Starting a relationship that feels really healthy for me
I'm talking to someone at the moment for a while who has been an unexpected happiness and a great surprise because I wasn't thinking a woman like this would even notice who I am and having said that, I've only just asked her out, i take a while to do big things, this is a big thing for me, and I know to wait and see her response, then react, but I feel myself attempting to throw a spanner in my own thoughts. This is the first time in over 8 years I've actually wanted to be around someone who I could allow in, love, create a family with and a life style that is ours alone. We are both interested in similar things and our ideas on the marriage and family are the same.
Thank you for reading this and or responding, allowing me to get this thought out.
- Ink
@InkStainedFingers Hey there. I am glad you found someone that you care about, and I hope things go well with you. Please know that its okay to take your time to decide upon anything and there is absolutely no rush. Taking small steps is a healthy way to move forward. I hope you have a lovely day 
@InkStainedFingers You should be very happy with the situation then. Don't overthink so much and just be yourself. I can relate all of this to my brother in law. He is an unhappy 53 year old, twice divorced, and now has this "girlfriend" or w/e that comes over at like 8 a.m. on Saturdays for like 15 mins. He told me last Saturday that she was asking him to take money out of his retirement so she can get the tranny fixed on her car! You do not want to end up like that. If this woman you are seeing now is wifey material for you, then keep going w/the relationship and see what happens. :)
@TransAm85
Thank you for your reply, my mind is rapid fire sometimes and overthinking is usually what comes of it. Distracting myself and doing what i usually do is helping albeit with this mind of mine it usually just wants to say, can't, no and so on. That has been changing and given a boost since she came in to my life. I know I'm worth her, shes worth me and together, if that's where it goes this will be the best journey to date that I've started, am on and certainly want to continue all the way to the end.
- Ink
@InkStainedFingers Don't be negative. That will bring you down as well as parts of this relationship! Unfortunately there are women out there that use men and/or just attracted to their income/assets and not them as a person, but this does not apply to you. I am just giving an example so that you can see that your girlfriend truly cares for you. Now .. get off this computer or app, however u use this site lol and go spend some time w/her! Btw, you seem to be a very emotional/sensitive man and that is hard to find. She is very lucky. :)
@TransAm85
I didn't intentionally mean to come across in a negative way, it's just how my mind works. Unfortunately we are yet to meet as I met her via a dating site, otherwise I would be with her and not even online because I know how much it means to be present. I often wonder if I'm overly snesitive and emotional at times, and if that scares off the women I talk to.
@InkStainedFingers you don't need to apologize to anyone for being yourself. the right women will love and be blown away by your sensitive nature. Keep going. You are truly doing great. Be unapologetically you- the rest will fall into place when it is meant to. Take care