Why me - What have I done to make them hate me so much!

February 2017 - met up for the 1st time hit it off instantly became the best of friends she was like the sister i never had. (I have siblings but do not have anything to do with them). Her whole family was treat like our brother and sister, aunt and uncle to our boys and we to their children.

September 2018 - youngest started school and I started a new job by February 2019 I'd had a breakdown was so depressed and my anxiety was sky high, i went on antidepressants and went through counselling. Came through the otherside with the same bunch of friends minus the job (bullying - pulling me up in front of work colleagues for small things within my work that I'd done wrong or shouldn't of done after being told to do them). Through counselling also found out that I'd had postnatal depression after having my eldest son in 2012 but as the doctor told me to get on with it basically buried the feelings and did that for my years until something snapped!

March 2020 - Covid Hit also coming off the antidepressants at the same time as being told the nation was on lockdown nothing much changed apart from starting a new job in January.

Fast forward - March 2022 had a miscarriage round best friends house she wasn't there at the time was out at a friends child's birthday party. Went through it with the help of my husband and her's at the time husband. Was the worse time of my life ambulance was called they were really nice and helpful. GP on the other hand were not!

Friend tried to be there for me on the day when she came back hours have the ambulance crew had left after confirming miscarriage plus the Wednesday after it happened and then for roughly 2 weeks I just shut down I didn't want anybody near me not even my partner, I went back to work after having a week off and threw myself into my job to forget.

April 2022 - Grown apart even further had a massive talk with friend who at the time was going through a separation tried to get things back on track but took comfort and emotional support from a male friend instead and we grew further and further apart. Things just went from bad to worse even tho we'd be round her house after school pick up everyday just felt like she wasn't really there and constantly on her phone so we just tried to go along with it and see the kids and spend time with them.

August 2022 - Breakdown of friendship over no idea, her (ex) husband upset me and I walked out of "their" house and stood by the fence outside "their" house for an hour crying my heart out. While everybody was inside celebrating her son's birthday my partner came outside and stood with me for the entire hour just holding me not talking just being there. Within this hour i was uncontrollably crying to the point the tears just kept coming and coming no end in sight. He went back inside to tell them that we were leaving and for our son's to grab their stuff. She got in his face and asked why to which he was like she is upset I'm not going into details but we need to leave, we're talk about it another time. She shouted at him and he shouted back (he is not the sort of person just to stay calm and walk away when somebody gets in his face) basically telling her and my so called friends that none of them came out to see how I was or anything. She then brought up the miscarriage saying that she was there for me and that I pushed her away "when were you there for her" he asked her (he was there he went through it she couldn't be bothered to leave a party to be with me to help me go through the worse thing in my life that she'd been through a few times).

Then she threw accusations at him that we'd spoken to her ex behind her back saying stuff to him that she'd said to us, when my partner asked her what she was talking about she couldn't provide the information and just shouted at him in front of our children to get the fuck out of her house and her life.

September 2022 - Back to school received a text from one of her friends telling me that I should be ashamed of myself for talking to a child and doing what I did, I responded with what have I done that I haven't seen the child that I was meant to of done something to and in response got a thumbs up and then blocked. So I tried to talk to so called friend (now ex friend) about her child to be told that I never spoke to her I saw her on the playground and rolled my eyes at her and ignored her when she tried to come over to say hello. Now I would never intentionally ignore a child especially one that I have treat as a niece for the past 5 years! The thing that hurts the most and made me so angry is that she didn't come to be directly and talk to me face to face she slagged me off behind my back and then I receive a hurtful text from her friend.

To this day 4 weeks later I still don't know why she has turned her back on us and why she has 1 by 1 turned our friends against us. They have all taken her side over something we can't even defend ourselves against as we have no idea what we've done wrong.

Throughout the whole of August up until the eventful day we had tried to make arrangements with her for family days out which were either responded with a we're see if we can afford it or cancelled the day before or on the actual day.

I just feel like she'd made new friends that wouldn't say no to her and would give her the answers she wanted to hear instead of what she needed to hear and that is why she's completely cut us off, it's not just us though that she's hurt. After her shouting at their dad both our boys came out crying their hearts out and saying that she laid into their dad in front of them, my eldest has anxiety issues and can have quite low mood at times and he had an anxious moment on the playground and needed to ask her a question but was scared as he remembered what he'd heard and seen her act like just a few weeks prior.

When you go through the hardest times in life you definitely know who you can and can't rely on. They always say blood is thicker than water, sometimes its not but in this case blood was there when water wasn't!