Probably bipolar boyfriend

@Ibelieveinstars Hey, I understand how stressed you must feel from this situation. Please don't feel the need to take my advice to heart, but I do think that staying away for the time being is perfectly acceptable. If you've already tried talking to him and figuring things out together and he's just shut it down or has made no effort into changing, then there is no need to be around that toxicity.

Sending love and support, sparkly kitten

Thank you so much for the kind words.

Yes, I stayed away... still staying away, doing much much better actually. I'm feeling kind of emotionally independent. And he's trying to get back now, regretting his behaviour and everything. But I don't think I'll ever be able to trust him again. So I don't know what is the next step for me, I guess I still need time to figure it out. If he changes for better and I can see it then good. Or else it's an easy choice actually.

Much love to you.

Hi i am facing similar situation may we talk...my name is @CharlotteYangsilin. Hugs and hopes everything would be all right.

@Ibelieveinstars I realise you must be in a really tough time and situation. But trust me you are the best adviser to yourself. Maybe you could try weighing the pros and cons. Also remember to always protect your self respect. But again you are the best adviser to yourself. Hope you will be fine soon.

@Ibelieveinstars

I'm sorry you experienced this, this seems really confusing and stressful for you and you have every right to choose to do what makes you feel at peace. The way he treats you is unfair and you deserve to have your consent taken seriously. It's nice of you to want to help him and be there for him but you should not do it at your own expense. Do what makes you feel best. You got this. Sending love and support from afar <33

Run, don’t walk !! U deserve better girl !!

@Ibelieveinstars 

I Feel Your Situation Is Really Difficult Because Your Relationship Is Old Enough For Complete Attachment With The Person And I Understand That Makes It Even More Difficult For You To Go Through This Situation But I Just Want To Ask That As You Mentioned He Had Done Similar Thing 4 Years Ago Too But Came Back When You Were Sick So Did You Ask Him What Was The Reason For That (Going Away And Ignoring You) ?

But Apart From It In Your Current Situation It Might Be Possible He Is Going Through Some Kind Of Stress (Maybe Financial As You Mention He Couldn't Handle) So Discussing That With Him When He Is In A Good Mood Might Help Both Of You.

As Your Relationship Is Old It Will Be Quite Difficult To Absolutely Cut Him Off Instantly So It Will Be Better For You After The Recent Incident To Maintain Distance With Him And See If He Improves And If Not Than You Are The Best Person To Take The Decision About It As It Will Affect Your Whole Life. And Maintaining Some Distance Will Also Make Your Feel Better And You Will Spend Time With The Most Precious Thing For You And That's Inner You.