Pleaseee helpp me, i am stuckk.
i am F (20yrs) and i am kind of stuck in a relationship. My boyfriend loves me too much. But i am from a family where we can’t date anybody, and my sisters have caught me many times chatting with my bf. They must hate me now. But my family matters more to me. I do not want to disappoint them. I already had a situation in my home where my sister had love marriage and there were alot of problems during that time. And I don’t want to go throught it again. Because i will lose all value in my house. My parents really love me now. But if they hear about it, they will be really upset and I don’t want that.
i told about all this to my bf, but he said he can’t leave me and he won’t be able to live without me. Whatever i say, he doesn’t understand how much it will impact me.
i broke up with him couple of times before bcs he was being kind of toxic. He wouldn’t let me have guy friends, he would doubt me often like if i like someone else, he would be angry if I didn’t text him late night everyday, he would be angry if i spend too much time with my friends and spend less time with him. I got tired of it. He said he will change that behavior. He said he would do anything for me. Evn he changed quite a little bit. But I don’t think he is the one for me evn if says he can give me the world.
i don’t have inner peace these days bcs i am soo stressed out. He won’t let me leave this rltnship. It’s like i am trapped. But i want to leave this for my parents sake and my sake.
but I don’t know how to break up. Bcs when i tried to break up with him before he had a panic attack, he loves me soo much. I don’t know what to doo . I am soo scared and stressed out.
@cinnamonblue77 Hi, I'm Celine :) If you decide that breaking up with him is what you need to do, then you just have to do it, regardless of his reaction. I know it can be difficult to see a loved one going through a tough time, but how he handles the break up isn't something you can control. It isn't something you should feel bad for either because if he truly loves you, he would just want the best for you, and he should respect your decision. Try to explain how you feel and why your different cultural values are affecting the situation. Also, maybe have him explain his side to you so you can put yourself in his shoes to better understand his actions. At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you.
