Reminiscing Old Relationships
As I sit here at the keyboard, thinking about how old I am, and whether I have the possible future of a relationship and family with someone; I find myself thinking about my past and my past relationships. Even though they all ended with very bad circumstances, they all have good memories attached to them. Were they as bad as I thought they were? Could I have done more, been more of what she wanted for her to stay? Maybe if I was a better partner, I would have what so many others have - a loving family.
The constant thinking makes me feel like I really screwed up in my choices of love or my lack of seeing what I had and not "trying harder" to keep them. There isn't a day that goes by that thoughts of my past come back to me and it makes me feel like the person I was meant to be with has already passed me by. Does anyone else ever feel like this? What do I do to move past this? I am not sure it is possible new to make new memories with.
@InexorablyFated
I hear you. Often the *what ifs* and the *I could have* thinking lead to self-blame. But if we want to validate ourselves, that time, that was what made sense to us. That's how we felt and thoughts at that time.
We can learn from the experiences, practice self-forgiveness and self-acceptance.
Perhaps it can help to dig into yourself to find out what you really need in a partner and why.
If you haven't tried it, you're welcome to join any group support here or join Relationship Huddles through sharing you will see many different perspectives that may help 🤍