relationship with family and safety
Im having a hard time treating my parents and siblings well I keep on not listening, not being responsible, not answering, not respectful, parent shopping being defiant, issolating myself, and being lazy I work on it for a little while then go back to it and I am good around others but it just keeps happeing it has gone on some months now. I don't know what things I should try to do to work on all these.
@exuberantJet57
It’s tough when you feel stuck in a pattern you’re trying to break, but the fact that you recognize it is a huge step forward. Family relationships can be challenging because they’re so close and constant, making it easier to slip into bad habits. Maybe start by being honest with yourself about why this happens. Is it frustration, feeling misunderstood, or just being overwhelmed?
Small daily efforts can help. For example, try starting the day with a clear intention, like listening more or being present during conversations. When you notice yourself withdrawing or being defiant, pause and reflect. Even telling your family, "I’m trying to be better, but I need time," can open a space for understanding.
You don’t have to change everything at once. Pick one thing to focus on, like answering respectfully, and work on that until it becomes natural. It’s okay to stumble along the way; what matters is that you keep trying. What’s been the hardest part of all this for you?
@dtanushree I am having a hard time with actually doing what someone says and doing it completely. Also being respectful and trying to change behavior and talk about feelings.
@exuberantJet57 thanks for the tips
@exuberantJet57
Understandable my friend. Its not easy I know. Take baby steps. One day at a time 💗 Small changes are fine you don't need to do everything at once. The fact that you want to do something about it will give you the strength to do it too❤️❤️ All the best to you. I'm rooting for you ☺️
@exuberantJet57 maybe it’s just part of growing up, wanting to be your own person. I suspect you don’t want to listen, would rather not have to respond, want things to go your way. But being in a family you sometimes have to override your desires. It’s good that you are trying and are successful for awhile. Someday you’ll be able to make your own decisions but not today. Maybe just acknowledge your situation, “I don’t want to respond, but there are expectations that I do and there are consequences if I don’t.” And, “Someday I can do whatever I choose.” The good news is building the ability to respond when you don’t want to will serve you in the future. Growing up is about learning to regulate our own thoughts, emotions and behavior. It’s a skill so it takes time to learn and re-learn and refine. So don’t be hard on yourself if you fall back into old habits. You will occasionally fail, we all do.
@PineTreeTree thanks for the tips
