Relationship Issue
My boyfriend has depression and it's hard for me to bring up problems because eventually he feels everything is his fault when some are but not everything and I can't really live how I want to because I can't fault him and he likes to start things sometimes and yes in those things I am in the wrong but I'm tired of me being able to take my Blame and me having to just brush over his ..yet I want to help him we've been dating over a year now
@Muffins646
hey there. first of all, thank you so much for sharing and posting about this! you seem like such a caring person :) the fact that you're trying to help him is just so amazing and i'm so stunned by your compassion! great job on that
okay first of all, maybe helping him overcome his depression would help? i'm not sure how or what started it, and as i'm not qualified to give advice, i can only provide suggestions -- i hope that's okay, though! i once read somewhere that the best things to say to someone who has depression would be "i love you", "i care", "you're not alone in this", "i'm not going to leave you", "do you want a hug?", "i'm sorry you're in pain", and "you're important to me". maybe that'd help? other than that, i can only suggest trying to listen to him and perhaps bringing him to 7cups to ease the pain. here are some links too, just in case you need them -- one, two, and three.
secondly, maybe taking some time away sometimes would be beneficial? do some things that you like, take a break, refresh etc. you're really strong and kind, and i'm sure you can get through this! this too will pass, and meanwhile, i hope you receive all the support you need. have a wonderful day!
@Muffins646 first of all it is great that you are staying by his side throughout this hard time. it is hard for most people to stick with a depressed person.
Secondly I would like to say that best solution is to help him get through depression ALSO the same time put some effort on your mental health as well. Because having a depressed person in your life could mostly tire you down. I have experienced it to the point I too started to get depressed. So better to take care of your health as well. If you can't talk to him about the problems tell them to your family or your best friend and lean on them to support and same time give your support to your boyfriend
@usefulJewel19 Very well said!
Sorry for late post but thank you all for your kind words and encouragement! The sad thing is I don't have many friends at least not to talk about something like this.. he is my best friend, but we'll figure it out.