Struggling in my new relationship

@BriStryker

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

I love him very much and he has done a lot for me and my 2 kids. But he just seems kinda distant.(This could be sometimes he is close, sometimes he is distant, and then it leads you become unsure of how he feels) I dont know if thats just his personality or what. Me and him started dating a little over a year ago and he ghosted me after dating for 5 months and I didnt hear from him for about 2 months. (You didnt mentioned if you two were in a relationship, but 5 months of dating is enough to form a connection and bond with someone, its unfortunate the way he disappeared) I was upset (You have every right to feel the way you do after he disappeared without saying anything) but he ended up reaching back out to me and we hit it off again. He told me a couple of months ago that he ghosted me for another woman. (Okay, something is off here. I can understand if he did this if you two went on 1-3 dates, but 5 months dating is not okay. He started becoming closer to the other woman, perhaps he felt trapped with her, and decided to comeback. This is a red flag) I asked him if he still talks to other women and he told me about one girl that he talks to every now and again. (This is another red flag. I understand you love him, but you can't ignore whats going on here. There's a chance he might do the same thing again) She flirts with him and wants to be with him and he told me he likes the attention. (This is another red flag. This is selfish behavior, he knows how much that girl wants him, but he is choosing to let her keep flirting him because he feels empty and craves attention. He is not man that can give you a healthy relationship) I told him it bothers me because I give him attention (Im glad you stood up for yourself) and I dont know why that isnt enough for him. (Im sure you are doing the best you can. He is looking for the love and attention his parent never gave him, so thats what he is looking for. He has unmet needs from childhood that no one can fill except for himself) I feel like I cant be too upset about him ghosting next since we werent technically together at the time (Things are going "well" between you two, so of course its normal to feel upset if he does the same things again) but it still hurts because I did care for him at that time a lot. I feel like my love for him isnt the same. (Im glad it isn't, he is someone who has a lot issues) He tells me last night that hes got a lot of snaps on Snapchat and my mind wanders in dark places. Please help Im driving myself mad lol. Thank you for reading and offering advice