @SavoyTruffle20 @SentientiaPoecile @sgtdavis33 @shadx83 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @sophiaclementine @sophiebell0770 @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @stitch2020 @strawberrywillow @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetlife101 @sweetvenny @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thoughtfulsmiles74 @Tiger222 @topkiddo @traniyah @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @w305 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @wendincaring @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WunderfrogWeirdo @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger @zodiacleo2753
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rosebeinghappy18
August 3rd, 2021
@ouiCherie
My one of the oldest habit is keeping a tab on this narcissist online.
My craving is my curiosity and fear that he might try to harm me if I do not try to keep a tab on his next moves.
1 reply
@rosebeinghappy18
Rose, that sounds tough. I kinda know how it feels to some extent. I once felt like I had to watched my back. In your case, you choose a more proactive way, and built a habit. But the bottom line is it comes from fear of a repeat of unpleasant experience when we're not ready. Is it like that?
How are you going to let go the fear, and build a new habit?
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rosebeinghappy18
August 7th, 2021
@ouiCherie
Thank you Cherie for your response. Yes, I do have a fear, that if I do not keep a tab on this narcissist, he might harm me, or at least try to reach me. Yes, my craving is for that reason.
Yes, I need to understand that a new habit is what I require the most.
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