Relationship

@walnuts8199 It's an experience that many can relate to, and we all have our insecurities. We also all have uniquely, admirable qualities. None of us are perfect, even the people you compare yourself to, and there are things about you that they might be envious of as well. I understand it might be hard to not act out when you have such compelling emotions. Instead of holding it in, can you identify traits inside of yourself that you are glad you have? And what do you think might happen if you talked to him about how you felt and your insecurities?

@walnuts8199 Hello, I hope you are doing better now but I just want to appreciate that you realised and accepted that you have an issue to work because that alone takes immense courage. We as humans are imperfect and comparisons is something that almost everyone does on a daily either consciously or unconsciously I just want you to know that some days will be better than others, some days you'll think you're over that now and other days might feel like you are just consoling yourself and lying to yourself so be patient with yourself, don't be too hard on yourself if you find those thoughts crossing your mind or being envious or comparing yourself to another. Take it day by day. We were all made different and that's what makes us all special. Trust yourself and your love. Learn to love yourself first and then accepting other's love becomes easier. 

@walnuts8199It’s really brave of you to recognize that you're struggling with insecurities and overthinking, and it sounds like you're ready to take steps toward positive change. Acknowledging the problem is a huge first step, and the fact that you're asking for solutions shows you're committed to improving yourself and your relationship. 💜

@walnuts8199

I appreciate you being open about your insecurities—it’s not easy to recognize and admit. Comparing ourselves to others can make us feel unsure, but it’s important to remember that your value isn’t based on anyone else. Working on self-confidence and focusing on the unique strengths you bring to the relationship can help. Maybe start by acknowledging your worth every day, and try to shift your thoughts when you compare yourself. Have you thought about ways to communicate these feelings with your partner? It might help to be open with them too. You’re already on the right path by recognizing the issue!

As a 44 year old guy. I struggle with the same thing. (You would think I would have learned by now). Insecurities are real. I'm married and compare myself to my wife's guy friends all the time. Especially when our relationship is in the toilet at the moment it makes it worse. Jealousy. Obsessing over whether she's cheating on me. It's all real. You are not alone.